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  • Advice Column: Sleep with my professor?

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    Advice Column: Sleep  with my professor?

    Dear Kristin Nicole;

    I am a junior in college and my professor is really young. he is 33 years old and I am 22 and every time I see him I get all tingly down stairs. After class we have met a few times to go over some school work. We flirt a little but nothing as ever happened. I don’ know if to make the first move or see if he finally make a move. This semester finishes in August and I didn’t know if to wait until the semester finishes or just to go for it now. The excitement of dating my professor and having sex with him on his desk gets me excited just thinking about it. Should I just make the first move or wait?
    ~Professor Crush

    My Response:

    Dear Professor Crush;

    Although it might be exciting to sleep with your professor, I am sure that there are rules about dating your professor. With that said there is nothing wrong with some harmless flirting and letting him know you like him. You want to make sure he really is flirting with you and not just being nice. Sometimes we can take niceness the wrong way. August is around the corner so you might as well wait and see what happens afterwards. You might just like him for the thrill of actually sleeping with your professor. If this is the case, then move on and start enjoying your last few years in college. Go out and find some guys your age and a guy who isn’t off limits. Good luck

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    (2011)

  • Advice Column: Son-In-Law pleasing…

    The Question: Son-In-Law pleasing…

    I saw my son in law pleasing himself, he didn’t see me but I did stare and wonder how can my daughter be unhappy with this guy when it is so big. I looked at him for a while because he was so large. My daughter should be grateful she has a big man. Why isn’t she happy?

    My Response:

    Let me start off with EWE! You actually stared for a while, while he was pleasing himself? That is just wrong on all levels considering this is your daughters husband. Lets start off with that is wrong, and you should maybe knock before entering somewhere, or simply tell your son in law that he needs to be careful when and where he does his deeds. As for you daughter, being grateful that her man is so big and why isn’t she happy??? REALLY??? Perhaps it has nothing to do with the size of his package and more to do with how he treats your daughter. Maybe you should be more concerned about why she isn’t happy than assuming it’s because her husband has a nice package. The package only makes a women happy in one department, after that it takes more than just the package to keep you happy (as a woman I would think that you would understand this). It also just isn’t about the size of the package, the package could be large but if the man doesn’t know how to use it right, then what’s the use?!?

    I am not sure if you live with your daughter but maybe her husband and her need some privacy. Try being there for your daughter instead of wondering why she isn’t happy just because her man is well endowed.

    Good luck

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Answers.Yahoo.com (2010)

  • Advice Column: Cheating boyfriend

    The Question: Cheating boyfriend

    He cheated on me after we’ve been going out for 5 months and we were best friends for years before that. He was my everything! We were together every day and we did everything together. I’m so lost and I miss him so much it hurts. He hurt me so bad and I know we need time apart (he hasn’t even exactly tried getting me back yet) but I can see it coming in the future. We said our goodbyes but I don’t want to live without him and my mind set right now is saying that I’ll see what he has to say whenever that may be.[sic]. No matter what happens I can’t forget that he put me through HELL, I cried for 48 hours straight and I hate him for what he did, but he was my first real boyfriend. I lost my virginity to him and he was the first guy I have ever loved. I still love him so much and its like the saying “what do you do when the only person who can make you stop crying is the one who made you start?” [sic].

    Please help, what should I do?

    (Edited)

    My Response:

    Dear First Love;

    Its hard and it’s not going to be easy because he was your first real boyfriend and you lost your virginity to him which is something very intimate. I went through the same thing you did, my first love cheated on me and went back to his ex after we dated for over 6 months. It hurt like hell, and you feel like your whole world is falling apart, and you feel like there isn’t anything you can do to make the hurt stop. I know it feels like this now and I know in a way forgiving him to just have him back in your life may sound easy, but it’s not.

    He broke your trust, he betrayed your love in the worst way possible, and this is something that is unforgettable. You can forgive him, but it’s something you will never forget, and it will always be in the back of your head. If he hasn’t tried apologizing now or trying to get back with you by now, he just doesn’t care. I know it’s hard to hear, but guys like this aren’t worth your time. I understand he was your best friend before that, but even friends don’t betray a persons trust. If he didn’t feel the same way about you that you felt for him, he should have been honest, more of a man and not a boy who would just go cheat on you with someone else.

    You have to be strong! If he tries to talk to you one day, hear him out, forgive him so that you can move on, but do not under any circumstances GET BACK WITH HIM! You need to have respect for yourself, getting back with someone who would hurt you in that way isn’t going to make you feel happy. There are ‘plenty of fish in the sea’, so to speak, time will heal and you will find someone else, even if right now it seems hopeless. Trust me it’s not! As to your question of the saying ‘”what do you do when the only person who can make you stop crying is the one who made you start,” You move on! Because if the one person that you think can make you stop crying is the person who made you cry, they aren’t worth your time or energy, they don’t deserve your love.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Answers.Yahoo.com (2010)

  • Advice Column: She kisses me differently

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    The Question: She kisses me differently

    My wife has now started to kiss me differently as she doesn’t open her mouth to kiss me anymore.

    She pecks me on the lips but there is no opening of the mouth or the use of tongues and I wonder what signal she is trying to send to me.

    We have sex but I feel the change in the way she kisses me. Like she is trying to tell me something.

    Please be honest and tell me what it means. If there are any women out there who can tell me why they are doing the same thing to there partners, it would be a great insight for me.

    (Edited)

    My Response:

    Dear Kisses;

    The best answer you can get is directly from your wife. Sit down with your wife and tell her how you are feeling, tell her the changes in her kissing. Tell her that you have noticed the change and that you feel something is wrong. If she tells you nothing is wrong, then maybe she’s just decided to kiss differently. If it’s really bothering you then explain to her that it is bothering you, and that you feel she’s different; remember being open with how you feel is important in any relationship.

    Just because she is kissing differently doesn’t necessarily mean that something is wrong with her. Maybe she just doesn’t want to kiss that much, but if you know this is not normal behavior then just out right bring it up to her. She’s your wife so don’t be shy, just tell her how you are feeling and get to the bottom of this, don’t let it linger around and let things get worse.

    Good luck

    xo
    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Answers.Yahoo.com (2010)

  • Advice Column: I think my brother’s gay

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    Advice Column: I think my brother is gay. Image found on flickr.com

    Advice Column: I think my brother’s gay….

    I think my little brother is gay. Should I tell my parents?

    My Response:

    Dear Sibling;

    Do you have proof that your brother is gay? Maybe you should talk to your brother first before assuming that he is gay. It’s also your brother’s decision to make whether or not he wants to tell your parents. That is, if he is gay.

    xo,

    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Yahoo.com

  • Advice Column: I’m cheating on my fiancé

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    Advice Column: Cheating on my fiance. Image found on flickr.com

    Advice Column: I’m cheating on my fiancé

    I’m getting married in a weeks time, but I’m sleeping with someone else. I love my fiancé, he is the love of my life but I can’t let the other guy go and I don’t know what to do. Help.

    (Edited)

    My Response: 

    Dear Cheater;

    If you were truly in love and ready to get married you wouldn’t be cheating on your fiancé. You say he is the “love of your life”, but if this was true, then why are you sleeping with another man? You want your cake and you want to eat it too. Unfortunately that’s not how life works. How would you feel if your fiancé was sleeping with another woman? You have two choices to make, either leave this guy you are sleeping with or let your fiancé know the truth, let him move on, and stay with your lover.

    You can’t have the best of both worlds, eventually the truth will come out and it will all blow up in your face. Good luck.

    xo,

    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Yahoo.com

  • Advice Column: I’m not ready

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    Advice Column: I’m not ready

    I’m 14 and my boyfriend is 18, and he really wants to have sex with me but I want to wait until I’m older before I lose my virginity. The other day he said he will break up with me if I don’t let him have sex with me and I really love him and don’t want to break up. What should I do?

    My Response:

    Dear 14 year old;

    First and foremost you are really young to be thinking about having sex. Sex isn’t something that you just give away to anyone. If he really loves you, he would wait. You have a big age difference and sometimes that can be a challenge, but if you aren’t ready to lose your virginity do not allow him or anyone else give you an ultimatum. Go with your gut instinct and wait. If he breaks up with you because you won’t have sex with him then he doesn’t really love you. Like I said before, if he loves you he will wait, and if he doesn’t then you deserve someone better. It may hurt to lose him but it’s better to move on from someone who won’t respect your wishes than to give in and regret it later.

    xo

    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Yahoo.com

  • Advice Column: Abusive Military Husband

    The Question: Abusive Military Husband 

    I am currently living with my husband overseas in Bumholder, Germany. I have been thinking about it for a while now and decided I need a divorce. My husband is emotionally abusive, he’s thrown used protection [sic]. (not sure if I can say the other word) at my face before, when he left for his last training he only gave me 40 dollars to last a month and a half and I have a child as well and no transportation. He tells me he hates me every day yet he refuses to let me move back home. I feel the only option I have left is to divorce him. I am also worried about him finding out.

    I don’t feel safe living with him and I’ll feel even less safe being here while we are going through a divorce; he has a tendency to sharpen his knifes after we have fought and threaten me, and that scares me to death. I need all the possible information on how to go about getting a divorce. Who should I try to contact. My husband leaves again for training next week and will be gone another month and a half. At this time I’ll most likely have no money again and it’s a short time frame to get this all done. I was just trying to deal with it and hope that something would change but it hasn’t. I don’t even like him being around our daughter who is 7 months old. The only time she’s around him is when I shower, and it makes me so nervous because he is always screaming at her because she won’t stop crying. But it’s just because he has nothing to do with her and she isn’t really familiar with him. I have no idea who I’m supposed to go to or call. Also, if I tell the Military that I feel unsafe living with him while going through a divorce can they help and place me somewhere else until it is finished? I just need all the help I can get, please!

    (Edited)

    My Response:

    Dear Abused wife;

    If you are from the United States go to the embassy, I am sure that there is something you can do about getting back to your family while you get a divorce. You can also go to his platoon, being abusive is against any military law. He can get arrested and discharged from the military. I am not sure how far you want to go, this may anger him more, but you need to stand up and fight for yourself and for your daughter it is not safe nor is it healthy to stay in this relationship any longer. What he’s doing is wrong, and you staying with him is not going to help your daughter have a normal and good life. Giving you $40 to last a month is ridiculous. Have you thought about getting a job, the military helps with day care and things like that if you need to get a job to save money. The best bet is to go to his commanding officer (boss) and tell him what is going on, explain that you want to go back to the United States but that he refuses to let you go. If you have family, call them, have them send you money and get your passports and get out of there. Figure out the divorce later, but you need to find yourself a lawyer as soon as possible so that you can file for divorce. No one should have to take abuse (emotional or physical) find a way out and do it as soon as you can. If you have any friends you can trust, maybe you can stay with them for a while, until you can figure out how to get back to the United States. (Again I am assuming you are from the U.S). If you are not from the U.S; then get back to where ever you are from, call a friend or family. If you don’t have friends or family then you will have no other choice but to go to his boss and tell him what is going on. Good luck.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Answers.Yahoo.com (2010)

  • Advice Column: Lost sex drive

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    The Question: Lost Sex Drive

    We have been dating for a little over 6 months, he’s 19, I’m 17. We both have pretty low-stress life styles, at the moment he is doing a simple course with little study or work content, so I figure it isn’t stress. [sic]. The thing is, we still do sexual things, almost every night, but never actual sex, which bothers me because by “we do sexual things” I mean, I give him a bl0w job, and we go to sleep. The funniest part is that when we first started dating he told me he didn’t like blow jobs and had never ‘blown his load’ during. [sic]. My guess is my ‘skills’ are a drastic improvement upon his other girlfriends, because after a little bit of convincing, he let me give it a go and now it’s all he wants! Don’t get me wrong, I’m glad he enjoys it and I have no problem doing it, but a girls gotta [sic] get some every now and again. (at least, I do…) Not to mention it’s making me feel very unattractive, despite all his reassurances. Any similar experiences or advice?

    (Edited)

    My Response:

    Dear not getting any;

    He’s young, he shouldn’t have little sex drive at all, he should be wanting to have sex with you 247. If he’s only wanting you to go down south then you need to stop, and tell him that you want him to go down south on you for a change; or simply state what you want and tell him you want him. If this doesn’t work then I would start wondering if there is something else behind the whole (him not wanting sex and only bl**jobs) He’s also just 19 and we think about things way more then men do, so maybe he just thinks you enjoy going down on him and you aren’t looking for any other type of satisfaction. COMMUNICATION is key in any relationship especially when it comes to sex. Speak up, tell him what you want and that you don’t go down on him for his pleasure only, you need some attention too. Good luck….

    xo
    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Answers.Yahoo.com 2010

  • Advice Column: Sleeping with a married man

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    The Question: 

    I was sleeping with a married man.  I told his wife, and at first she was super nice with me. Then a few weeks later she turned on me. I forwarded her all the emails, text messages and she was so thankful. Then out of the blue started snapping at me. She now blocked me from everything. Her and her husband deserve each other. I should have never gotten involved in this craziness.

    My Response:

    Dear Other Woman;

    Do not let this bother you so much. You did what you think was right, and you thought she would be grateful that you told her the truth about her husband. You have to understand that maybe she’s grateful in a way for you telling her that her husband was cheating, but at the end of the day when she started reading all the texts, and emails and realizing that her husband betrayed her with another women, and that YOU ARE THE OTHER WOMAN. No matter what, at the end of the day you are that one person that made her world fall apart. I am not sure why you decided to tell his wife about your affair, did you know he was married when you started having a relationship with this man? If you knew he was married, then it was wrong on your part on all levels, (and telling his wife about the two of you was more likely a way to get back at him for him not leaving his wife); if you did not know he was married and it was just as much as a shock to you as it was to his wife that he was cheating, then you did what you thought was right and now you just have to move on. Don’t let her being upset at you get you upset, it’s natural for her to be angry at you, even if you told her the truth about her lying, cheating husband. Move on, and find yourself a real man, one that isn’t married.

    xo
    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Yahoo.com 2010