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  • Can/Do you watch porn with your boyfriend/husband?

    This article is fairly old, my boyfriend sent me this website a while ago, talking about a women who finds out her boyfriend watches porn on his computer. She gets upset at first and has questions as to why he has porn in his computer. Can it be that he’s not happy with their sex life? These questions often come to mind for women, because we don’t understand why men like it so much and why they sometimes feel like they need it.

    Maybe it’s just me, but I’m sure a lot of women out there think this way also. Are you ready for this???
    I always just assumed that all men have at least seen one porn in there lives. Don’t be shocked ladies, of course they have, and if they tell you otherwise they have to be lieing! Even if you don’t think your boyfriend does this, wouldn’t you assume that he at least has seen one in the past? We has women I think stay in denial that our guys like to watch this kind of stuff. Just like some women say, that their boyfriends never look at other girls in the street. Of course they do! Don’t act shocked, it’s nature. If you see a hot guy, wouldn’t you at least glance at him? It’s normal, now of course we don’t want them to be drooling over another girl when we are right next to them, there’s a limit MEN!

    On another Note
    I can understand a women getting self conscious or jealous of your boyfriend/husband watching porn. Because why do they need to watch other women going at it, when you are there when they need you to be? I’m not a man, but I can just imagine that it doesn’t have anything to do with you. Sex to men is just that, SEX. And watching someone else doing it on TV just turns them on in a different level, with no emotions attached. This doesn’t mean that they don’t love you.

    Have you as a women watched porn before? Maybe you should try it. Maybe you would surprisingly like it. Never say Never ladies. This might be another way to spice up your sex life. Not every man likes this though, most men I have spoken to rather watch porn alone. It’s more of a case of (My girlfriend/wife isn’t home and I’m horny, why not?!) situation. But some couples do like to watch it together.

    Remember men will be men
    Don’t get angry if you do find that your boyfriend/husband watches porn, maybe if they felt you were more open about it they wouldn’t hide it from you. Remember ladies, men will be men!

    Let me know what you think about this? Do men prefer there girlfriends/wife to watch porn with them? Or by themselves? As a women would you be willing to try watching porn with your boyfriend/Husband?

    ~ “Laugh as much as you breathe and love as long as you live.” -Anonymous

    XO,
    Kristin Nicole

    If you want to read what she has to say Click HERE.

  • Taking things for Granted

    Taking things for Granted
    There are things in life that people always take for granted. I believe that the human mind sometimes can’t help but take things for granted. We take our Parents for granted, our spouse or significant other and we take our Family and Friends for granted. Do you really stop to think and thank the people in your lives each day? Do you really stop to ”smell the flowers”? We take life in general for granted. We probably don’t even thank god each night for being blessed with the things we do have in our lives, because I always believe that things in life can be worse, that there is someone out there worse off than you. I hear people complain all the time about how they don’t have money to go out, shop to do things they want. (I’ve been one of those people) People don’t realize that sometimes those things aren’t what makes a person happy. I am the one person to believe that it helps, every one loves to have material things, to go out and have fun. But did you ever stop to think that even people with money have problems? Sometimes they have so much money but no family to love and have support from.

    I rather have my family and my boyfriend in my life over all the money in the world, because with out them how can I enjoy basking in the joy of money, who will I go to dinner with or on Vacation with all this money if I have no one to share it with. If I have no one to share it with what will be the purpose of having all that money? And who’s to say that you can’t live life with out having a lot of money? Do you have a roof over your head? Do you have food each day? Do you have a family to go to if you were in trouble? I say that if you have any of those things you are pretty well off, because there are people in the street with no where to go, no family and no food. So be thankful that you have a job to hold your own, that you have a bed to go to and food to feed you.

    Taking your parents for granted
    Back to taking your Parents for granted…. Do you really see the sacrifices they make for us? How much love they give to us, they taught us things to make us into the person we’ve become today. Even if you don’t get along with your Mom or Dad they still brought you into this world and they still love you unconditionally because that’s what parents do. They stop to give you the world if they knew that’s what you wanted before getting hurt. Some people don’t have family. Some people aren’t as lucky to even have a family as I described above. Some people aren’t meant to be parents, and the children are the ones that suffer.

    Friends
    If you have just one friend cherish your friendship and don’t let stupid things get in the way of it. I have lost many friendships, some over little pettish things that happen in everyday life, things you think are huge at a certain age or time. Looking back, some of these friends I wish I still had in my life.

    Relationships
    I think we take our spouse or significant other for granted as well. Do you really see all the things they do for you because they care? Even if it’s the smallest things (like a note in your bag when you go to work saying they love you). Do you know how so many people wish they had/have that in their relationship. Cherish the moments, cherish the laughs, cherish the people who are in your life and who love you, because with out them who are you? You become the person you are through the tribulations and hardships that you have gone through, you are the person you are because of the people that have walked into your life, even if for a second, that person might have told you something to change the way you think, maybe even act. From the time you were born to the day you die someone and something will change the way you look at life. It’s part of life, it’s a journey you take to become the person you are, the person you want to be.

    Don’t take for granted the little we have left with the people we have. If your reading this and I know you, remember that I will always love you, care for you and be here for you, even if I don’t say it all the time.

    ~“Life is full of beauty. Notice it. Notice the bumble bee, the small child, and the smiling faces. Smell the rain, and feel the wind. Live your life to the fullest potential, and fight for your dreams.” – Ashley Smith

    XO,
    Kristin Nicole

  • Any Plans for Valentine’s Weekend?

    Happy "V" Day
    Do you have any plans for Valentine’s Weekend?

    Perhaps a romantic dinner at home with your significant other. Or are you going out to dinner this year? Perhaps a romantic walk on the beach, a concert at the Deering Estate, or just some fun in the sun during the day, the beach or the coconut grove art festival. If you don’t live in Miami, what are your plans?

    Every year Valentine’s comes and it’s made a big deal by marketers, to buy flowers, and candy and gifts. Some people like to take vacations to celebrate their love. This year we are lucky that it lands on a Saturday. The last two years with my boyfriend Valentine has landed during the week, so we celebrated at home with a nice dinner, candles and wine. This year however, it’s on a Saturday and I don’t know about you, but I want to do something, go somewhere.

    People think the economy is doing bad, and it is. However people have to eat, and people are still going out and enjoying themselves, especially on Valentine’s day. My boyfriend called Flemmings to make reservations, we have been wanting to go for a while, so we figured why not on “V” day. Well they were already booked and this was last week. They only had a 5:00pm and a 10:15pm reservation, I figured we can snack on something in the house around 7 to hold us over and we would take the 10:15 but then we weren’t sure if wanted to do that or not. I told him to either make the 10:15 reservations, or call Shibui (Our favorite Sushi restaurant) and make reservations there or surprise me. I don’t care where we go, as long as it’s with him and NOT at home! I don’t know if he finally made reservations or what we are going to do, but I’m sure it will be wonderful either way.

    Some people are going to the Coconut Grove Art Festival on “V” Day. I definitely want to go, but since my boyfriend has to work on his project Wheresmypet.com I’m going to go enjoy Sunday with my mom and aunt, while we eat, eat and eat and walk around! 😉

    Share your “V” Day ideas….I would love to hear from you. Add some Romance to your "V" Day

    XO,
    Kristin Nicole

  • “Kitty goes to the dogs” must read article, here’s my advice….

    Okay so I usually update soapnights, once a day, but I read this article and had to share……it’s about this 51 year old women who is missing having sex with her husband and they just got a new Japanese Akita, and her husband points out that the dog is horny because he needs to release himself and that why doesn’t she just have sex with the dog. WTF is that????!!!!! Are you kidding me. You can read her letter and what Kitty replies to her HERE

    So this is my advice Juana,

    Are you seriously thinking of having sex with a DOG? Are you missing sex that much? I have a solution for you. One you need to tell your husband that he’s sick for even insinuating that it’s okay for you to have sex with your pet. That if he finds that okay that he should have sex with the freaken dog himself. Second you need to give your husband two ultimatums, One if he doesn’t have sex with you more often then you’ll have to go buy a TOY! Yes a toy…..it’s another alternative of getting off rather than Humping your DOG! It’s called the “Rabbit” and they also have many other ones that I’m sure will pleasure you. Second ultimatum, if he doesn’t have sex with you more often you might have to result in CHEATING! Now I don’t recommend cheating, but wtf are you supposed to do if your own spouse/partner isn’t giving it to you for weeks, maybe even months? We need to feel that closeness with someone, a HUMAN someone not a dog. So please, please don’t try having sex with your dog and if you do read this, you might want to think about talking to your husband and spicing up the sex life somehow, and that does NOT include your DOG!

    XO,
    Kristin Nicole

  • Friends beat teen for refusing to rob home in Florida

    First off, what is this world coming to? Seriously??

    Look at this story Friends Beat teen for refusing to rob home in Florida.

    Some “friends” of this teenage boy took him to a vacant home and made him strip and beat him up because he wouldn’t help rob a house in Florida. ARE YOU SERIOUS?

    These were supposed to be his friends. Supposedly the 4 boys were all close friends. I just don’t understand though, that if these boys were supposed to be his friend, why they would do such a thing. They say the boy got away and had to run to someones house to call the police. They didn’t release the names of the boys since they are juveniles. The three boys are being charged for beating.

    Again, what is this world coming to? When I read these stories it makes me sad to think that I have to bring a child into this world one day. A world that doesn’t know the kind of harm they are only causing themselves.

    XO,
    Kristin Nicole

  • Happy Anniversary

    Yesterday was my two year anniversary with my boyfriend. I couldn’t ask for a better night. He gave me a beautiful necklace that matched the ring he got me last year. I got him Fifa 09 for the PS3 (It’s one of his favorite games) and I got him Jason Mraz tickets for December 5th

    After opening our gifts we went to Texas de Brazil. The food was delicious. We ate so much that I couldn’t even walk around afterwards. We tried though, we went to Borders but I just had to sit down before I exploded. LOL. We went home and well ….I don’t kiss and tell 😉

    So back to Jason Mraz, I’m actually listening to his songs right now, I can’t wait to go see him. I plan on getting off work a bit early that day to go home and get ready because it’s at the beach and the parking becomes a mission. This way we can get there with plenty of time, and then go out to eat afterwards. =)

    xo,
    Kristin Nicole

  • Trying to buy a home…

    So here’s the thing, my boyfriend and I have been trying to find a home since December, we started looking knowing it’s the time to buy and with all the houses we have searched and looked for we came up with one, we put in a bid and someone put in a bid higher than us, this discouraged us and we haven’t been looking that much until recently again and I can’t help but feel that we’ll never find the right home. Am I being too picky when I don’t think the neighborhood is up to par or the fact that there is wires hanging from the roof or the roof is too flat, the inside needs way too much work? Why can’t I find the perfect home for the perfect price? Impossible I am starting to believe.

    So we wanted to see a house and our Realtor calls and he doesn’t have a Supra so you think the Realtor who is selling the place would want to show it to potential buyers? Wrong, she says she is too busy and to call her next week, thing is next week my Realtor will be out of town so hopefully she will show it to us without him being here, and then she goes to tell our Realtor that the place is in really bad condition, unlivable…what kind of Realtor is this. Let us decide that first!!! So frustrated!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • What is a True Friend?

    Sometimes do you wonder who your friends really are?

    Are there actually true friends out there?

    I have asked this question many times, maybe it’s me, maybe there is something about me that for some reason I can’t keep a friend. Sometimes you trust a person so much, you let them in and then somehow they just let something go along the way.

    I had a friend in high school who was one of my best friends. We were supposed to go eat sushi when she decided to pick up and leave and run away from home and go with Miami Dade Youth Fair. Yes the FAIR! I couldn’t believe it either. I felt almost abandoned. Wasn’t this person my best friend, didn’t they think of me the same way. They had just confirmed the night before that we were going to go eat out the next day. So why would they just pick up and leave and not say anything to me? An answer I will never have, because the first person I want to call when I am down or in trouble is my best friend. If it was her decision to leave then she could have at least told me what was going on. I worried for months not knowing where she was, if she was okay. Finally her mother find out she was with the fair and I got a phone call. I forgave her, at least a part of me did, just happy to know she was okay but still angry she just picked up and left with out saying anything. She finally moved back to Miami and we were friends, until one day I found out she was talking about me (badly) to my boyfriend at the time. Now not being with that person and realizing what a liar he had become I sometimes wonder if he was lying, and if maybe I over reacted when I decided to not talk to her anymore. My mother never liked her, not much of my family did, but I knew the things she went through growing up and I guess a part of me saw the good in her.

    I had another friend from high school, we stopped being friends over a rumor. We found out it was a rumor and agreed it was dumb to have believed the person spreading the rumor, but our friendship was never the same. A few years after we graduated we bumped into each other at a club and we just picked up where we left off. It was great. I moved away and when I did she was really upset that I had decided to leave. I understood but that moment in my life, i needed to grow and change. When I moved back I had lost touch with her along the way because she had changed her phone number. She claims she lost my number as well, I took the chance knocking at her door and she still lived there. We got together a few times, she had a baby and everything, last time I spoke to her was when I had just started dating my boyfriend I’m with now. She was separating from her husband and had met someone, I said we needed to get together so everyone could meet. And then I lost my phone at Disney and I tried emailing her until the email finally bounced back. She was another friend my family didn’t really like, she was loud and outspoken. But I believe she was a good person and a good friend, but i guess not good enough to try and keep in touch with me. So another friend lost.

    I had another friend that when we met we clicked and became best of friends. When I was separating from my ex, I was going through a hard time, and needed a friend, and she became the biggest bitch to me. I told her I thought she was a friend that would be there for me but I GUESS I was wrong. After that we talked a few times but lost touch. I felt like it shouldn’t have been my move to try and make things right.

    My other friend she has been through a lot too, and depressed a lot. She would get lost every once in a while, and I would hate that cause i would worry about her. The last time I spoke to her after calling her for over a month and her not answering or returning my calls, she says she didn’t want to keep bothering me about her bad relationship and what not. I told her that it didn’t matter, i was always here for her. Then she stopped picking up my calls again and I sent her an email telling her how I felt and telling her that the friend she does hang out with is also in a bad relationship and i think she needs to hang out with more positive people, she probably didn’t like that, but I am a very honest person and I have to say what I feel. I have yet to hear from her and it’s been over 2-3 months.

    So is it something that I do? Or is it the choice of friends I choose?

    I have one friend that I have known since I was 13. I wish we would hang out more but I feel that we don’t because of her fiance. I am happy that we still have each other, we talk to each other every day. I also have my family, and that is something that is very important to me. They are always there for you no matter what.

    And most important and loving and supportive person other than family is my best friend, my boyfriend. He is my family, We have been searching for a house for a while now and I just hope to find one before the new year so that we can move in together. So besides loosing a few friends, you live and you learn and although i wish I can make amends with some of these girls, i just hope that they are truly happy where ever they are in their lives. As for me I have my family, my friends and the love of my life, I couldn’t ask for more.