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  • An Easy way to keeping your house clean

    That's Me… Cleaning House

    An Easy way to keeping your house clean

    Who loves chores around the house? Because I certainly don’t, but the house needs to be clean and someone’s got to do it. I opted for a maid but my wallet said no, so I have to get into gear and clean the house every week. There are different ways for everyone to keep their house clean, you just have to find the right routine that fits your schedule.

    Some people spread out their cleaning duties throughout the week.
    Monday: Clean your room and furniture
    Tuesday: Clean the office/other rooms and furniture
    Wednesday: Clean the kitchen
    Thursday: Clean the bathrooms
    Friday: Clean the floors
    Saturday: Laundry
    Sunday: RELAX

    Some people say this works, you don’t have to do it all in one day and you spread it out, making time in between all the other stuff we have to do.

    I on the other hand only spread out my cleaning schedule about 2 days.
    Thursday is my cleaning day, I’ve been doing this since I was little, my mom would always want the house cleaned before the weekend, that way you can enjoy your weekend without having to worry to clean or do laundry.
    So Thursday, I clean the entire house after work from head to toe, I make sure that whatever I’m making for dinner Thursday nights is an easy and fast dinner. That way I don’t have to worry about still having to cook after being exhausted from cleaning the house. I start with separating my laundry and I throw the first load in, then I start with the furniture in all the rooms and then I spray the bathroom and leave it to soak, after that I prepare dinner, (don’t want to clean the kitchen before cooking), in between dinner being cooked, I clean the bathrooms and continue with the laundry. After dinner is made, I clean the kitchen (minus the pots and dishes until after serving) and I clean the floors. Once dinner is ready, the house is clean and we are ready to enjoy our dinner. If I am not able to finish laundry Thursday night, I’ll try to finish laundry Friday or Saturday morning. My weekends are free and so is the rest of my week. I do it this way for a few reasons. One – I go to school on-line, work full time, and make dinner every night, I am already tired and having to clean one room a day is exhausting by just thinking about it. Thursdays are my cleaning days, I put the music on and clean away and by the weekend my house is clean, and I feel like I can relax. Having a clean house and uncluttered mess leads to a happier life.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • Don’t EVER Give Up….. Live your Dream

    Don’t allow yourself to Break…. Do something about it…..

    When someone you love is breaking and there isn’t anything you can do about it, it leaves you feeling helpless and useless. It breaks even your heart just to see them breaking. Sometimes I wish I could tell this person to wake up and smell the roses, life is too short to be miserable all the time, why are you choosing to live this way? But are they choosing to live this way? Is it a choice to be blinded by life and the changes we can’t determine in life’s path? When we hold hope to something important to us it sometimes blinds us from the truth. I’ve always said, ’the mind blinds what the heart doesn’t want to feel.’ Or does the heart blind us from what we don’t want to see. As much as we try to protect our hearts, we cannot fight the inevitable. What is meant to be is meant to be, and no matter how many wrong turns we make, you’ll end up just where you are supposed to be. We don’t see why things happen in the moments but we later discover that we had to go through them to be where we are today, to be who we are today. Everyone has regrets, it’s up to us to hold on to them or let them go, because we can’t turn back the clocks, we can’t change time and we can’t change the decisions we have made. The only thing we can do is learn from them, hope that things will get better, that deep down in the hearts of all desires our wishes, our hopes and our dreams will in fact one day come true. If we stay buried in the hopes of all things impossible you will lead a sad life. We have to lift ourselves up, find deep down what it is that will truly make us happy, and go for it. I’m not saying you won’t fail; sometimes we have to fail a few times in order to get to where we want to be. I know I’ve failed more than a few times at more than a few things. I get up and I keep pushing forward. I only hope that whoever is listening right now does the same…. Don’t let the fears of moving forward hold you down, if we don’t try to be happy, if we don’t try to do what we want in life, then we only have ourselves to blame for the sadness and tribulations we keep living over and over again. Because when life gives you lemons, you don’t just throw them away, you make lemonade. For me…. I MAKE A VODKA TONIC

    Live life to the fullest, don’t ever let anyone tell you that you CAN’T succeed and don’t ever lose faith in yourself. If you are scared of being alone, remember that no one is every alone unless they choose to be alone, and life is too short to live not knowing what you want in life, to live unhappy and unsure of yourself, because at the end of the day all we have in life are the few moments that make us look back and smile, the moments in life where you say…. I loved that day, that moment, that minute, that second of my life and today I can truly say that with all the hard times, with all the tribulations I have come across in my life, I am still pushing forward, I am still trying to discover things about myself and I am still dreaming my dreams, and one day…. I’ll be LIVING THEM.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • St. Patrick’s Day 2012 – Ideas on what to do

    St. Patrick’s 2012

    Any plans for St. Patty this year? Each year people get together, they go to the Pub, and they drink green beer and have fun. Corned beef hash, shepherd’s pie, cabbage and Irish beer are essentials for any authentic Irish party. Plan on staying home and having a party, you can make any of those dishes. I personally do not go out and make an authentic Irish meal, but I have thought about what I can make to at least have the color green it. I was ordered from our group’s director to bring scalloped potatoes…. Any way I can make that look IRISH? LOL
    In any event, wearing green is the key essential, and since we might be going in the pool, I’ll have to have a green towel or a green cover up for my bathing suit, if you are reading and you don’t live in Miami, well it’s practically summer here already so bathing suites are in. If you plan on going out there will be an early party at Fred B. Harnett Park in Coral Gables featuring Irish food, musical entertainment, craft vendors, kids activities and a full-service bar, Let the Irish Festival BEGIN! Party later on in the night at John Martin’s on Miracle Mile in the Gables which is always a hot spot, they usually start around 4pm to midnight on Salzedo Street with live music and in the meantime you can have traditional Irish food starting at 11:30AM in the restaurant. There are also other Irish pubs you can get to, there is Playwright Irish Pub & Restaurant which is located in Miami Beach, Finnegans on Ocean Drive, Fado Irish Pub in Mary Brickell Village and much more. You can search for different pubs in your area on Yelp.com – One of my favorite places to look up ratings and close by vicinities. You can do this in any area you are in.

    I would love to hear what festivities are going on in your area…..
    Happy St. Patrick’s everyone….
    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • My daughter teases the boys in school, am I too involved?

    The Question

    Dear Kristin Nicole;

    You had replied to one of my posts in Yahoo. Well…here we go again. My daughter has been doing really good, sports are going good, friends are good however I do notice that she tends to be a loner at times. I know some of her friends are doing things that she is not ready for (sex) which I’m so proud of her. The only thing that worries me is that I notice that she has this pattern with guys that she dates. She has never “made out” with a boy and I’ve told her never to do anything she is not ready for. However, she will like a boy a lot and text them all the time and when they eventually start dating, she pulls herself away. After a couple weeks she will get annoyed with them, say they text too much and want to be around her too much etc. Well once she breaks up with them, she loves being single again hanging with her friends etc but then starts to want a boyfriend again. However it starts all over again. Once they become really close she pulls away. I hate the way she treats these boys and I’ve told her that she needs to stop treating them like that because she will be labeled as a tease. I think she is afraid they will want to make out so she pulls away. And I told her that is perfectly fine but she needs to let him know she’s not ready so they don’t get upset because of her pulling farther and farther apart. This boy she is currently dating is so sweet to her. He cares about her feelings and has no intentions to do the things she is not ready for. but she is starting to pull away again. I feel like I’m in the middle because I have him texting me asking me if she’s ok and her telling me she likes him but is annoying etc. I told her that she always does this and then regrets it later and want them back. Same old routine. My question is, how do I just stay out of it. I told her if she breaks up with him because of that then she will not date until she is 16. Am I wrong for that? My husband thinks I get too involved and I’m sure I do, but I just want her to treat others the way she wants to be treated. It literally drives me in sane. I wish I could just stay out of it, but like you said 2 years ago, maybe I am trying to live my life through hers. How do I change it and just be a mom?

    Thank you,
    Mommy II

    My Response:

    Dear Mommy II;

    I am going to jump to the point on this one. At first I started thinking why your daughter may be acting like this with her boyfriends but once I read your entire question I realized that this is sometimes normal in teenage girls. I used to know a lot of girls who would have boyfriends for a week or two and then break up with them. I definitely would let her know that she should not do anything she is not comfortable with but I also agree that she should not tease them because what you say can be true, they can later start portraying her as the girl who teases the boys. Sometimes kids can be cruel, and she needs to know the consequences that come with that. If the boyfriend is texting you, I would just tell him that you are sorry your daughter is pushing him away but that you really do not know what is going on in her head. Try not to get involved by having boyfriends text you or always trying to tell her not to tease them, maybe she doesn’t know how to really express herself to you. It sounds to me that either she just truly gets bored with the boys (which in time this will pass), or she is scared to kiss the boy and the boy judge her on her kissing, since she has never kissed anyone before. Ask her nicely if she is scared to kiss boys because she is scared of what they will think, and explain to her that there is nothing to be worried or scared about. In the meantime enjoy the fact that she doesn’t want to kiss boys yet, because once she starts you will be worrying about all the other stuff that comes with kissing boys. I know it’s hard to stay out of it, as a mother you want to protect her, but sometimes we need to let them make their own mistakes. I am not a mother so I am not going to try and understand what you are going through, but I have a mother who goes through similar feelings with my sister and I am always there to help and give advice. It’s hard to see your child make mistakes, but making mistakes is what helps us grow. Think back to when you were a teenager, sure we wish certain things turned out differently but in the end, we wouldn’t be who we are or where we are if we didn’t go through what we went through growing up. Be there for her when she needs you to be, but try to not get too involved in telling her what to do. Sometimes teenagers think parents don’t know anything, and so she might be ignoring your advice, not on purpose but just as normal teenagers do.

    Remember that teenagers aren’t the easiest to talk to, but also remember that even though you think she may not be listening, she is… so don’t ever stop worrying about your daughter and don’t ever stop giving her advice, just remember there is a limit to giving advice. There is only so much advice you can give her, in the end she needs to make her own choices and she needs to learn that teasing the boys is not good on her reputation nor is it good for herself esteem. Try to talk to her where you aren’t trying to pry into her business, but where you are just a little concerned for the boys she is dating. She needs to know that she needs to treat others as she would like to be treated. Hopefully this is just a phase, and you will later be worrying about if she is going to have sex or not with her boyfriend haha 😉

    I hope this helps.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • Moral Code

    Moral Code

    There are many reasons why people should live by a moral code. Moral is defined as concerned with the principles of right and wrong behavior and the goodness or badness of human character. As humans we are tempted with good and evil all the time, it is our up bringing and our morals that help us decide whether or not our decisions are for the good or bad. It is natural to sometimes want something we cannot have nor do something in which we have been restricted to do, it is in what we believe in that we choose the right or wrong paths.
    Dr. Kent M. Keith wrote a book about moral and ethic codes. He believed these codes are what we should follow in order to be good. Dr. Keith started with the Do No Harm list. The list consisted of ‘Do not do to others what you would not like them to do to you.’ This saying has been around for year perhaps centuries. I believe this to be true. I believe in Karma and what you do to others can easily come back to you. If we would not like someone to do something to us it is not right to do it to someone else in return. More on the list was, do not lie, do not steal, do not cheat, do not murder etc. The other list was named ‘Do Good’, and this list consisted of, do to others what you would like them to do to you, be honest and fair, be generous, be faithful to your family and friends etc. (Kent M. Keith 2003, 2006).

    There are many moral codes in which we should follow, it does not mean that if you don’t follow them, you are evil or bad, it’s a choice and we all have to make choices in life. Personally I think we grow up learning right from wrong, but some people are not so lucky. Some people grow up thinking, that stealing is the only way to survive in the world, that selling drugs can help put food on the table. If we grow up not truly knowing right from wrong, it is our teachers and our education that should point us in the right direction.

    In life we learn right from wrong and our parents teach us how to respect ourselves, love ourselves and love others in return. We need to learn to respect ourselves and others and love ourselves and others. There are many people who do not learn to respect themselves. If we believe we are garbage we live with garbage, if we believe that we do not deserve love we will not find love. Our thoughts into the universe are so important and we need to learn how to respect and love ourselves. Children are very vulnerable and if they believe that they do not have love and respecting others is not the way to live, they will follow the wrong path.

    It is important to love ourselves and know that we deserve only the best and respect from others in return. As we get older we enter into relationships, and some people enter relationships that can become abusive. If we learn to love and respect ourselves when we see that someone is not loving us or respecting us we will know that it is no good and we will know that we deserve so much better, this will help you find the strength inside yourself to leave the relationship in which is bad for you. If we do not learn to love and respect ourselves you may think that you do not deserve better, and you can fall into an abusive relationship that can lead a life of sadness and misery.
    Everyone lives by a different moral code, codes that we design or a code by which god has given us. It is up to us to believe in what is moral and to believe in the righteous path in which we are supposed to live. Life is hard and it comes with many obstacles in which we need to take, it is only our moral codes that can guide us in the right direction.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    References
    Clark, K., & Poortenga, A. (2003). The story of ethics: Fulfilling our human nature
    The Ten Commandements Bible list – What are the Ten Commandments? (n.a) – Retrived April 30, 2011 from http://www.the-ten-commandments.org/the-ten-commandments.html
    The Universal Moral (2003,2006)) – Retrieved April 30, 2011 from http://www.universalmoralcode.com/

  • Self Esteem

    Self-Esteem

    Self-Esteem has been an issue for many people through out the years. As individuals there are flaws we seek out from our selves that make us feel insecure and unhappy. Some self-esteem issues can cause psychological disorders, from a young age a child who does not experience the opportunity to differentiate themselves, and lack the opportunity to idealize others while taking pride in themselves, may later suffer from a disorder called narcissistic personality, this is a result from self-esteem issues. “The narcissistic personality is characterized by a grandiose and exaggerated sense of self-importance and an exploitive attitude towards others, which serve the function of masking a frail self-concept.” (Corey, 2009). Self-esteem issues can result in problems later on in your personal relationships. The National Association for Self-Esteem web site is very interesting. It gives different concepts and explanations on helping a person to improve their self-esteem.

    What is self-esteem? According to the National Association for Self-Esteem, self-esteem is thought of as a person whom trusts in his or her own being to life affirming, constructive, responsible and trustworthy views. A word many people use trying to describe self-esteem is a feeling of feeling good about yourself, or having positive feelings about oneself. Unfortunately many people suffer from having low self-esteem. Some people have even gone to state that self-esteem is equivalent with egotism, arrogance, conceit, narcissism, a sense of superiority and, a trait leading to violence. People with low self-esteem tend to try to prove themselves to others. They use others for their own gain, to make themselves feel better about their lives. Many people who suffer from the lack of self-esteem lack self confidence in themselves, they have doubts about their worth and acceptability, and usually are reluctant to take risks or expose themselves to failure. Those who suffer from low self-esteem tend to blame others for the lack of shortcomings rather than take responsibility for their own actions.

    Feelings of insecurity can lead to psychological issues, such as discussed earlier like narcissism and other types of disorders like depression. There are ways to try and build your self-esteem, to try and make your life positive and grow from the feelings of insecurities to feelings of self worth and positive attributes. On the website they have a Building Positive Self Esteem section where it has a Self Esteem Lesson Plan Improving Self Esteem in Adults. This plan has a step-by-step plan to help those with low self-esteem. Building self-esteem is building a positive attribute that the person needs to learn how to build inside him or herself. Self-Esteem is not based on the things you have in life, like your house, car, school, relationships, money etc, it is based on how a person feels about themselves. According to the website positive self esteem is meeting life’s challenges and not feeling victimized, taking responsibility for your thoughts, words and actions, and making conscious choices to support and care for yourself.

    Each lesson plan takes you through a journey into learning yourself and accepting yourself. Lesson one is to read about how the brain works, this helps a person learn and recognize behavioral thoughts and patterns; you can change these patterns and habits if you can recognize them. Lesson two, you discover what you believe about yourself and you make the decision on your own to change to a healthy self-esteem. Lesson three is to learn how to meditate and use relaxation techniques to allow your self to experience feeling calm, peaceful, confident, and loving self. Developing meditation practices is one of the most powerful ways a person can find inner peace within themselves, this is important to feel positive about yourself and your life. Lesson four is to learn how to respect, care for and love yourself. You cannot have a healthy self-esteem if you do not have respect for the one person who will take care of you, this person is you. Lesson five is to focus on your choices in life. When a person has low self-esteem you sometimes feel like you have no choice but to do certain things, when you have a healthy self-esteem you learn that you can make whatever choices you have to overcome in life. Lesson six teaches you how to have direction in your life. What you decide in life is up to you. Lesson seven is about visualization. Tapping into your imagination is an important tool into reaching and changing your behavior. Lesson eight teaches you to tap into an invisible energy force, this force includes higher power, spirit, God, universal love, super conscious and intuitive or higher self. Lesson nine summarizes the important components into taking responsibility and overcoming low self-esteem. The last lesson, lesson ten offers an additional lesson plan that some can learn to use in ever day life.

    In life we all have insecurities, we have to learn to not allow them to take over, you cannot allow them to make you feel bad about yourself and have low self-esteem. These techniques can help any type of psychological disorder improve. If person feels depressed due to low self-esteem you need to learn to feel good about yourself, once a person feels better about himself or herself they no longer feel the feelings of depression or narcissism. Boosting your self-esteem is also part of one of the programs they have on the website. Use affirmations to boost your-esteem, they say to carry a saying around with a positive thought about yourself, for example; ‘I am somebody, I love myself, I believe in myself.’ Associate with positive, supportive people. When we surround ourselves with positive people it encourages us to be positive and think good about our selves, if we surround ourselves with negative people it tends to bring you down and only bring negative vibes into your life. Make a list of your past successes, this doesn’t have to only have monumental accomplishments; it can include small victories that you have accomplished throughout your life. The list goes on, stop comparing yourself to others, stop putting yourself down, take advantage of self esteem programs and make a list of your positive qualities. Every morning you should meditate and visualize your day, read inspirational texts and start your day off on a powerful positive start. Communication is key and in like any friendship, relationship or work related aspect it’s important to communicate positively and hang around positive people.
    The National Association for Self Esteem website is a great website to go to if you are feeling insecure about yourself and your life. Self Esteem is important, it determines certain psychological disorders and it can determine how you live your life. Take time to take care of yourself and feel good about yourself. If you do not respect and love yourself it will be very difficult to carry on any type of relationship in your future. Life is never easy, and we are all dealt with negativity in our lives, it is how we believe in ourselves and how we choose the outcomes in our lives that determine our future.

    References

    Corey, G. (2009). Theory and practice of counseling and psychotherapy (8th ed.) Belmont, CA: Thomas Brooks/Cole.
    National Association for Self Esteem (2010). Self-Esteem Booster. Retrieved January 14, 2012 from: http://www.self-esteem-nase.org/booster.php
    National Association for Self Esteem (2010). Self-Esteem Lesson Plan Imporiving Self Esteem in Adults. Retrieved January 14, 2012 from: http://www.self-esteem-nase.org/self-esteem-lesson-plan.php
    National Association for Self Esteem (2010). What is Self-Esteem? Retrieved January 14, 2012 from: http://www.self-esteem-nase.org/what.php

  • You’re my kind of Perfect

    Hello – Anyone out there reading my posts? Sadly no one entered a poem to be featured in today’s post, so I guess I will have to put one of my OLDER Poems…… I wrote this and tweaked it a little to sound a little better. If you are reading… Let me know what you think.

    Random Thoughts…

    Have you ever just realized that the person you are with isn’t perfect, but with all the flaws and all the differences you have you know deep down that this person is for you, that He or She is your kind of Perfect? I grew up and realized that no one is perfect, but that is what makes us all unique, and in the end there is always that one person who fits perfectly together with you. This was dedicated to my boyfriend…

    You’re my kind of Perfect

    When I found you I didn’t know you would be the one
    When you found me we were just having fun
    Then out of nowhere we fell in love.

    I never thought you were perfect but to me you shine that light
    When I’m in the dark you make everything alright.
    When we kissed I felt the summer breeze.
    When our eyes met I knew deep down that now I can finally breathe.

    When I met you I was lost,
    I didn’t think love really existed,
    But I opened up my heart to you,
    I let you see the me no one sees,
    And when you looked at me I knew
    I had to let you in my world,
    Because without you, I just wouldn’t be me.

    Through the years you’ve been my strength
    My best friend through it all
    And even though we aren’t perfect
    You’re my kind of Perfect
    You’re my kind of Love…

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    © Written By: kristin nicole June 2, 2011 Edited: March 2,2012

  • Little Black Box

    Little black box

    When you left I put you in a box
    wrapped you up and left you in the back of my head
    Every now and then you pop up in my mind
    leave me alone
    it just isn’t our time

    You left me so sudden
    it all just went away
    I didn’t have time to cry for you
    so I walked away.

    Everyone leaves one day
    but it just wasn’t your time
    that day in the hospital
    a part of me died.
    Every time someone left a part of me left too
    it’s a wonder I’m still here
    standing here
    writing this to you.

    With tears held back
    I shiver in fear
    because I don’t know who I’ll lose next
    and drown out my tears

    The world is so big
    yet oh so small
    why can’t you just leave when you leave
    why do you linger in my dreams?

    Letting go of pain
    is the hardest thing I’ve had to do
    Living in this world of mine
    I do what I have to do

    Today is another day
    Today I continue to walk
    Today I live my life
    with you in that little black box.

    © ~written by: kristin nicole – March 16, 2011

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • Did you ever think of me?!?

    Did You Ever Think Of ME?

    Did you ever stop and think of me
    Or did you just pretend I never existed?
    Closed that door
    made a lie about how you never loved me anymore
    Left me standing there with my heart on my sleeve
    wondering what I did wrong
    Wondering how I can fix something that didn’t exist.

    I wrote you a letter
    you never wrote back
    later i found out you held it in your sack.
    Why didn’t you say anything to me
    why did you hide who you were
    don’t you know i would have loved you anyway

    Standing there all alone
    I cried
    Wondering why you couldn’t love me
    And with tears in my eyes I pulled out that paper and pen
    started to write all the things you didn’t want to feel
    But I told you the truth
    and the truth always hurts
    look in the mirror and see who you are
    stop hiding
    I’m right here.

    No words can express the pain you caused me
    I think that’s when I started shutting people out
    I started to hide behind a wall
    because behind the wall no one can see
    all the pain you truly caused me.

    I pulled out that paper and pen
    started to write all the things you didn’t want to hear
    But I told you the truth
    and the truth always hurts
    look in the mirror and see who you are
    stop hiding
    I’m right here.

    Now it’s too late
    you’re already gone
    Why couldn’t you see the truth
    that no matter who you were
    I would always love you.
    Why couldn’t you stop hiding?
    I was right here…

    © written by: kristin nicole – February 19, 2010 – Friday

    ~ This was written about someone that used to be in my life. They passed away without ever being able to talk things out. Life is too short, when you feel something let the person you love know because you never know when they’ll be gone. If I haven’t said it enough, I love you!~

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • Are you stupid, blind or just naive?

    Are you stupid, blind or just naive,
    Can’t you see what you are doing
    is going to change everything?

    This isn’t a game,
    There’s people involved
    You can’t pretend it didn’t happen
    You can’t turn back…

    In the midst of light
    I see you
    when I look at you
    I thought I knew you
    Now I look at you
    and I see a stranger
    A person who lies
    A person who schemes
    A person in which today I see
    but tomorrow I flee

    When the world seemed to crumble down
    you shut us out
    When you shed tears of sadness
    You cried alone
    When your heart falls apart
    no one will be around
    because in every moment of sadness you
    pushed the people you loved away.

    Today I open my eyes
    and I SEE that nothing is ever really meant to be

    But with every hope inside
    I come to realize
    that illusions of the heart
    make you blind

    It is not that you are stupid
    blind or naive,
    its that you are a child who just can’t see…

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    © ~Written By: kristin nicole – April 6, 2011 (Wednesday)~