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  • RIP Oz – You will always be my baby!

    I knew how much it hurt to lose a dog before, her name was Tessy. I grew up with her since I was 6-7 years old and I was about 16 when we found out she had cancer and we had to put her to sleep. That was different. This was different.

    Last Picture Taken of Oz RIP
    Last Picture Taken of Oz RIP

    I got Oz when he was only about 2 months old, he was the one dog sleeping close to his mom and I should have known he would be a mama’s boy. I took him home and he cried for hours only until I would lay him on top of me to hear my heart beat would he stop crying. Oz was a terror, I’m not going to lie. He would climb the gate I put up for him in the laundry room, tear up anything in site, he chewed through my A/C cord and I had to replace it with no A/C for a few days, he would pee when he would see you from excitement and he never learned to behave in his kennel, even making a whole big enough to escape, he also escaped from the kennel that had only one hinge, we called him Houdini. But Oz was something special, I am not saying he was cute because he was my dog, but anyone who met Oz just thought he was so handsome. He had a look to him that no other Miniature Dachshund had. He was the most loving dog you would ever meet, when he kissed you he would start crying from all the emotions he had inside, some may say he was neurotic I say he was SPECIAL!

    The worse part of this all is that he had been living with my mom for the past 3 years, and the last year he was 247 with them. I couldn’t keep him with me because I didn’t have a place to take him to and I was looking and searching for a home so I can finally take him with me. The last time I saw him was this past week that I spent with him, and I feel like I didn’t give him enough attention. It feels so unreal that he’s gone so unreal that he was taken from us in such a way. Those who know me know how it happened, but I am choosing not to discuss it on my blog. Just know that no animal should ever have to die the way he did, and although the vets say he didn’t suffer I cry knowing I wasn’t there for him. My mom and my sister had to endure the pain of seeing him and finding him and I feel bad that they were the ones that had to go through that. My sister took care of Oz, and loved him like her own and I am so grateful that he got that love from her, that he was there for her and her for him. I am so sorry Alex that you had to see him that way and that you have to go through such pain, just remember that he loved you and that now he is with Tessy in heaven. I love you and I want to thank you for taking good care of Oz while he was with us. I want to thank my mom too for taking care of him and watching him for me when I couldn’t. I am sorry Mom that you had to see him that way and just know that it was no ones fault. We can all live with the “WHAT IF’S” in life, but it is not going to change that he gone and we cannot blame ourselves for something that we did not know was going to happen.

    I thought I knew pain, but this pain is so much different. Oz wasn’t just a pet or a dog that you had, he was my family, he was my baby. I would tell people did you see my son? And they would look at me like ” you have a kid” and I would show them Oz’s picture. 🙂

    Oz was my baby, he will always be my baby and no one can ever replace you in my heart! I love you papuchi and I will always remember and miss you.

    Precious with Oz
    RIP Oz

    Me and Oz when he was a baby – I’m going to miss you xo

    xo
    kristin nicole

  • Any tips on how to ensure your wife is not “too tired” when we go to bed?

    The Question:

    Any tips on how to ensure your wife is not “too tired” when we go to bed?
    I try to help out but I need to try other ways of ensuring that come bed time we don’t just go to sleep! I think it is true to say I am very keen in bed and perhaps that gets a bit much every night.

    My Response:

    Dear Bed Time;

    Do not wait until you go to bed. If you get home from work and you have kids to take care of, I can understand it may be a little harder to just jump your wife for some fun in bed right after work, if you do not have kids, I say do just that. If you do have kids, then make sure the kids are in bed at a good hour so that you can have mommy and daddy time together and do not wait until you watched some of your TV shows to try and set the mood, go for the win as soon as you get into bed. If you do have kids, I can understand that they take a lot of energy from you so she may not be in the mood every night even if you try to set the mood as soon as she gets into bed, but try to spice things up and be romantic. I can not really tell you what to do because I do not know your wife or your situation but just try to spice things up in the bedroom and do not wait until 11pm at night when you know that is when she usually goes to sleep. Good luck!

    xo
    kristin nicole

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  • Female scared of Marriage…

    The Question:

    I am engaged to my boyfriend but very scared of marriage. I just keep thinking it will change us, we will become distant, and the love will die, or what if we go off each other. I have always felt like this, even in long term relationships, like i feel trapped even though I’m not. My bf is very certain he wants to be with me for the rest of his life. why do i feel this way? and do any other females feel the same, cos I’ve only really heard of men being scared of marriage but it;s the other way round here.

    My Response:

    Dear Fear;

    You are not the only female to feel this way, I know a few that are also scared of the commitment and getting married; however most women that I’ve talked to, that feel this way are usually due to a past experience, either a former relationship or growing up with divorced parents or perhaps parents getting a divorce after 20+ years. Which ever it is, this is something you truly have to be positive about. If you are just scared that things will change, sometimes we just have to face our fears and have faith that things will work out. Marriage is not easy, and of course you are going to fight and things will change, but mostly for the good. You are growing and your family is growing and if you two really love each other there is no reason to not move forward. You have to look deep inside yourself and ask yourself why it is you think you feel trapped, and do not block out the answers that come to mind, those are usually the honest answers but we tend to block them out and be in denial about what is really bothering us. If you love him, you need to stop your fear, think positive and move forward, if there is something else there, you need to really look at it before getting married. Good luck.

    xo
    kristin nicole

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  • Wife’s indecent act again?


    The Question:

    She was caught cheating on me with a married man whom she knew when they were both teenagers. I warned her to stop all contacts with him after she begged for forgiveness and wanted another chance, but recently I found out she email him some of her latest pictures. When I questioned her, she said it was nothing but just a matter of showing him what she did and who her friends are during one of her trainings, and that the other guy was still concerned about her and that they remain as platonic friends and contact each other via Skype occasionally. I know I have no way to control her but what should I do?

    My Response:

    Dear No Control;

    Let me get this straight, your wife cheated on you with another married man, and you took her back? I don’t care if they knew each other in diapers, cheating is wrong on all levels and you should have never taken her back. The trust is obviously gone, and cheating is one of the worst betrayals anyone can take. She betrayed not only your trust, but your marriage and your respect. The fact that she is still staying in touch with this guy shows her no regard for your feelings. You have to make a decision and it is not one someone can answer or someone can do for you. You need to decide if you want to stay in a marriage where the person cheated on you, a marriage where there are lies and no trust or if you want to finally stand up have RESPECT for yourself and get out. You deserve someone who won’t cheat on you and someone who will love you for you.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • My boyfriend is married with 2 kids…

    The Question:

    What would u do if after one year of a relationship with your partner you got to know he is married with 2 kids?

    My Response:

    Dear Lied To;

    After a whole year of lies, and the fact that he has another life and is married with kids, is this really a question or you just want to confirm that what you are thinking is what everyone else is thinking? What would I do??? I would leave him, change my number, email address and tell him to never call me again. I would move on and find a man that is not taken, that is honest with me and is only seeing and loving me. You do not need to be second best, and you do not need to sit back while he enjoys his family and you on the side. If he truly loved you he would have left his wife before having a relationship with you and he would have never lied to you about having another family. Get out now and cut your losses, this is the SIGN that says GET OUT!

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • My husband ignores me, Please help!

    Dear Kristin Nicole;

    The Question:

    I need advice regarding my husband. He is basically a
    good man. The main problem I have with him is his
    ability to be stubborn. Most times when we have a
    disagreement he reacts by ignoring me. I am left with
    feelings of hurt and he simply does not react to me
    and ignores me. This gets to me and I know this is
    why he does it. He needs to understand how it is hurts
    our marriage. I am experiencing a growing disconnection
    from you because of this. I am left angry asking myself
    what gives him the right to treat me this way. Please
    help me on how to better cope with how he is so very
    stubborn. As I said, I could not find a more wonderful
    man and I know this is in contrast to how he is so darn
    stubborn, but it is true he is a good man. I do not
    want to divorce over this but have no idea what to do.
    I have talked to him, pleaded with him and he still
    continues to shun me. I feel this gives him some power
    over me and resent it.

    My Response:

    Dear Has A Stubborn Husband;

    Most men are very stubborn and you are not the only one trying to figure out how to let your guy know that when he ignores you or shuns you out that it is hurting your feelings. Men do not realize that as a women or as a human being we can only take so much neglect and hurt before we start shutting ourselves out of the relationship. From your words I can tell that you truly love your husband and that your only issue is him not realizing how much he is hurting you when he decides to ignore you over an argument. Communication is key to any relationship. Sit down with him and tell him the part you told me “I am experiencing a growing disconnection from you because of this. I am left angry asking myself what gives him the right to treat me this way”. No man has the right to treat us this way, but sometimes they do not really see anything wrong with doing what they do best, and that is being stubborn and not wanting to discuss an argument we may be having with them. If by telling him how you feel does not change there is always the option of counseling. I know this may not seem like a big problem to some people but one of the main reasons for divorce is lack of communication. You have to trust each other and be able to say what you are feeling to each other even if you think it might hurt the other persons feelings. You have to learn to agree to disagree sometimes and we have to learn to say when we might be wrong. Try to be honest again with your husband and go from there, if he still doesn’t listen or change his way you have two options: #1 You kind of already knew he was stubborn when you met him, stick it out and when he ignores you just take a breather and leave him alone for a while, bring it up again in a few minutes or maybe even an hour and make sure to go up to him calmly to discuss and resolve your problem. If the problem isn’t that big, you may want to pick and choose your battles, perhaps you are arguing about little things that just don’t matter. #2 I know you don’t want a divorce but if the both of you can’t work things out and figure out how to communicate then it’s either live like this for the rest of your lives or find a way out. Life is too short to feel unappreciative or feel like he is constantly ignoring you.

    You deserve better than that, and if he truly loves you, the both of you will find a way to work things out. Good luck.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • Does a women like me have any chance…?

    The Question:

    I have been with one man all my life, and I have taken him as the love of my life..but now at the age of 30 I am getting separated from my husband. I am too scared wondering if I will ever find anyone or fall in love again… even after all that happened between us I am getting cold feet; stepping out of my marital home for good, well it’s scary. I will not go into too much details, but there has been anger issues with him and a lack of financial security.
    Now I feel like I will never be able to have the life I wanted; with a nice honest decent guy and have a couple of kids and a calm loving home with no screams or tantrums from a husband. However, I wonder if this will ever happen and I just feel hopeless. (FYI: We have no kids)…

    My Response:

    Dear Chance;

    I am going to start off with you having no kids at the moment with your current husband — THIS IS A GOOD THING! You would always be tied to him weather you liked it or not, and since you have NO KIDS, you can move on with your life and never turn back. It is hard to be on your own, and the older we get we feel more insecure in finding the right guy, but NEVER give up. There are plenty of men out there and you are at the age that most men are more mature and ready to have families. I am sure you will find someone, you just need to have a little faith. First things first, finalize your divorce, no one should have to deal with someone that has anger issues and if he hasn’t figured out how to be financially responsible by now, you are getting out at a perfect time before something worse happens. Life is scary, that is normal to feel the way you are feeling, but don’t get cold feet now, if you aren’t happy, get out, and move forward. It is going to be hard and it is going to be a change since you really only know one man your whole life, but trust me, where there is a will there is a way. Be confident and get your life together, you will see that you made the right decision and eventually you will find that NICE, HONEST, DECENT GUY to have a couple of kids with. You are still young, have faith and stay strong.

    xo
    kristin nicole

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  • How to believe what my husband is telling me?

    The Question:

    I recently found out about my husband texting and talking to two girls and buying gifts for another one. He tells me that he knows these girls from work and they are in contact with him just for networking. Does it make sense to you to network with office people after 10:30 pm, discussing personal things? Maybe I don’t understand that, and that is why I can’t believe him. I want to believe him that these girls are from his work but all the time I am thinking in my mind that when he goes out that he is lieing to me. I don’t want to leave him because I don’t think it will be easier for me to find a man, as I am a very simple person and I can’t flirt like my husband and other girls do. So I have decided to just live with this man instead of being alone. But my problem is how can I make myself to feel like I don’t care what he does, who he talks to and who he is with when he is not at home. Please tell me how I can stop caring for his actions and just believe that this is my life now and it is better then living alone….

    My Response:

    Dear Alone;

    There is such a thing as NETWORKING. Networking involves people outside your work, if you already work with them there is nothing to discuss once you leave the office, let alone text late at night about personal stuff and buy them gifts. You need to be confident in yourself and believe that you can find someone much better than your husband. Never stay in a relationship just because you are comfortable and just because you think you can not find another man. There are plenty of other men out there, you need to have respect for yourself if your husband has no respect for you at all. You cannot just make your feelings go away, you can’t just sit at home pretending you don’t care that he might be out there with other women. Living alone is not a bad thing, maybe you need to live alone for a little in order to find yourself. You are clearly lost, because no women should be cheated on and then have to sit back and watch. If you care it is because you love him, and if he is cheating on you he clearly has no regards for your feelings or your love and you deserve someone who will not cheat on you and be honest with you. Being alone is not the end of the world! Stand up, be strong and have respect for yourself. You deserve so much better. Trust is very important in a relationship and you clearly have lost the trust in your marriage, without trust and without an honest spouse you cannot move forward, and you cannot just pretend that everything is okay. If you have family or friends use them to lean on them during this hard time, if you don’t have family or friends it is going to be harder to move on and move out but you have to be strong for you. Life is too short to live an unhappy life and to live a life that is filled with hate and no love. Love is strong, and I believe that no matter what there is always someone out there for someone.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • Fathers Day Ideas 2010

    Fathers Day is around the corner, do you have anything planned to do with your Dad on Father’s Day? Any gift ideas? If you have any good ideas please share with us….

    What to do…

    This year I’m going to celebrate Father’s Day on Saturday 06/19/10 because my parents are leaving to Sarasota for a week with my brother, his wife and kids. I am not going because I had a planned trip to Louisiana the following week. So on Saturday our plan is to go somewhere and eat something my dad as always loved… BREAKFAST! We will have breakfast, I’ll give him his gift and off they will go to there nice ONE WEEK Vacation on the beach. (Oh life is good). On Father’s Day we will still be spending it with my boyfriends Dad. We aren’t sure yet what we will be doing. I will either cook something at the house, or perhaps they will drive up to where we are to go out to dinner. Thoughts are still in the air. Any good restaurants in Pembroke Pines, FL that you know of, please let me know.

    Gift Ideas:

    So gifts for a dad are always hard, it’s always the same thing. Shirts, Clothes, Watch, DVD, I mean what else can you get your dad??? Depends on the dad I guess, but sometimes it is so hard to get a gift. Lately I have resorted in GIFT CARDS. Okay, okay I know they aren’t personal but they do the job and they can pick out their own gift, something they are sure to like and use. What are you getting your dad this year for Father’s Day?

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • If your BF/Husband didn’t get you a birthday card, would you be upset?

    The Question:

    If your significant other didn’t get you a birthday card, would you be upset?
    If they wished you a happy birthday but no card, would you be upset? He didn’t get me a b-day present because he has paid for some big things recently and I am okay with that, but I at least thought I would get a card. Tell me if I am being childish.

    My Response:

    Dear No Card;

    You have every right to be a little upset. Don’t worry, most guys don’t think a card is a big deal and they just don’t think about getting one. My boyfriend rarely gets me a card for my birthday or anniversary and I have told him before that I love getting cards, because it is the only time he actually writes down the little things he sometimes doesn’t say all the time. Remember though, just because he didn’t get you a card doesn’t mean he doesn’t care. But I understand 100% what you are feeling, and I totally get that since he bought a few things before your birthday that a card ON YOUR BIRTHDAY, would have just been nice or even some roses would have been romantic. MEN sometimes just don’t think about those things, so try not to get too upset. But it’s totally okay to be a little upset
    😉

    xo
    kristin nicole

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