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  • Advice Column: Is my Uncle cheating on my Auntie?

    Advice Column: Is my Uncle cheating on my Auntie?

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     Advice Column: Is my Uncle cheating on my Auntie?

    I was playing hide and seek with my cousin and hiding behind a sofa when my uncle came to sit down not knowing I was there. He took his phone out and started texting someone. I could only see a little bit of the text and I saw words such as GIRLFRIEND and GORGEOUS. When my cousin suddenly walked in the room he quickly hid his phone. Please help! What should I do?

    Additional Details:
    I’m 14 and was made to play hide and seek with my 4 year old cousin by parents….

    (Edited)

    My Response:

    Dear Hide & Seek;

    This is a hard position to be in, but you don’t necessarily know he is cheating on your aunt and you do not want to stir up problems if there really isn’t any. This is between your aunt and uncle and I would just leave it alone. If you feel that you can’t hold it in and it is really bothering you then talk to your parents about what you saw. Then let them take it from there. You are too young to be worrying about stuff like this. Good luck!

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Answers.Yahoo.com (2011)

  • Advice Column: Son-In-Law pleasing…

    The Question: Son-In-Law pleasing…

    I saw my son in law pleasing himself, he didn’t see me but I did stare and wonder how can my daughter be unhappy with this guy when it is so big. I looked at him for a while because he was so large. My daughter should be grateful she has a big man. Why isn’t she happy?

    My Response:

    Let me start off with EWE! You actually stared for a while, while he was pleasing himself? That is just wrong on all levels considering this is your daughters husband. Lets start off with that is wrong, and you should maybe knock before entering somewhere, or simply tell your son in law that he needs to be careful when and where he does his deeds. As for you daughter, being grateful that her man is so big and why isn’t she happy??? REALLY??? Perhaps it has nothing to do with the size of his package and more to do with how he treats your daughter. Maybe you should be more concerned about why she isn’t happy than assuming it’s because her husband has a nice package. The package only makes a women happy in one department, after that it takes more than just the package to keep you happy (as a woman I would think that you would understand this). It also just isn’t about the size of the package, the package could be large but if the man doesn’t know how to use it right, then what’s the use?!?

    I am not sure if you live with your daughter but maybe her husband and her need some privacy. Try being there for your daughter instead of wondering why she isn’t happy just because her man is well endowed.

    Good luck

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Answers.Yahoo.com (2010)

  • Advice Column: I think my brother’s gay

    Advice Column: I think my brother is gay. Image found on flickr.com
    Advice Column: I think my brother is gay. Image found on flickr.com

    Advice Column: I think my brother’s gay….

    I think my little brother is gay. Should I tell my parents?

    My Response:

    Dear Sibling;

    Do you have proof that your brother is gay? Maybe you should talk to your brother first before assuming that he is gay. It’s also your brother’s decision to make whether or not he wants to tell your parents. That is, if he is gay.

    xo,

    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Yahoo.com

  • Advice Column: Sleeping with a married man

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    The Question: 

    I was sleeping with a married man.  I told his wife, and at first she was super nice with me. Then a few weeks later she turned on me. I forwarded her all the emails, text messages and she was so thankful. Then out of the blue started snapping at me. She now blocked me from everything. Her and her husband deserve each other. I should have never gotten involved in this craziness.

    My Response:

    Dear Other Woman;

    Do not let this bother you so much. You did what you think was right, and you thought she would be grateful that you told her the truth about her husband. You have to understand that maybe she’s grateful in a way for you telling her that her husband was cheating, but at the end of the day when she started reading all the texts, and emails and realizing that her husband betrayed her with another women, and that YOU ARE THE OTHER WOMAN. No matter what, at the end of the day you are that one person that made her world fall apart. I am not sure why you decided to tell his wife about your affair, did you know he was married when you started having a relationship with this man? If you knew he was married, then it was wrong on your part on all levels, (and telling his wife about the two of you was more likely a way to get back at him for him not leaving his wife); if you did not know he was married and it was just as much as a shock to you as it was to his wife that he was cheating, then you did what you thought was right and now you just have to move on. Don’t let her being upset at you get you upset, it’s natural for her to be angry at you, even if you told her the truth about her lying, cheating husband. Move on, and find yourself a real man, one that isn’t married.

    xo
    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Yahoo.com 2010

  • Advice Column: I was molested when I was younger

    Dear Kristin Nicole;

    The Question: I was molested when I was younger. I don’t think I will ever find love, get married or have kids. Where do I go from here?

    I was molested when I was 11 and 12, and I was bullied by most of the kids in school all through junior high and high school. Because of this, I’m not a confident person. I’ve never dated anyone, I don’t like being touched, and I don’t see how anyone could love me anyway. How do you tell someone in one breath that you never dated and the next that you aren’t a virgin? I’ve gone to psychologists, but I feel like they are a waste of money. I’m now 32, and I’ve accepted that I’m going to be alone the rest of my life. But, I’m afraid that I’m going to become this bitter old woman who makes everyone in her life miserable. I already have days that I feel bitter about it. How do I keep from becoming bitter and miserable? I know everyone has trials they have to go through, but I don’t understand why I had to go through these particular trials. They say that your life is what you make of it, but it’s not so easy to be happy and outgoing when you spent years of your life being told you are worthless and ugly and stupid and just not worth the time of day. I have tried to change myself, but it didn’t help. I still have that voice in the back of my head telling me I’m worthless. So I just exist. And what’s the point of life if you just exist? Now don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t kill myself. I have my faith, it took me years to find it, and I don’t believe in committing suicide, but it doesn’t keep me from questioning the point of my existence.  Really, what is the point? I used to have dreams of getting married and having kids, and I don’t have those anymore. I gave up dreaming of things long ago, because it hurts too much, and I’m tired of being disappointed. Where do I go from here?

    My Response:

    Dear Hard Life;

    I am so sorry for what you have been through. I can’t imagine having gone through what you did and surviving it. I don’t think you give yourself enough credit. You found faith and you found a way to live life. You may not be living it to the fullest but you are living it.

    I would suggest talking to a psychologist but it seems you have already been doing that. I wouldn’t stop doing it, but I would suggest perhaps finding a group of people to talk to. Sometimes there are groups in your area of people who have been through the same thing. Sometimes it’s easier to accept what has happened, knowing that you are not the only one out there who has gone through what you have been through.

    They do say everything happens for a reason, unfortunately we don’t always know what those reasons are. I’m not going to lie, if you don’t like being touched, it will be difficult to have a relationship with someone. But maybe if you meet the right person you can push through your fear of being intimate with them.

    It can’t be easy to admit you have never dated and then turn around and say you aren’t a virgin. But I think you are also over thinking this. It’s not an easy conversation to have with a man, but if he really cares about you, he won’t care what you have been through. You don’t have to start the conversation with I have never dated and by the way I am not a virgin. Just meet a guy and go out on a date. Talk normal conversations. If the subject of sex comes up, then you explain what happened to you. You don’t have to go into details if you don’t want to, but you can explain that it was a hard time for you and that it took you a while to get through it.

    Just because this happened to you, doesn’t mean that you will be alone and never have kids for the rest of your life. You are putting limitations in your life. Don’t ever limit the power of love and what the future has in store for you. Whenever that little voice in the back of your head tells you how worthless you are, you have to STOP yourself. Remind yourself how beautiful you are and that you deserve happiness like any other person. No one deserves to go through what you did, but this does not mean that you are worthless or that you don’t deserve to find love and be happy.

    Don’t ever give up on your dreams of finding love and having kids. Think positive thoughts, be positive and you will see what a difference this will do in your life. Remember that you are beautiful and that you deserve to be happy. Just because bad things happened to you when you were younger, doesn’t mean your life has to stop, or that you are limited to certain things in life. Once you truly accept what happened to you, you will be able to move on. I’m not saying it will be easy, there will probably be days that bring you back to that time period, but you have to try to pull yourself away from those thoughts and think about the good that has entered your life. Think happy thoughts. Go out there, meet friends and guys and have fun. Don’t ever think that you are worthless, because you are not.

    Remember that.

    xo,

    kristin nicole

  • Advice Column: How do I piss my wife off?

    Advice Column: How do I piss my wife off? Image found on flickr.com
    Advice Column: How do I piss my wife off? Image found on flickr.com

    The Question: How do I piss my wife off?

    I get so sick of her smiling and being happy all of the time. I want her to feel angry like I do all of the time. I want her to carry a harsh burden like I always do. Please leave suggestions?

    My Response:

    Dear Unhappy Husband;

    You definitely have a serious inner issue that needs to be resolved. People who are miserable always want others to feel the way they do. This is not the answer, nor is it going to make you feel any better about yourself. If you aren’t happy, then get out of the relationship. Don’t bring her down with you. I’m not sure how old you are, but this is a very childish way of thinking. If you cared or loved your wife, you would want her to be happy, you wouldn’t want her to feel whatever sadness you are carrying around. If you are feeling burdened and unhappy, you should talk to a professional psychologist. You need help and you need to find the reasons behind your thoughts.

    xo

    kristin nicole

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  • Advice Column: My brother is going down the wrong path

    Advice Column: Do I let him walk his own path? Image found on flickr.com
    Advice Column: My brother is going down the wrong path. Image found on flickr.com

    The Question: My brother is going down the wrong path, should I try giving him advice again or just let him go his own way?

    I have been worried about my brother for a while, and I don’t know what to do other than throw my hands up and be done with the situation. He is a meth addict who has been in and out of prison, and just recently spent two years in a prison. When he was released my mother has enabled him again by buying him a trailer to live in. I tried giving my advice as to jobs he could get as a felon and positive things he could be doing. Yet he wont listen and instead got in contact with a bail guy he was friends with. This guy is a slime ball and uses people to make money. He promised him work and gave him a vehicle, yet only paid him little amounts to keep my brother under his control. [sic]. My brother was at an RV park when the bail guy convinced him to stay on his property. I believe its a way to have my brother fail and take the trailer. He isn’t giving my brother much work and I noticed my brother was reconnecting with old doper friends! I am worried he will go down the wrong path again, yet I also feel like this is the choice he made. He wants everything given to him and didn’t want to listen to me or even take my positive advice/help. [sic]. Am I being to judgmental or am I the only one seeing where this will lead?
    (Edited)
    My Response:
    Dear Sibling; 
    This is a very hard position to be in. He’s your brother and it’s normal to only want the best for him but to try and get him help. It can be frustrating when we want to help someone we love but we can’t do anything about it. All you can do is be there for him, don’t give up. Try talking to him and explain to him that you care but you see him going down the wrong path again. Is there someone else you can talk to? Unfortunately all you can do is talk, but at the end of the day he’s a grown man, who knows right from wrong. Sometimes we can’t help the people we love, but we can always stay positive and try talking to them. Be there for them and love them. Who is this “bail guy”. Maybe there is a way you can report this guy, if he’s doing illegal stuff. I know you probably don’t want to get your brother in trouble again with the law, but if he’s hanging with the wrong people it’s only a matter of time before he gets himself into trouble.
    Try talking to your brother and just be there for him. It’s all you can really do.
    xo,
    kristin nicole
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  • Advice Column: Will she get mad that I went to a sperm bank?

     

    Advice Column: Will she get mad if I go to the sperm bank? Image found on flickr.com
    Advice Column: Will she get mad if I went to a sperm bank? Image found on flickr.com

    The Question: Will she get mad that I went to a sperm bank?

    I went to pick up my date but she was still getting ready. I talked to her mother (no name) while I was waiting. She asked me if I could use some extra cash. Of course I said yes. I asked her what I had to do. She said her office paid $100 per visit for something I was probably doing for free now. She said come on down any time. She gave me her card and it showed she owned a sperm bank. She wanted me to come in and make DEPOSITS. 

    This just seems strange to me. If my girlfriend sees me at her moms office, what can I tell her? Will I be in big trouble with my girlfriend? Or is this business just like any other business and it should not cause me any problems donating sperm. Surely my girlfriend knows what her mom does. 

    I can just hear the following conversation now. “What did you do today?” “I went to your mom’s office and J—— off. I never want to see you again you pervert.” What should I do?

    (Edited)

    My Response:

    Dear Sperm Bank;

    Let me first start off with… WHAT? It’s just weird and wrong of the mom to have asked you to do this in the first place. Second; you have to really think about doing something like this. It’s not just extra money, if you want extra money, get a job. Get two jobs if you have to. Giving away your sperm means making a child out there. Even if you do this anonymously, some children grow up wanting to know who their dad is, and go searching for them anyway. Some are found out, and then years later when you have a family of your own, you will have to explain to your wife that this is your kid. The kid you made while at the sperm bank. It’s just something to think about.

    However; that doesn’t mean that going to a sperm bank is wrong, it helps women and couples who can’t have children, have them. But it’s a big decision that can one day change your life. So think about it before you decide to do something like this.

    On that note; your girlfriend may not like this. Most girls I know, wouldn’t want to know that the guy they are dating is just making babies out there. She probably knows what her mom does (especially if her mom’s the owner) but it doesn’t necessarily mean she want her boyfriend donating his sperm.

    If you haven’t gone yet, I would say not to go. Talk to your girlfriend first and tell her what happened before it gets out another way. If you already went and did the deed, then I am afraid you will just have to face the music. Talk to her and explain to her what happened and your reasons for going. Maybe you will be lucky and she won’t care.

    xo,

    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Yahoo.com

  • Advice Column: I want to leave my Mom’s to live with my Dad

    Advice Column: I want to leave my mom's to live with my dad. Image by flickr.com
    Advice Column: I want to leave my mom’s to live with my dad. Image by flickr.com

    The Question: I want to leave my Mom’s to live with my Dad, how can I do this?

    I am 16 years old and was forcefully moved from my home with my dad about 2 years ago by my mom. She decided she wanted me to be with her and thus acted upon it. Since my dad is not excessively well-off, he couldn’t hire a lawyer, so I simply ended up staying with my mom. Try as I might, I cant adjust to my new school, make new friends, or genuinely be happy. My parents live on opposite sides of the country, and I have considered leaving (running away, if you will) to where my dad is. I ultimately want to know, if I get there, will I legally be able to decide that’s where I will live?
    ~ Running Away
    My Response:
    Dear Running Away;
    You can try to go talk to a lawyer that may do a pro bono job, (which means he will take your case for free). Or at least maybe give you some free legal advice. I do not know where you live and I am not a lawyer so I cannot give you advice as to what you can do, or what will happen if you try to run away to another country. More than likely they will just send you back home. If you want to live with your dad, you have to do it the right way.
    Have you tried talking to your mom, now that you are older? Have you tried reaching out to your dad? You are old enough to make that choice, and I would try talking to them first. If that doesn’t work you can always try talking to a lawyer or the courts and see what they tell you. It’s hard being a parent, just remember that your mom really loves you and probably only wants the best for you. I don’t know your parent’s situation so maybe your dad just couldn’t support you. It’s hard to understand when you are young, but be open and talk to them about how you feel. Maybe you will be surprised as to what they tell you.
    xo,
    kristin nicole
    I found this question on Yahoo.com

  • Advice Column: My son is 20 and dating a 32 year old with 2 kids

    Advice Column: My son is dating a 32 year old with 2 kids. Image found on Flickr.com
    Advice Column: My son is 20 and dating a 32 year old with 2 kids. Image found on Flickr.com

    Advice Column: 

    My son is 20 and dating a 32 year old, divorcee with 2 kids. I don’t like this.  How should I handle this?

    My Response:

    Dear Mom;

    This is a hard situation to be in. Being a parent and not liking who your kid is dating is hard. Unfortunately your son is an adult and he can make his own decisions. I would voice to him your concerns, but I would let him know that I would support any decision he makes. You don’t want to push your son away by being negative and getting on him for dating someone so much older with children. He may figure it out on his own. I know it isn’t easy, but sometimes we have to let them make mistakes and learn from them. Raising someone else’s kids is not easy, especially when you are practically a kid yourself. Do you know if he has met the kids? Talk to him, but don’t attack him with what you don’t like. You have to have a limit as to what to say, if he starts telling you that it’s his life, leave it alone and try talking to him another time.  Good luck.

    xo,

    kristin nicole

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