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  • Im 15 years old thinking of killing myself…

    The Question:

    I’m 15 years old thinking of killing myself because my ex broke up with me, advice? We were really really good friends and I made the move of telling him that I liked him (which I think was a mistake!) he said he wanted to be with me forever and I wanted to be with him forever! I still do. He broke up with me, and I cried like crazy! Then I see him at school and he was being really nice to me and he asked me to get back with him and he apologized and said it would never happen again . Well he did it again that same week, and that just really hurt me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Now I think of him everyday! I just really need love! I feel so empty!! I JUST WANT TO ****** DIE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Please help….

    My Response:

    Dear Sadness;

    Your first love is the hardest to ever get over. I remember the first time my heart broke, it felt like a glass shattering into a million pieces, I felt like I would never feel happy again, like my world was crashing down on me and there was no where to run. Once you stop for a second and you really think about how your relationship was, if he every truly cared about you to do something like this, you start to realize that maybe things just weren’t meant to be. I am not saying the pain will just go away, but you are only 15. At 15 we feel like our world will fall apart because that boy doesn’t love us anymore, but the truth is, our world stays in intact, our world keeps moving and eventually so do we. You have to be strong, and maybe you should talk to him and ask him why he keeps breaking up with you? Sometimes boys, especially at that age, do not know how to express themselves as well as we would like them to, but ask him anyway, why he is breaking up with you. At least this way you can at least have piece of mind and move on. You deserve better but a true friend, a person who truly loves you wouldn’t hurt you. You are still so very young, and trust me there are so many other boys out there for you. You might get hurt again and you may hurt a boys heart one day, but that is part of life, that is what makes us who we are and that is what makes us stronger to live our lives. Don’t ever feel like you want to die for a man, trust me they aren’t worth it. Love is beautiful and when you find that right love you will know it’s there forever. Stay strong, hang out with your friends and get your mind off him, but know that you are better than that and dieing will only cause more pain to your family and friends that love you so very much. Dieing is only an easy way out of not feeling pain, we all have to feel pain so that we can become better and make the same mistakes of the past. Have confidence in yourself and self respect to not go back out with him. Ever heard that saying “Hurt me once shame on you, hurt me twice shame on Me”. It’s true, you have the power to decide, you have the power to move on and find someone who will respect you and love you for you.

    Remember life is hard, but I promise, it doesn’t always feel that way.

    xo
    kristin nicole

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  • Memorial Weekend 2010


    Memorial Weekend 2010

    Memorial Day: Memorial Day is a United States federal holiday observed on the last Monday of May. Formerly known as Decoration Day, it commemorates U.S. men and women who died while in the military service. First enacted to honor Union soldiers of the American Civil War (it is celebrated near the day of reunification after the Civil War), it was expanded after World War I.

    Any Plans?!?

    Any plans set up for Memorial weekend? Any good ideas you want to share? Let me know, recipes and more, I would love to see them and share them with others.

    In Miami people usually head to the beach, BBQ, eat and drink, which is pretty much any other weekend in MIAMI 🙂

    My plans:

    We have two parties to attend actually. My cousins boyfriends house in Ft. Lauderdale, with a pool, catered food, and drinks, what more can you ask for. That will start around 12pm and around 4pm we will be heading out to our friends house in Cutler Bay, where we will then continue to party in the pool, eat and drink some more, may not sound like all crazy fun to you, but you do not know the people we hang out with. I can not wait!!

    Some people make a whole trip out of it, maybe perhaps to go up to the Keys for the whole weekend, or somewhere else to have some fun. This year, I’m staying in….except for Sunday of course, which is when we are celebrating Memorial Day.

    Tell me all about your plans I would love to hear them!!!

    MEMORIAL DAY – some people do not really realize what it meant, which I left a small description in the beginning. I found this poem that I would love to share with you all.

    Memorial Day

    As we stand here looking
    At the flags upon these graves
    Know these flags represent
    A few of the true American brave

    They fought for their Country
    As man has through all of time
    Except that these soldiers lying here
    Fought for your country and mine

    As we all are gathered here
    To pay them our respect
    Let’s pass this word to others
    It’s what they would expect

    I’m sure that they would do it
    If it were me or you
    To show we did not die in vein
    But for the red, white and blue.

    Let’s pass on to our children
    And to those who never knew
    What these soldiers died for
    It’s the least we can do

    Let’s not forget their families
    Great pain they had to bear
    Losing a son, father or husband
    They need to know we still care

    No matter which war was fought
    On the day that they died
    I stand here looking at these flags
    Filled with American pride.

    So as the bugler plays out Taps
    With its sweet and eerie sound
    Pray for these soldiers lying here
    In this sacred, hallowed ground.

    Take home with you a sense of pride
    You were here Memorial Day.
    Celebrating the way Americans should
    On this solemnest of days.

    –© 1999 by Michelle Keim,
    Commander of Royersford VFW Post 6341 in PA.–

    You can see the poem Here

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • Should I change who I am?


    The Question:

    I want to know if I should change the way I am. If I’m honest I’m the loner girl who sits in the library and reads a book at lunch/break. The smart person people tend to feel sorry for. I hate people thinking that all I do is read and do “smart” things mainly because I’m not smart. With close friends I’ve known for ages I’m “Normal” but according to my best friend I’m a bit of a “Vixen” so what I want to know is, if I should start being the flirty jokey happy person I am out of school, in school?

    My Response:

    Dear Books;

    Never change who you are for other people. Be happy with who you are and real friends will like YOU for you. However, you said that with your friends that you grew up with you are “normal”, I think wanting to read a book is normal, perhaps not all the kids do it, but it doesn’t mean you aren’t “normal”. You also said with your friends you are a flirty jokey happy person, if this is who you really are with people you feel comfortable with then you should feel comfortable to be like that everywhere and with everyone. Don’t hide who you are of fear of rejection. In life people will like you and some people won’t, this doesn’t mean that you aren’t normal or that you are different, it just means everyone has their own opinion and you don’t need to hang out with people who will judge you anyway. Be you, and you’ll see in the future, being you is GOOD!

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • My sister went & got Power of Attorney behind my back…

    The Question:

    My sister went and got Power of Attorney behind my back, I am the next of kin, is there anything I can do? Mom now lives in care home/ nursing home and my sister is stopping me from taking mom out. She said she has power of attorney, dose that give her the rights to stop me?

    My Response:

    Dear Next of Kin;

    Are you and your sister not talking, not communicating about the way you feel? You need to talk to her and see why she has taken out a power of attorney on your mother, and why she feels she needs to control this situation. (I am not sure where you live and the laws everywhere are different) I am not sure exactly if she has 100% of the “power” so to speak here with this power of attorney, but if you were the next of kin, was this stated somewhere in legal forms/ a living will? If it wasn’t, you might not have a say in this, but if you were then you can definitely fight back with a lawyer. Either way, I would get a lawyer involved and see what you can do to stop her from having control. Of course take into consideration that if you do or did have a good relationship with your sister getting a lawyer to fight back may cause more issues. Of course your sister went behind your back and got a power of attorney so she really is no one to talk. Find yourself a lawyer if you can and take back control of the situation. If you don’t want to get a lawyer involved try talking to your sister, find out why she felt the need to go behind your back, instead of just talking to you and figuring things out together. If your mom is really sick this isn’t the time to push away the family you have left. Good luck.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • How can I help my friend who’s son ran away from home?

    The Question:

    How can i help my friend her son ran away three days ago and she thinks something bad happened? He is her baby he is 14 and ran away three days ago and the police are involved now but i am unsure how to help her and her husband i want to just really unsure. Been there almost every day supporting her it just doesn’t seem enough i guess. Advice?

    My Response:

    Dear Good Friend;

    Just being there for her during this hard time is the only thing you can do. Letting her know you are there for her is good. This isn’t something that you can just fix. Her son is obviously troubled if he ran away from home. If the police are involved I am assuming they have filed a missing person report (this is the first step into finding him). A lot of people think that just because a teenager runs away from home they can’t file a missing person report and this is their first mistake, he is still a minor and they can file a missing person report in hopes that if someone spots him the police can pick him up. Three days must feel like a decade to your friend and her family, and I couldn’t imagine the thoughts that are going through your friends head. Just keep doing what you have been doing and be there for your friend, other than that, there really isn’t much more you can do. If you want to help other than moral support, you can try posting pictures of him around the neighborhood, gather some people from the neighborhood to help. Even though he ran away from home, doesn’t mean something hasn’t happened, and doesn’t mean you can’t go about it as if he was missing or taken. I hope he comes back home soon and my prayers are with your friends family. Keep praying and don’t give up hope.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • Two guys, do I choose anyone of them?

    The Question:

    Guy Number 1:
    I have someone new in my life. This person is the only one who has crossed oceans to see me. He’s come to visit twice in New York and Japan. He even told me he loved me and cried when asked him what we were. He said friends. You live far away and we really can’t put a label on this Now he is distancing himself.

    Guy Number 2:     This guy just this past week got in contact with me.
    I had strong feeling for him in 2008. When he broke up with his girl friend he came after me. Things eventually did not last. I decided to stop talking to him even though he wanted to safe the friendship. Now he emailed me just to catch up and thank me for taking him to concert back when we had a thing.We talked over the net for 1 hour. He said he missed talking to me and that I reminded him of someone very close to us. Men are strange..

    Is this sign that I’m just a good friend to all these guys.

    My response:

    Dear friend;

    Lets start with Guy #1 – I agree with him that you should just stay friends, long distance relationships are hard, I am not saying they don’t work out but the percentage of them actually working is low. It’s a little extreme to travel so far to see you, and I can see where you are getting mixed signals, but be happy that he was honest with you and he isn’t leading you on by saying he does want to have a relationship, later only to find out he’s with someone else because you are just way too far. Stay friends with this guy, he seems like a good guy.

    Guy #2 – It’s good to catch up sometimes but if things didn’t work out the first time, sit back and evaluate why it didn’t work out. How old were you, and some people mature after a few years, it has been 2 years since you last saw him. It could also just mean that the guy was lonely and decided to try and talk to you again because he remembered what a cool girl you are. I wouldn’t totally push this guy away if you like him, but I would keep my guard up. If you want to just stay friends with him, I don’t see anything wrong with that, but if he wants something more and you don’t, be honest with him and let him know you just aren’t into him in that way anymore. He lost his chance the first time, sometimes things don’t work out for a reason.

    Don’t think of yourself as just a good friend to these guys, they might like you more then that, but sometimes things don’t work out. Find yourself a new guy that is in the same City and start to date, and one that isn’t an ex boyfriend.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • My ex girlfriend was raped and now she won’t talk to me anymore. Please help…

    The Question:

    OK I love my ex and we’ve been through a lot. She broke up with her boyfriend to be with me but she got raped a couple days ago and she won’t talk to me anymore and says she wants to be left alone. I’ve tried to show her love and affection, but she just doesn’t want to talk to me. She’s saying all guy’s are bad and can’t be trusted and things. And I preached to her saying I love her and won’t hurt her but it’s like whatever I say it’s not getting through to her. I love this girl with all my life and God knows if something would ever happen to her I couldn’t live without her. I thought she loved me and wanted to get back together but I’m not sure anymore. Girls are difficult lol. I’m not sure if she’s not getting back with me because she plans on getting back with her boyfriend she just left for me. I love her though and I want her to be happy. So please give me your advice please.

    My response:

    Dear ex boy;

    This isn’t about you, she was Raped, she didn’t just fall of a bike to get right back up. This is a traumatic event and she can be going through some major emotions right now. (Depression, guilt, post traumatic stress, so many things are going through her mind right now) the last thing on her mind is getting back with you or having any boyfriend. Men to her right now are evil, and it’s going to be hard for her to pass this and realize that you and the other men in her life that love her aren’t bad people. Don’t try to be her boyfriend, if you really love her give her time, just try to be her friend. Start off slow and just tell her that you are there for her as a friend, that you love her and whatever she needs you are there. Talk to her friends and family, she needs to be talking to someone about her Rape. (A counselor, a psychologist) someone…. be patient she needs time to heal and figure things out, she needs time to come to terms with what really happened to her and she needs to figure out how to move on from this.

    I found a few websites that help with rape victims… here they are:

    www.justicewomen.com

    www.healthyplace.com

    http://members.tripod.com

    htp://womenshealth.about.com

    My prayers are with your ex-girlfriend.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • What should I do about the way my best friend is treating me?

    The Question: Found on Answers.Yahoo.com

    We have been friends for a couple of years and a few months ago he told me that he liked me but he has a girlfriend so I was just going to go on with my life like normal. We texted each other everyday after school and talked all the time in class but when he was with his girlfriend he never talked to me. Then after a while there was drama between me and his girlfriend, and he told me that he didn’t care about the drama and he would stick up for me through it all, and he said that if they broke up we would be together. After the drama we texted for a while but now that we don’t have a class together he never texts me any more….I miss my friend what should I do?

    My response:

    Dear no longer friends,

    I think your friend was trying to have their cake and eat it too. He say’s he liked you, but then he had a girlfriend, but then “if” he left his girlfriend he would be with you? I’m not sure I understand? If he really cared about you he wouldn’t have said that, and he would have just broken up with his girlfriend to be with you. If he was willing to stick up for you and not his girlfriend, that doesn’t say much about him, it sounds to me like he’s a jerk. I’m sorry to say this, but when you have a girl/friend or a boy/friend and you enter into a relationship the friend in the opposite sex always gets pushed back a little. When you are in a relationship you don’t tend to talk to the opposite sex anymore because it might bother your boyfriend or girlfriend, it’s just the way things are. Him not texting you as much when he had a girlfriend is completely normal. I know it’s hard to not feel offended but this is what usually happens. I’m sorry but just because you don’t have a class together anymore doesn’t mean he can’t stay friends with you, if he was a true friend he would be texting or calling you to chat, but he isn’t. I say move on, I know you miss him but that will pass, you deserve better friends then that in your life. If you insist on trying, call him and ask him why he hasn’t texted you in a long time. Don’t text, people can ignore texts but if you talk to him in person or over the phone he has to listen to what you have to say. My opinion though, you deserve a better friend that what he’s been to you lately and I think you deserve better then that, you have to know that. Hope this helps.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • Overwhelming Life…

    Sometimes life becomes overwhelming. In my case in particular, I work full time from 7am to 4pm then Monday’s and Wednesdays I go to school on campus so my day’s are pretty much from 7 to 7. Tuesdays, Thursdays & Fridays, I try to do as much with my other online classes and every other Thursday I have my nail appointment so I don’t get home until after 6 those days either, and every other Friday I get my acupuncture done. Yes my life is busy. Did I mention that in between all that on the weekends most of the time I’m also studying doing homework Saturday and Sundays and in between I try to make time to hang out with friends and family or we have birthday’s to go to etc. Tomorrow where I usually go home to study I’m meeting with a lady to help me study for my Math test on Monday. Another very much stressed case right there.

    Things you need to try and make time for:

    When life gets overwhelming, no matter how many things you have to do in life, you have to stop, take a breath and enjoy it. I’ve learned through out my life that one day you’re here and the next you can be gone and it doesn’t matter what age you are. When I take a break I spend time watching TV with my boyfriend, writing, or just hanging out with the family and friends. Sometimes I need that break, to just relax and not think of school and the stress of trying to finish as soon as possible. I won’t stop though, as stressful as it is, I’ve also learned that even in today’s world, even if I can’t find a job right away with whatever career I decide to choose, in the end of the day that little paper that say’s I have a degree is all that matters. I will be proud of myself to have been able to go through this long journey of life and say that I finally DID IT!

    “The whole purpose of education is to turn mirrors into windows”. ~Sydney J. Harris

    “There is no fate but your own fate”. ~Leslie Grimutter

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • Key West – Labor Day weekend

    Key West is always fun when you go with a group of people you know are going to just lay back and have fun.

    Saturday:

    We went with a group of 8 people, and close friends and family and as usual we had a blast. We headed out early Saturday morning, first things first, the car wouldn’t start. But don’t fear….we have men and they will handle the issue. Run and get a battery, replace battery, 10 minutes later, we are off to the Keys. We wanted to have breakfast at Crackle Barrel but since we were off schedule and by that time the place was packed we went to the next best thing….McDonalds. 😉 LOL

    Oh no not the Rain…

    Rain, rain go away come again another day, we are going to the Keys and we need to party, we can’t have this rain ruining our weekend!!! We got to the Keys and the guys unpacked while the girls went to Publix to pick up food, on the way we picked up Battle with the Sexes just in case we got rained in, but I was pretty positive that it would turn out to be a great weekend. Sure enough we got back and it wasn’t raining anymore, so we started our night of drinking and had a dip in the pool. Got out a bit early and I made my pasta that I always love to make. We ate and got ready for a night out in the Keys.

    Night time fun!

    We headed out to Irish Kevin’s Bar. The place isn’t that big but we managed to get a small table with stools, the place was cool inside and if you are from Miami you know it’s heaven to find a place that is actually cool inside. We ordered drinks and the guy on stage was singing with his guitar, the place was one of those bars where you sing a long to certain words with the singer and it was GREAT! We had so much fun, we wanted to try other bars so we headed to where they have the Bull- ride….my friend tried it but fell off, it was too funny. Oh did I mention that at Kevin’s one of my friends tried the chugging beer contest and his wife went on stage to sing….well that was fun! We went to a few places, someone broke a sandal, I found him a pair in five minutes, paid and headed off to the next bar.

    Sunday Sun

    We headed out to the pool after breakfast, and what did I say in the beginning? It was a beautiful day! We were out there for hours, laughing, drinking and just having fun and meeting new people. Later we got ready and headed out for dinner. The place was not impressive and we got stuck waiting for the bill for a while. We later headed back to Kevin’s Irish Bar since we had so much fun the night before. It started off slow, and the drinks were weak, the guy singing was good but all he could sing was country, which isn’t bad but a song that’s not country , not sooo good. Luckily he finished shortly after and the the guy who came on stage next was from a band at another bar we saw the night before. Him and the guy he was with was great. Again, the drinks came and again we sang along and again we had another GREAT night! We headed back to the hotel, and baked cookies with ice cream, what better way to end a night then that?!?

    Monday Morning ~ Labor Day

    We got up, and we headed back home. We played Battle of the Sexes in the car, did I mention how hard that game was and did I mention we laughed practically all the way home. Isn’t it great to have people in your life that you just get a long with, that you have so much fun with and that you love so much.

    To another great Birthday long weekend to my boyfriend Tony, oh I didn’t mention that, oh yea, this was part II of his birthday, Lucky guy!!!! To many birthday’s, to many more Key West trips with my brother and sister in-law and Friends….To the next time!

    xo,
    kristin nicole