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  • My husband thinks I’m a “MARD”

    The Question:

    Last night, having sex, I was more enthusiastic than usual and my husband said to me “I like it when you’re liking it, not when you’re in a mard” (slang for being a bit moody), yet he says I’m ALWAYS in a mard? Which made me think – does this mean he doesn’t enjoy sex when I’m being ”mardy”? Therefore he rarely enjoys sex? And if that’s the case, why has he never cheated? Or is it that he always enjoys sex, and he just meant that he likes it that I’m enjoying myself? And doesn’t like it that I’m mardy sometimes? Advice please…

    My Response:

    Dear Mard;

    These are all questions you need to be asking your husband. Communication is always the key to a healthy relationship and maybe this is a turning point to having a better sex life with your husband. Just because he said you are a “mard” and you are “always in a mard”, doesn’t necessarily mean he doesn’t enjoy sex with you. I think he was just surprised perhaps of how much you were enjoying sex last night and he was happy about that. Most men really get turned on when they see their wife/girlfriend is enjoying the sex. It boosts their ego in a way, letting them know they are getting and doing the job right! If he hasn’t cheated on you, I would take this as a good sign that he truly loves you. I’m sure he doesn’t like when you are a mard sometimes but I am sure he knew you were like this when he met you and married you, I would just ask him how he feels, and this way you won’t have any of these questions lingering in your mind. If you know you are moody a lot try to figure out why you always feel this way, and change your ways. Life is too short to always be “mardy”. You enjoyed your sex session with your husband last night right? Try to remember and focus on that moment the next time you have sex and realize you are feeling moody, that might change your mood and remind you that there isn’t any reason to feel moody and to enjoy your intimacy with your husband. Enjoy life…Enjoy sex…

    xo
    kristin nicole

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  • BF wants to get one gift, GF doesn’t want it, what to do?!?

    Question #1 from BF:

    What is a good birthday present for my girlfriend? We have been dating for a year. She’s gonna be 40, I’m 43. I wanted to get her a cell phone because hers broke and her budget is tight right now, so I figured that would help her. It’s about $80. I told her that’s what I was thinking of getting for her and I thought she would be excited, but her response was not of that at all. She said she was going to take care of that herself. Any ideas?

    My Response to BOTH:

    Dear BoyFriend;

    You two need to just communicate how you feel. I think that she just wanted something more meaningful, and since she can buy her own cell phone once she gets paid, she rather have something else. I do understand what you are trying to do though, and I do think that it is very thoughtful and personally I wouldn’t mind it as a gift for my birthday if my budget was tight and I had to wait to get paid to get a new cell phone. However, every women is different, and if she wants to pay for her own cell phone, I say let her! Get her something else more romantic or something else she may really like. I think she was thinking more jewelry or something from the heart. Good Luck!


    Question #2 from GF:

    Dear GirlFriend;

    I think it is thoughtful of him to want to get you the cell phone because he’s thinking about you in the way that he knows you are tight on money right now and thought that would be a good gift. Honestly I think for your age you are being a little selfish, I also understand that jewelry (not so expensive) or something more sentimental more personal is always much nicer, but I do not think he is trying to get you the cell phone to try to be cheap or anything like that, it is still an $80 dollar phone. I think that you are both struggling with this, and it is something that should be talked about between the two of you more clearly, I know you said you already told him how you felt, but maybe you need to just word it a bit differently. It’s your birthday and don’t worry so much about the gift, rather then having someone to share it with and enjoy your day!

    By the way…. I do not mean to offend you by calling you selfish, I understand you want a more personal gift, but I do think that your boyfriend is just trying to help and he thought it would be thoughtful and well needed since you said you are tight on money. You need to just tell him how you feel and tell him you just rather prefer a more personal gift rather than the phone but that you appreciate him trying to help. Good luck….

    Happy Early Bday by the, try to enjoy and not worry about your gift so much… 🙂

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • Should a wife be able to loan out the husbands truck while he is gone to work?

    The Question:

    Should a wife be able to loan out the husbands truck while he is gone to work? Truck has been owned by husband for decades long before wife came along, wife is not even on the title or registration! Husband comes home from work and truck is not in garage! Husband flips!

    Then file’s for divorce! Because if he cant trust her with his things while he is away how can he trust her when she is with someone else! That’s what he told her!

    My Response:

    Dear Talk About Over-Reacting;

    So the wife loaned out her husbands car which he doesn’t loan out to anyone and he came home to find his truck missing? I understand him getting upset and angry, and that is understandable but DIVORCE is a big way to go. I am assuming this someone else was a MAN? If this is the case, I still do not think it is in need of a divorce, although I can understand there being a trust issue, personally, I would never lend my boyfriends car to anyone, especially without asking. There needs to be some kind of communication here, and if she is cheating on him, this is a totally different question/story. I think something else is going on here, I really don’t think getting or wanting a divorce is because she lend out his truck to someone?!? When you are married, I understand that certain things are still yours and yours alone, but this is just ridiculous! Talk things out, try to find out why she would just lend the car out, and who this person was, if you really feel you can’t trust her, then perhaps a divorce is the way to go, but if you just overreact with out trying to make things work then perhaps there is something more going on besides lending out your car?
    Good luck

    xo
    kristin nicole

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  • 37 year old virgin, why does it matter?

    The Question:

    I am 37 never had a girlfriend and only made out 3 times, all while drunk in my life. I had a bad childhood and that caused me to not talk to women and ignore them. I was never really social in the first place, but a lot less with women. Is it bad that I am a loner for life? I am not afraid that I will be dying alone, but people look at me like I am crazy when casually talking about relationships and I say I have never had a girlfriend or had sex. Is it that bad or unbelievable that they would react in such an exaggerated way?? I mean its not like I don’t have sexual feelings, I have a few pocket ******* and masturbate a lot, so not like I have no sexual feelings.

    My Response:

    Dear 37 Year Old Virgin;

    It is not that there is something wrong, it is that society tells us that by a certain age we have sex, and that by a certain age we get married and have kids. If you want to be alone and never be in a relationship that is totally 100% your choice, but if you are only saying this or choosing to be alone because you feel that you will never get anyone that is a totally different story. You are 37 years old and you have only kissed 3 girls in your entire life and only while drunk. Why do you think you have only tried kissing these girls but only while you were drunk? Perhaps the alcohol gave you a little push, made you feel more confident in yourself. Having a bad childhood ( I do not know what happened) can definitely cause someone to not know how to talk to woman or be afraid of being in a relationship. Love can be messy and sad and complicated, but love can be the best thing that can ever happen to you. So truly ask yourself, are you NOT in a relationship because you truly choose it, and because you really just want to be alone for the rest of your life, without ever experiencing a touch of another person??? Or do you think about being with a women, having that love, and wanting to share your life with someone??? You are 37 years old, this is the time to make that decision. Be confident about yourself, sure you may get turned down a lot, but there is always someone out there for someone. You can always try on-line dating chats or having a friend try and get you on a date. If you truly choose to be alone, then good for you! Do what makes you happy and don’t worry so much about what other people tell you or what they say. Society isn’t always right you know?!?

    xo
    kristin nicole

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    PS. The picture above is not the person who asked this question, it is a random photo found on google images.

  • How to deal with an alcoholic mother?

    The Question:

    I am 30 , and my mother and I always had issues. I cannot tell her anything because it will always be my fault (like the separation form me and my husband) I moved back for a few months and then worked on my marriage again.)..She says the meanest things (I wish I never had you, your such a waste, just cause I am your mother does not mean I have to love you, if you date someone else I will punch you in the face..and on and on and on) I have stopped telling her details or anything because she is just an mean and very spiteful. I guess she figured out I was coming back (through my brothers) and she called me and told me I am not welcome in her home and so on (I already found an apartment elsewhere for the 1st of July, ) But I have never done anything for her to treat me like this..My father and I always had a good relationship (he died last year) and she always says such mean things about him too (he stayed married to her and they lived together. I still don’t know how he did it.) She drinks mornings and night…it is horrible…I know I am 30 and I should be over this, why can I not just forget her and why does what she says still bother me??
    She said she had a hard life so she can have as many drinks as she likes (its her excuses after I told her about her drinking)…any adivce? I have 2 brothers and she is never like this to them..ever?
    I live about 2 hours away from her…Please Help.

    My Response:

    Dear Emotionally Abused;

    I do not know what you are going through, but I have had friends who have been adopted, I have had friends that their mothers aren’t there, etc. I know that just because she is your blood mother doesn’t mean she is a good mother, and everything you just said is abusive. You have an emotional abusive relationship with your mother and your mother is an alcoholic. She needs help!!! My friend who was adopted her real mother was an alcoholic and drug user, and her adopted mom, took her in when she was a baby, this woman (not blood related) as been the most wonderful mother she could have ever asked for. You do NOT need to be blood related to be a mother. You said she doesn’t treat your brothers this way, do they ever try to help her go to AA or help the relationship you two have? Maybe if she listens to them, they can get her to get the help she needs. I am sorry about your father, it is never easy loosing someone you are close to. I do not know how your father stayed with her for so many years either, but I do not know the entire story either. However, if your relationship with your mother has always been abusive, then you need to get help, you need a way to forgive her for all the bad things she tells you. You have to know that what she tells you isn’t true, that you are a good person and that you deserve better than this. If your mother doesn’t want to get help and she continues to bad mouth you, you have to make a choice. I am not saying it is going to be easy but you need to choose to either stay in your mothers life and take the abuse or stay away. I know it isn’t easy and this isn’t something anyone should have to choose but if she is emotionally abusing you, it isn’t worth your life! You deserve better, you deserve for a mother to be proud of you and be there for you. You are 30 years old and it is time to stand up and make a choice. Live your life, and find a way to forgive and move on.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • Horny but my wife isn’t giving it up

    The Question:

    What do you do when you are really horny and desperate for intimate communication?

    My Response:

    Dear Horn Ball;

    Well it depends on your girlfriend/wife. If you want to be intimate with your wife communication is always key. Do not ever feel afraid to say what you feel, even if you think it will sound funny or embarrassing. If you cannot be honest with the one person you are being the most vulnerable with, the most intimate with then who can you be honest with? Spice things up in the bedroom, maybe have someone take care of the kids (if you have kids) and go away for the weekend or even just one night. Rent a hotel room, set the room up to be romantic, have a few drinks to loosen up and go for it! Tell her what you want, when, how and where, if she is too shy to do so, ask her what she wants you to do first, and go from there. Make her feel comfortable, and start talking! Every woman has a fantasy, try to find out what hers is first, then perhaps she will repay you by building up your fantasy. If you are horny on the spot just grab her and kiss her passionately, that should get her in the mood. Desperate?? Horny??? The only thing you can do is talk to your wife, or just stop talking and go for it! If talking is what you want in the bed, then while you are “doing” it then talk (say what you want her to hear), and ask her to tell you stuff in return, if she’s too shy, try being the aggressor maybe Telling her instead of asking her will turn her on more. If that doesn’t work find out what does. Talking and feeling that passion between each other is a sure key in helping spice things up in the bedroom. Don’t be shy!!!

    Good luck!

    xo
    kristin nicole

  • Im 15 years old thinking of killing myself…

    The Question:

    I’m 15 years old thinking of killing myself because my ex broke up with me, advice? We were really really good friends and I made the move of telling him that I liked him (which I think was a mistake!) he said he wanted to be with me forever and I wanted to be with him forever! I still do. He broke up with me, and I cried like crazy! Then I see him at school and he was being really nice to me and he asked me to get back with him and he apologized and said it would never happen again . Well he did it again that same week, and that just really hurt me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Now I think of him everyday! I just really need love! I feel so empty!! I JUST WANT TO ****** DIE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Please help….

    My Response:

    Dear Sadness;

    Your first love is the hardest to ever get over. I remember the first time my heart broke, it felt like a glass shattering into a million pieces, I felt like I would never feel happy again, like my world was crashing down on me and there was no where to run. Once you stop for a second and you really think about how your relationship was, if he every truly cared about you to do something like this, you start to realize that maybe things just weren’t meant to be. I am not saying the pain will just go away, but you are only 15. At 15 we feel like our world will fall apart because that boy doesn’t love us anymore, but the truth is, our world stays in intact, our world keeps moving and eventually so do we. You have to be strong, and maybe you should talk to him and ask him why he keeps breaking up with you? Sometimes boys, especially at that age, do not know how to express themselves as well as we would like them to, but ask him anyway, why he is breaking up with you. At least this way you can at least have piece of mind and move on. You deserve better but a true friend, a person who truly loves you wouldn’t hurt you. You are still so very young, and trust me there are so many other boys out there for you. You might get hurt again and you may hurt a boys heart one day, but that is part of life, that is what makes us who we are and that is what makes us stronger to live our lives. Don’t ever feel like you want to die for a man, trust me they aren’t worth it. Love is beautiful and when you find that right love you will know it’s there forever. Stay strong, hang out with your friends and get your mind off him, but know that you are better than that and dieing will only cause more pain to your family and friends that love you so very much. Dieing is only an easy way out of not feeling pain, we all have to feel pain so that we can become better and make the same mistakes of the past. Have confidence in yourself and self respect to not go back out with him. Ever heard that saying “Hurt me once shame on you, hurt me twice shame on Me”. It’s true, you have the power to decide, you have the power to move on and find someone who will respect you and love you for you.

    Remember life is hard, but I promise, it doesn’t always feel that way.

    xo
    kristin nicole

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  • My boyfriend is a marine, and wants to annul a marriage

    The Question:

    Would he get sent to jail for this? He’s only a Lance Corporal and tells me that he could get into big trouble if he annuls or divorces and wants to separate from his wife… but he wants to to marry me instead. We live in California and he goes to Camp Pendleton. Can Someone help me please? They got married last Thursday, less than a week ago, and from what I researched, nothing happens between the marines and him because annulment is a civil matter. I don’t know what to believe.

    My Response:

    Dear Pendleton;

    NO he will not get in trouble. I have known many marines and many who went to Camp Pendleton who married, divorced, separated etc. he just got married on Thursday with this girl and already wants an annulment, I am not understanding how he is already your boyfriend, yet just got married on Thursday and already wants an annulment and wants to marry you. Something about this story just isn’t right…. You need to open your eyes and get out of this relationship ASAP! His rank has nothing to do with anything, I would make sure what his true reasons for not wanting to divorce her is. The only way he can get in trouble is if they find out he cheated on his wife, I do not know if he was still with her when you got together (I don’t see how he wasn’t considering they were just married less than a week ago) or if you got together after they were separated. I know it’s hard to hear but it’s possible that they are still together and he is lying to you. (This is me saying it in a nice way), Let him take care of his issues and if you are meant to be, he’ll come back, if not you deserve someone who isn’t already taken. Find the truth now before you waste more of your time. Bluntly — Leave the looser and find a real man, someone who doesn’t go around cheating and marrying women and divorcing them in less than a week. Good luck!

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • My wife and I only have sex once a month or so…

    The Question:

    My wife and I only have sex once a month or so…..?
    But I need to have an orgasm 2-3 times a week……..I am getting very frustrated but she refuses to talk. Just lately I am getting tempted to find an alternative solution…But I don’t want to have an affair……Has anyone managed to solve a similar problem…(a partner who isn’t very interested in sex/sexuality and can’t talk about personal things!). By the way, she refuses counseling (before you say ‘Relate’!!).

    My Response:

    Dear Frustrated;

    The other alternative is always playing with yourself. I understand it still isn’t the same, but it definitely beats cheating on your wife. You need to communicate with her, see why she isn’t wanting to have sex but only once a month. Maybe she is really stressed out about something, or something deeper is lying in the reasons for not wanting to be intimate with her husband. Nip this now though, I am assuming you guys aren’t that old to already be giving up on sex. Try to spice things up and make things romantic, maybe this will get her in the mood. I understand being tired, or not being in the mood, but ONCE A MONTH! That is unacceptable, sex with your husband or boyfriend is very important, it is a big part of a relationship, and if you aren’t happy, this is something she needs to understand. You said she doesn’t want counseling, maybe you need to wake her up by telling her how you feel, that you feel like finding other alternatives, I know it’s harsh but why wouldn’t she want to be intimate with her husband a little more than just once a month? Talk to her again, and try to spice up the love life, maybe that will help a little. Good luck!

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • Memorial Weekend 2010


    Memorial Weekend 2010

    Memorial Day: Memorial Day is a United States federal holiday observed on the last Monday of May. Formerly known as Decoration Day, it commemorates U.S. men and women who died while in the military service. First enacted to honor Union soldiers of the American Civil War (it is celebrated near the day of reunification after the Civil War), it was expanded after World War I.

    Any Plans?!?

    Any plans set up for Memorial weekend? Any good ideas you want to share? Let me know, recipes and more, I would love to see them and share them with others.

    In Miami people usually head to the beach, BBQ, eat and drink, which is pretty much any other weekend in MIAMI 🙂

    My plans:

    We have two parties to attend actually. My cousins boyfriends house in Ft. Lauderdale, with a pool, catered food, and drinks, what more can you ask for. That will start around 12pm and around 4pm we will be heading out to our friends house in Cutler Bay, where we will then continue to party in the pool, eat and drink some more, may not sound like all crazy fun to you, but you do not know the people we hang out with. I can not wait!!

    Some people make a whole trip out of it, maybe perhaps to go up to the Keys for the whole weekend, or somewhere else to have some fun. This year, I’m staying in….except for Sunday of course, which is when we are celebrating Memorial Day.

    Tell me all about your plans I would love to hear them!!!

    MEMORIAL DAY – some people do not really realize what it meant, which I left a small description in the beginning. I found this poem that I would love to share with you all.

    Memorial Day

    As we stand here looking
    At the flags upon these graves
    Know these flags represent
    A few of the true American brave

    They fought for their Country
    As man has through all of time
    Except that these soldiers lying here
    Fought for your country and mine

    As we all are gathered here
    To pay them our respect
    Let’s pass this word to others
    It’s what they would expect

    I’m sure that they would do it
    If it were me or you
    To show we did not die in vein
    But for the red, white and blue.

    Let’s pass on to our children
    And to those who never knew
    What these soldiers died for
    It’s the least we can do

    Let’s not forget their families
    Great pain they had to bear
    Losing a son, father or husband
    They need to know we still care

    No matter which war was fought
    On the day that they died
    I stand here looking at these flags
    Filled with American pride.

    So as the bugler plays out Taps
    With its sweet and eerie sound
    Pray for these soldiers lying here
    In this sacred, hallowed ground.

    Take home with you a sense of pride
    You were here Memorial Day.
    Celebrating the way Americans should
    On this solemnest of days.

    –© 1999 by Michelle Keim,
    Commander of Royersford VFW Post 6341 in PA.–

    You can see the poem Here

    xo,
    kristin nicole