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  • I have a problem with my boyfriend…..

    I found this question goggling away online and trying to come up with something to blog about…I thought it was interesting because I know this has happened to many girls and I know it’s happened to me before too. Take a look…

    The Question:

    I have a problem with my boyfriend. He tells me that he is going to call me and then he doesn’t. In a text I told him ‘thanks for calling’ in a sarcastic way. I know he understood what I was trying to say he just ignored it and said I love you. He made me so mad and upset. I want to get back at him and show him how it feels when somebody says they’ll do something and don’t end up doing it. How do I get back at him without being as mean?

    My response:

    Dear sarcastic,

    I know it’s hard to understand this because we aren’t men, and we don’t think like them. When we say we will call you back, or that we’ll call you later, it’s more likely we do then we don’t. Unfortunately men don’t see this as a concern, they don’t comprehend that when they tell us they’ll call us back, we expect just that. We don’t expect a telephone marathon, we just expect for you to call us back, even if it’s just for 2 minutes. I have done the being ‘sarcastic’ bit before (especially in a text) problem with this is, they usually just ignore us, because they don’t see anything wrong with what they are doing. My advice, don’t try to get back at him, he just won’t understand what you are doing or he just won’t care. Men aren’t like us, and they don’t care about the little things. Trying to get back at him isn’t going to solve the problem of him not calling you back. Be straight forward with him, and to his face, not on the phone or through a text or email, straight to his face tell him that it truly bothers you when he says he’s going to call and he doesn’t. Tell him that you need for him to try if he wants things to work. I know it’s hard sometimes to confront and as a women we think of all the negative stuff the man might say, but just think positive and if he really cares or loves you, he’ll call you back next time.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • Valentine’s Plans & More…

    Valentine’s Day

    Another Valentine’s is here, yes a year as passed by and now we are getting close to the day we all celebrate our love for one another. What are your plans for Valentine weekend?

    My Plans

    This year my boyfriend and I decided to go to Orlando, we did this for our first Valentine’s trip together and we thought it would be fun to do again. The last time we did this it was freezing that weekend and it seems that this weekend will be pretty cold up there again. I’m looking forward to it, it beats being all sweaty, standing in lines at the Parks. Other then going up to Orlando we don’t really have anything planned, just take each day as it comes and plan from there. Sometimes not planning and just going with the flow is the best part.

    Romantic Ideas:

    Any romantic ideas? This year Valentines is on a Sunday and if you have to work the next day like me you can always celebrate your Valentine on Saturday night instead of Sunday. However, I know most people do have Monday off, and that works out perfectly for those celebrating Valentines on Sunday. You can do a picnic in the park, or a walk on the beach, the weather is going to be perfect this weekend if you live in Miami. If you don’t live in Miami and it’s cold, snuggle up by a fire place, have some drinks, with dessert and light some candles all around the room, I’m sure that will set the mood. Dinner is always the number one thing people do, you can either go out to dinner, or make dinner at the house. Valentines isn’t the only time we have to be romantic but for some reason that’s the day everyone usually goes all out. So if you have any ideas you want to share PLEASE let us know.


    Dedicate a song:

    My boyfriend brought to my attention a new singer by the name of Kina Grannis, she is very good and was “discovered” cause she wrote a song about Digg (the website) and put it on youtube, she was signed to a label but then dropped for some reason, she now is getting ready to release her new independent album. (I just got this information from a comment that Kina was signed to Interscope Records but decided to part ways with them because they had a different vision for her music then she had in mind.–Thanks for the info). Take a look at her song called “VALENTINE”:

    or you can check out her website at KinaGrannis.com . Kina’s song is written for Valentines Day, stating ‘will you be my Valentine’? It’s a great song and I think many of you will enjoy it. You can also download her new single on the link above.

    Happy Valentines!

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • I need a Vacation

    I need a vacation, and I needed it about yesterday. So I know what you’re thinking, didn’t she just go to Seattle in August. YES, YES I DID! And I absolutely loved it. I hope to one day just be able to travel to different cities. Get to know a new place, be away from home enjoying that alone time with my boyfriend and without a worry in mind, for a couple of days, it’s just US. Us and this Great big City we know nothing about.

    Live some place you’ve visited?

    My boyfriend loved Seattle so much he wants to move there, heh. I on the other hand did love it. I do love the West Coast. I lived in San Diego, California for 2 years and I absolutely loved it. I want to go there one of these days with my boyfriend, I think he’ll love it too. I honestly think I was made to be a West Coast Girl. Now the reason I can’t leave Miami, one word, Family. I’m close to them and although I can manage to live away from them, because I have, I now have 2 things or rather I say little people who I adore and love so much, my nephews. I couldn’t see myself leaving and not being in their lives as much. But that doesn’t stop me from my VACATIONS!

    I’m ready… are you?

    I don’t know if I just got the feel of a great vacation or that I’ve just been so stressed with work, school, and always having something to do after my day at work, but I feel like I need another vacation and soon. It’s hard though, because I have to arrange it with my school schedule and I have to have enough time off from work too. Other then that, oh yea I have to save money for it too, but that can be done. Don’t eat out for a while, just save and have a great vacation that follows. I think I can handle that.

    Where do I go next?

    So I’ve been to Seattle. I want to go to Vegas again but with my boyfriend whose never been, but that’s a vacation I would love to save to go with a bunch of our friends. San Diego, I want to go to also, but I want to do a whole week so we can go to LA, Napa Valley and San Fran….Chicago I’ve heard is beautiful and fun, that’ another City we sure want to visit.

    Any Ideas? Any thoughts, or locations you want to visit, let me know, leave a comment.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • A Thousand Words

    Thousands of words spoken
    Could never really describe
    Every moment spent with you
    Through an angels eyes.

    If I give you a thousand kisses
    I could never convey
    The amount of love I feel for you each and every day.

    A thousand smiles in your direction
    And you could never see
    The million of smiles you give me when you look at me.

    A thousand worlds combined
    And in my heart you are mine
    I never thought I would find a love like ours intertwined.

    A thousand lives in our path
    A million to come
    But what I see in my heart
    Is the love I once lost.
    Now found through the light
    Given a chance to shine bright
    I look into your eyes and see what could be
    Everything around me has me falling to my knees
    Thanking the lord and the angels above
    For giving me your love.

    A thousand stars in the night and you only see one
    That’s how I feel when I feel your love.
    I never thought I find you in my life
    Everything I look for and all the days of our lives.

    Thousands of words spoken
    Thousands of kisses to come
    A thousand smiles in your direction
    A thousand worlds found as one
    A thousand lives in our path
    A thousand stars in the night
    No matter how many thousands
    It will always feel right because you are the man of my dreams
    The one I adore
    The one I want to be with forever & more.

    ©Written by: Kristin Nicole – Tuesday – April 10, 2007

    This poem I wrote back in April of 2007, I was looking through some of the stuff I used to write and it reminds me how much I really love my boyfriend and how much I really love to write. Hope you enjoy it.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • Seattle Trip ~ Things I did…

    My Seattle trip was extremely fun and so nice to get away from Miami and the weather.

    Things we did:

    We went to the space-needle. The view was beautiful from up there and I only wish it hadn’t been so foggy. Either way it was a lot of fun to experience. We also took the Underground Tour which I highly recommend if you are ever going to visit Seattle, it gives you a lot of the history on how Seattle was built and the tour guides are funny and fun. The art museum is a must see, if you are really into this kind of stuff. We had to rush a bit through it because we wanted to see it before we came back home (the same day) but it was still really nice to see. Pike Place Market is a must, if you have never been to Seattle it’s just one of those places that you have to see for yourself. All the fresh fruit, seafood, meat, flowers. Oh the flowers…. the flowers were so BEAUTIFUL! We also managed to take the ferrie out to Bainbridge Island. This island is an old town, you walk downtown in about 5 minutes, but it’s so worth going to see the beautiful houses off the island when coming in from the ferries.

    Food, Food and Food~

    We ate, and boy was it good! We ate sushi, and seafood, and steaks oh my! What else do you do on trips?!? If you want to know where we went to eat just ask me and I’ll be happy to link you to my Yelp.com account, where I reviewed all the places I went to.

    Seattle is a beautiful city and I look forward to visiting again.

    XO,
    Kristin Nicole

  • Two Years and Seven Months

    Two Years and Seven Months today you put a smile on my face.

    You opened my eyes
    You talked to me
    You said those words that set my heart free.

    With every thought in my mind
    I couldn’t believe
    That a man like you
    Would find me.

    You opened my heart
    To dreams unknown
    Wishes unanswered
    And stars that glow.

    With every beat in my heart
    You loved me.

    With every step I take
    You held me

    With every tear I’ve cried
    You showed me the way
    That no matter what happens
    In my heart you’ll always lay.

    A special place in my heart
    You and I will never part.

    Two years and Seven months ago today
    You let me in
    And with ever kiss I give you
    I love you.

    XO,
    Kristin Nicole

    ©Written By: kristin nicole – 2009

  • Words Unspoken

    With words unspoken I turn to you,
    With every being in me I say to you,
    The love I have is oh so rare,
    A moment shared is without a care,
    So deeply moved in the oceans blue,
    As I look at you and truly see,
    That what we have is special,
    That we share is true,
    With every pulse and every breath I know that I love you.

    Sometimes I stare into the sky,
    And wonder what will be,
    As I close my eyes ,
    I see you there,
    Holding me close as I pull back my hair,
    And with every sparkle in the sky,
    I see my future through your bright green eyes.

    With words unspoken I turn to you,
    I say I love you with meanings so true,
    And every night I go to bed,
    I say a prayer in my head.

    Lord watch over us every night,
    Because a love like this is hard to find.
    With every fiber in my soul, I love.
    I love…

    xo,
    Kristin Nicole

    ©Written By: kristin nicole – 2009

  • Man killed girlfriend in fight over beer and tried to have sex with her corpse

    I have heard my share of stories but this one, the title alone just astonished me. You kill your girlfriend over beer then you try to have sex with her corpse. How more sick can this get?

    The Story

    Robert Conde, 41 from Ft. Lauderdale was arrested Wednesday morning. He said he got in argument with his girlfriend over beer, he beat her until she couldn’t fight back, until she was dead. He removed her pants and tried to have sex with her, he then covered her up to lay next to her. Ruth Ann Trueblood (they didn’t disclose her age) was later found behind the building. They found Robert Conde not to far from the body and when asked if he knew her he said no, but then later said “OK, all right. I did it. I killed her,” this is what reports said.

    My fair opinion

    So another murder, another day right. Seems that way lately. Seems like anywhere you go or read, you hear about someone dieing. But over beer? Seriously?!?! Apparently so, folks. He beat her in the face until he knew she was dead. Unbelievable. I’m happy that he was caught because this man needs serious help. There has to be something wrong with a man, especially after confessing so easily. Who is Ruth Ann Trueblood though? Does she have family here? Is she a mother? Reports haven’t disclosed any information except her name and how she died. I just hope that Ruth Ann is resting in peace, I hope that if she does have family out there that they will be okay. I know it will take time to heal. It can’t be easy learning that your family member died over Beer?!

    If tears could build a stairway, And memories a lane, I’d walk right up to Heaven, And bring you home again. ~Author Unknown

    XO,
    Kristin Nicole

    If you want to read the full story Link Here.

  • Social Anxiety, Bad Relationships

    A friend of mine who was/is/sort of dating this guy has social anxiety. Now I say was/is/sort of because it’s an on and off relationship, and I just don’t know where they stand right now. So back to the story, my friend can’t even be out in a restaurant with him before he starts asking for the check. He doesn’t like to hang out with her friends, only the 2 friends he has. They don’t go out & they spend all their time in his room. Is this a relationship?

    What is social anxiety disorder?

    Most people occasionally feel the familiar signs of nervousness when meeting new people or speaking in front of a group. But for people with social anxiety disorder, or social phobia, these signs of nervousness are much worse. Their fear of everyday social situations makes it very difficult for them to function on a daily basis. Social anxiety disorder affects about 10.5 million Americans in any given year. Social anxiety disorder occurs more often in women than in men.

    The story
    But in this case it’s the male who is suffering from Social Anxiety. Now is it really social anxiety he has? Or is it something deeper, something else that is causing him to not even hang out with her friends. He has only been able to go to one of her friends house, and even there he is begging to leave and gets mad because he says they make him feel unwanted. What is this about? Get a grip I would say! Man up! What is your problem??? But what if his problem really is Social Anxiety? Can she live with this? I am one of her closest friends and I’m still waiting to meet the guy. It’s been over 6 months~!?

    Unhappy
    She hasn’t been happy in a long time, and they have nothing in common but watching shows on t.v. That isn’t a relationship. And yet she holds on to only reasons she knows. I can’t utterly understand the concept of staying in a relationship you aren’t happy in. Okay I take that back, I was in a relationship I wasn’t happy in. But to my defense I really wanted to be happy! Okay, so that’s how most of us women think! Even though we tell our girlfriends and deep down know that we aren’t happy, we still somehow come up with all these reasons to stay in a relationship, even though it’s tearing you apart inside.

    Why???
    Why do we do this? I guess a lot of us want to help that person (if they do have a problem such as social anxiety), or your don’t want to be alone, or you believe that you are so in love that you can’t find someone better, and some of us (no offense) are just stupid. Hey I was STUPID! DUMB, YOU name it, THAT WAS ME! But I opened my eyes and I realized that you cannot change or help a person that doesn’t want to be helped. And you cannot hope to be happy, you either are or you aren’t.

    Make a Change
    Put yourself first for once and do what is right for you. Don’t be scared to hurt the other person. In the long wrong they will see it too, that you are only doing what is right for the both of you. Why does he/she want to be with someone that doesn’t love them? And why do you want to stay with someone you don’t love? Move on!

    My Advice
    Back to my friend…Giving her my advice I would say. You are beautiful, smart, fun, don’t settle, find someone you love and that loves you back and that will be willing to do things you like. (Hanging out w/ your friends, going to the movies, dinner). Don’t settle because you have had some crummy relationships and he seems nice. Nice sometimes isn’t always what it’s cracked up to be. You need more than nice! You need love, laughter, trust. That’s another issue in itself TRUST! (He goes through her text messages). Then he confronts her on her text messages. (wow). So friend, the road is tough, and the journey’s are hard, but keep on moving because you’ll pull through stronger than ever and you will one day, I PROMISE find that man that will truly make you happy! (And that advice is to all women/or men out there who think they can’t find anyone better than the person they are with now). Trust me you can! I let go of the unhappiness and now I FOUND what is real. I found love and I couldn’t thank god anymore than I already do for giving me the strength to finally let go and move on. So be strong, and move one from that rut you say you can’t possibly get out of. Because I KNOW YOU CAN! & YOU WILL.

    The strength of the heart comes from the soundness of the faith. – Saudi Arabian Proverb

    XO, Kristin Nicole

    If you want to learn more about Social Anxiety and get books etc. Go to: Socialphobia.org.

  • Support your Partner, Family &/or Friends?

    How do you know when it’s the right time to support the partner, family or friend you are with?

    I heard on the radio the other day a women calling in, saying that she wanted to own her own business. Her husband didn’t want to support her. He said they didn’t have money for it and she couldn’t do it. She didn’t let that stop her, she got a loan and opened up her own business and now she is doing great. She says she doesn’t give him a dime and she can do as she pleases because since he didn’t support her he has no say in her business now. Why wouldn’t her husband support her?

    Support
    If my boyfriend told me he wanted to do something that can make him money, whether or not I agree with it, and whether it’s something I would do or not, I would support him. Why? Because it will make him happy. And what makes him happy makes me happy. Whether it works out in the end or not doesn’t matter. If it didn’t work then you take your losses and you start over. But at least you know you tried. If it does work, even better! I can understand if the terms of building a new idea was going to cost you to invest a lot of money, money you perhaps don’t have. I can see, where being hesitant to support your partner comes in here. If this isn’t the circumstance then I don’t see the problem. Don’t bring someone else’s dream down just because you may think it won’t work out.

    To Support or Not to Support???
    Now how do you know what to support them in and what not to support them in? Some people mistake this a lot believe it or not. If the person you know is doing drugs, but you are afraid to tell them how bad that is for them, or that they need help, or you think they will get mad at you. This is the time to not support there habit. This is a totally different situation than the one I described above. Do you care for them? Love them? Then take your chances, because when that person truly realizes that what you are doing is because you care for them and love them then they’ll get over the anger, but don’t support there habit. Help them by supporting their recovery. Be there for them by helping them not making it worse.

    Do not Support
    If someone you know drinks too much, same thing. Tell them they need to stop or your relationship is going to disintegrate. I know it’s harsh, but they need to know these things, and if they truly want to help themselves and they truly love you, they will at least try.

    Try to support the person you love the best way you know how. Everyone needs to make their own steps in life and learn from them, but it doesn’t mean that you can’t help push them in the right direction sometimes. Supporting someone’s dream and supporting someones drug or alcohol problem are two different things. By supporting someone in who is addicted to something is not helping them it’s only making it worse.

    ~Note: This is only my opinion take my advice if you choose to. ~ Thank you ~

    “We should never permit ourselves to do anything that we are not willing to see our children do”. – Brigham Young

    “At the end of every hard day, people find some reason to believe. – Bruce Springsteen

    XO,
    Kristin Nicole