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  • Small moments do matter!

    When I was younger I felt sometimes as if my world was falling apart. I didn’t know what to do, where to turn. If I went right, I was supposed to go left. I held people in my hearts to the highest power, until they lost my trust. Then I blocked them out of my life, because who needs someone in their lives who is only going to hurt you?

    You feel
    Sometimes you lie down and you feel as if the world is spinning, almost as if the world will come crashing down on you any second, and when you finally get the courage to open your eyes and look out the window you can truly see the world isn’t spinning anymore. You take a deep breath and start another day with a smile on your face. Not all days were like this, but most of them. Hiding behind a shield, pretending to be someone your not, only to realize you don’t even know who you are anymore. When did you start pretending and when did it get so far that you lost yourself? Questions asked, answers un-answered.

    Small bit of hope
    Then there comes a time in your life when you finally realize things need to change, you need to change. For the better. I used to think like this. Struggling to find a way out of a hole I put myself in, yet I couldn’t find the way out. But has I got older I started to realize that life comes with it’s ups and downs, and sometimes weather we like it or not we have to sit down and realize that even if we aren’t happy in that moment doesn’t mean we’ll feel like this forever. A small bit of hope entered my heart, and this is what kept me going….

    Never give up
    Strive for what you want don’t let it go, no matter how many tears, no matter how much anger or burdened feelings you have inside, get up and fight for what you want. Because if life as taught me anything in the 26 years of living, it’s taught me to be strong, to live life in the moments that sometimes just seem to pass you by. When you finally realize how not to take things so personal you also start to realize the world isn’t so bad.

    Things do get better
    As you grow older you start to see the world in a different light. You start to notice that not all flowers bloom in the spring. Thinking positive and believing in what you want is what makes you stronger. Look at the small moments in your life that made you laugh, or smile. Aren’t those the moments you always remember. People take life for granted, they don’t realize that the smallest moments in your lives sometimes are the greatest moments you will ever experience. I remember when I was about 7 or 8 years old and I was hanging out with my grandmother that day (on my dad’s side). She told me she had a surprise for me. My surprise: Taco Bell. I was ecstatic, taco bell, my favorite, when I was little. Small moment = Great moment. We spent the entire day together, eating at Taco Bell, Playing board games and watching The Price Is Right! Again small moment = GREAT MOMENT! I have had many small moments in my life that made me smile. For my birthday I went with my boyfriend to Key Biscayne and with our new camera, we spent the day taking pictures. Some may think this was a small moment, but to me it was a GREAT Moment. I had so much fun, just relaxing and taking pictures. It was almost as if I was somewhere else just for a few hours.

    Whats my point
    Whats my point? One point in my life I felt as if the walls were closing in on me. I had locked myself in a box with no way out. Then I grew up, I realized that there is more out there in the world. There is so much more to see and feel. Even though life is hard and we remember the pain that we go through, you have to sit back and remember all the good times you have had too. Life is too short to only remember the bad. Close your eyes and picture a time you felt really happy. Wasn’t that a great moment in your life?

    Small Moments = GREAT MOMENTS!!!!!

    XO,
    Kristin Nicole

  • Who is to blame?

    I have a friend who continues to contemplate weather or not to break up with her boyfriend. I can’t stop to think, what is she thinking? But who is ever thinking anything when they believe things can work? When you do love this person, but sometimes can’t distinguish at the time weather it’s love (for a friend) or I’m in love (you are my soul mate).

    She has tried to open up to him and change some of her flaws, (we all have them), but it never seems to be enough. I think in any relationship you try to change the things the other person may not like. I don’t mean to change your whole persona, you are who you are, and the person you are with should love you for you. When I say change, I MEAN like you don’t normally throw your laundry in the basket you throw it on the floor, and the person you are with dislikes this, you can change. Just throw it in the basket from now on. Small changes make a world of a difference.

    I can truly say I know both people. I know her boyfriend and I used to hang out with him a lot while they were in there long distance portion of the relationship. He has a lot of issues with his past and his family and trust is a factor he doesn’t carry very often. He can’t take responsibility for things he may have fault in and everything always seems to be her fault. Is that right? To always blame the other person? To never see your own fault? How much easier it is to blame the other person, so that if things end…”It wasn’t me. I tried my best, she/he left me. Poor Me”.

    Don’t cry about it, see what you are doing wrong yourself. Don’t you want to try and work it out with this person you say you “LOVE”? Then when the other person in this case, (the girl) tries to tell you how she feels, tries to reach out, you (in this case the guy), tries to turn things around as if it was all her fault. And poor little boy who cries in the corner gets dumped by his girlfriend. GIVE ME A BREAK! Grow up, be a man, stand up for what you really want. And if it’s not her, just tell her, but don’t play games and make yourself look like the victim. Don’t pretend as if she is to blame for the entire relationship falling apart. (Now I’m not to say it’s always the guy, there are situations where the girl acts this way).

    He told her he might move away for school, but he wasn’t sure, and this was decided before they became a couple. But don’t you think that now that they are a couple he should talk to her about this? He is moving to other side of the country, I’m not talking a few hours away. I’m talking plane ride, couple days in a car distance. This isn’t something you just do when you are with someone you say you love. Am I right, or am I thinking selfishly here? I don’t think you should stop your future plans especially if it’s for school, but it would be nice to have an adult discussion as to what may happen with “us” if you move away.

    I just hope that she truly chooses what is best for her, that she can see she deserves better. That anyone in that position guy or girl deserves better. And if you aren’t happy, get out, move on. There is someone out there for everyone, there as to be. I can not believe other wise. Because when I lost love more than once, I thought this is it, I’m going to be alone and never find anyone. Then god showed me that you just have to learn from your mistakes, or the mistakes of others and when you least expect it you find that person who is for you.

    This saying is small but cute – “If you love me, let me know. If not, please gently let me go”. ~Anonymous

    Relationships aren’t easy, but if you truly love the person you are with, you always try to make it work.

    If you have your own relationship stories, or questions please email me Soapnights@gmail.com. Don’t be shy, I’ll only tell you what I think, you can take it from there… =)

    XO,
    Kristin Nicole

  • Boyfriends are a Pain In The Ass (P.I.T.A) / Do men PMS?

    Do you ever wonder if men PMS like women do? They just don’t get the actual period like we do. Am I right or am I right?

    I think we all know that sometimes the roles are reversed. Sometimes I make a comment to my boyfriend and to his interpretation he goes off on me. He doesn’t see it of course. Now, had it been the other way around he would have gotten all upset that I was giving him attitude! That’s what we do when we PMS, right?? (sarcasm) So what does this say about our fellow species?

    Are they likely to PMS just not get their actual period? I believe this to be true. How lovely it is to be a man. I think it my next life I want to be a man. You don’t get all the symptoms that a women gets, you get to pee standing up and if it’s hot you can take off your shirt without people staring at you. (Well that depends).

    How many women out there have boyfriends/husbands that PMS around the same time they do? Or maybe a week before or after us? I swear my boyfriend PMS’s around the same time I do and if it happens to be before me, I always tell him it isn’t time to PMS, we don’t get our period till much later.

    No matter what our emotions are though, we are all allowed to have a bad day, and at the end of the day when I go to lye down in bed, I look over to the side and I know that no matter how much a man may PMS, So do we! And at the end of the day I know I love him no matter what!

    Now if only men thought this way. 😉

    I found this quote and thought it was funny.

    ~“How can a woman be expected to be happy with a man who insists on treating her as if she were a perfectly normal human being.” ~Oscar Wilde

    XO,
    Kristin Nicole

    Believe it or not, I found a website that study shows men also suffer from PMS Link to the Source: Here.

  • Can/Do you watch porn with your boyfriend/husband?

    This article is fairly old, my boyfriend sent me this website a while ago, talking about a women who finds out her boyfriend watches porn on his computer. She gets upset at first and has questions as to why he has porn in his computer. Can it be that he’s not happy with their sex life? These questions often come to mind for women, because we don’t understand why men like it so much and why they sometimes feel like they need it.

    Maybe it’s just me, but I’m sure a lot of women out there think this way also. Are you ready for this???
    I always just assumed that all men have at least seen one porn in there lives. Don’t be shocked ladies, of course they have, and if they tell you otherwise they have to be lieing! Even if you don’t think your boyfriend does this, wouldn’t you assume that he at least has seen one in the past? We has women I think stay in denial that our guys like to watch this kind of stuff. Just like some women say, that their boyfriends never look at other girls in the street. Of course they do! Don’t act shocked, it’s nature. If you see a hot guy, wouldn’t you at least glance at him? It’s normal, now of course we don’t want them to be drooling over another girl when we are right next to them, there’s a limit MEN!

    On another Note
    I can understand a women getting self conscious or jealous of your boyfriend/husband watching porn. Because why do they need to watch other women going at it, when you are there when they need you to be? I’m not a man, but I can just imagine that it doesn’t have anything to do with you. Sex to men is just that, SEX. And watching someone else doing it on TV just turns them on in a different level, with no emotions attached. This doesn’t mean that they don’t love you.

    Have you as a women watched porn before? Maybe you should try it. Maybe you would surprisingly like it. Never say Never ladies. This might be another way to spice up your sex life. Not every man likes this though, most men I have spoken to rather watch porn alone. It’s more of a case of (My girlfriend/wife isn’t home and I’m horny, why not?!) situation. But some couples do like to watch it together.

    Remember men will be men
    Don’t get angry if you do find that your boyfriend/husband watches porn, maybe if they felt you were more open about it they wouldn’t hide it from you. Remember ladies, men will be men!

    Let me know what you think about this? Do men prefer there girlfriends/wife to watch porn with them? Or by themselves? As a women would you be willing to try watching porn with your boyfriend/Husband?

    ~ “Laugh as much as you breathe and love as long as you live.” -Anonymous

    XO,
    Kristin Nicole

    If you want to read what she has to say Click HERE.

  • Taking things for Granted

    Taking things for Granted
    There are things in life that people always take for granted. I believe that the human mind sometimes can’t help but take things for granted. We take our Parents for granted, our spouse or significant other and we take our Family and Friends for granted. Do you really stop to think and thank the people in your lives each day? Do you really stop to ”smell the flowers”? We take life in general for granted. We probably don’t even thank god each night for being blessed with the things we do have in our lives, because I always believe that things in life can be worse, that there is someone out there worse off than you. I hear people complain all the time about how they don’t have money to go out, shop to do things they want. (I’ve been one of those people) People don’t realize that sometimes those things aren’t what makes a person happy. I am the one person to believe that it helps, every one loves to have material things, to go out and have fun. But did you ever stop to think that even people with money have problems? Sometimes they have so much money but no family to love and have support from.

    I rather have my family and my boyfriend in my life over all the money in the world, because with out them how can I enjoy basking in the joy of money, who will I go to dinner with or on Vacation with all this money if I have no one to share it with. If I have no one to share it with what will be the purpose of having all that money? And who’s to say that you can’t live life with out having a lot of money? Do you have a roof over your head? Do you have food each day? Do you have a family to go to if you were in trouble? I say that if you have any of those things you are pretty well off, because there are people in the street with no where to go, no family and no food. So be thankful that you have a job to hold your own, that you have a bed to go to and food to feed you.

    Taking your parents for granted
    Back to taking your Parents for granted…. Do you really see the sacrifices they make for us? How much love they give to us, they taught us things to make us into the person we’ve become today. Even if you don’t get along with your Mom or Dad they still brought you into this world and they still love you unconditionally because that’s what parents do. They stop to give you the world if they knew that’s what you wanted before getting hurt. Some people don’t have family. Some people aren’t as lucky to even have a family as I described above. Some people aren’t meant to be parents, and the children are the ones that suffer.

    Friends
    If you have just one friend cherish your friendship and don’t let stupid things get in the way of it. I have lost many friendships, some over little pettish things that happen in everyday life, things you think are huge at a certain age or time. Looking back, some of these friends I wish I still had in my life.

    Relationships
    I think we take our spouse or significant other for granted as well. Do you really see all the things they do for you because they care? Even if it’s the smallest things (like a note in your bag when you go to work saying they love you). Do you know how so many people wish they had/have that in their relationship. Cherish the moments, cherish the laughs, cherish the people who are in your life and who love you, because with out them who are you? You become the person you are through the tribulations and hardships that you have gone through, you are the person you are because of the people that have walked into your life, even if for a second, that person might have told you something to change the way you think, maybe even act. From the time you were born to the day you die someone and something will change the way you look at life. It’s part of life, it’s a journey you take to become the person you are, the person you want to be.

    Don’t take for granted the little we have left with the people we have. If your reading this and I know you, remember that I will always love you, care for you and be here for you, even if I don’t say it all the time.

    ~“Life is full of beauty. Notice it. Notice the bumble bee, the small child, and the smiling faces. Smell the rain, and feel the wind. Live your life to the fullest potential, and fight for your dreams.” – Ashley Smith

    XO,
    Kristin Nicole

  • Any Plans for Valentine’s Weekend?

    Happy "V" Day
    Do you have any plans for Valentine’s Weekend?

    Perhaps a romantic dinner at home with your significant other. Or are you going out to dinner this year? Perhaps a romantic walk on the beach, a concert at the Deering Estate, or just some fun in the sun during the day, the beach or the coconut grove art festival. If you don’t live in Miami, what are your plans?

    Every year Valentine’s comes and it’s made a big deal by marketers, to buy flowers, and candy and gifts. Some people like to take vacations to celebrate their love. This year we are lucky that it lands on a Saturday. The last two years with my boyfriend Valentine has landed during the week, so we celebrated at home with a nice dinner, candles and wine. This year however, it’s on a Saturday and I don’t know about you, but I want to do something, go somewhere.

    People think the economy is doing bad, and it is. However people have to eat, and people are still going out and enjoying themselves, especially on Valentine’s day. My boyfriend called Flemmings to make reservations, we have been wanting to go for a while, so we figured why not on “V” day. Well they were already booked and this was last week. They only had a 5:00pm and a 10:15pm reservation, I figured we can snack on something in the house around 7 to hold us over and we would take the 10:15 but then we weren’t sure if wanted to do that or not. I told him to either make the 10:15 reservations, or call Shibui (Our favorite Sushi restaurant) and make reservations there or surprise me. I don’t care where we go, as long as it’s with him and NOT at home! I don’t know if he finally made reservations or what we are going to do, but I’m sure it will be wonderful either way.

    Some people are going to the Coconut Grove Art Festival on “V” Day. I definitely want to go, but since my boyfriend has to work on his project Wheresmypet.com I’m going to go enjoy Sunday with my mom and aunt, while we eat, eat and eat and walk around! 😉

    Share your “V” Day ideas….I would love to hear from you. Add some Romance to your "V" Day

    XO,
    Kristin Nicole

  • “Kitty goes to the dogs” must read article, here’s my advice….

    Okay so I usually update soapnights, once a day, but I read this article and had to share……it’s about this 51 year old women who is missing having sex with her husband and they just got a new Japanese Akita, and her husband points out that the dog is horny because he needs to release himself and that why doesn’t she just have sex with the dog. WTF is that????!!!!! Are you kidding me. You can read her letter and what Kitty replies to her HERE

    So this is my advice Juana,

    Are you seriously thinking of having sex with a DOG? Are you missing sex that much? I have a solution for you. One you need to tell your husband that he’s sick for even insinuating that it’s okay for you to have sex with your pet. That if he finds that okay that he should have sex with the freaken dog himself. Second you need to give your husband two ultimatums, One if he doesn’t have sex with you more often then you’ll have to go buy a TOY! Yes a toy…..it’s another alternative of getting off rather than Humping your DOG! It’s called the “Rabbit” and they also have many other ones that I’m sure will pleasure you. Second ultimatum, if he doesn’t have sex with you more often you might have to result in CHEATING! Now I don’t recommend cheating, but wtf are you supposed to do if your own spouse/partner isn’t giving it to you for weeks, maybe even months? We need to feel that closeness with someone, a HUMAN someone not a dog. So please, please don’t try having sex with your dog and if you do read this, you might want to think about talking to your husband and spicing up the sex life somehow, and that does NOT include your DOG!

    XO,
    Kristin Nicole

  • Happy Anniversary

    Yesterday was my two year anniversary with my boyfriend. I couldn’t ask for a better night. He gave me a beautiful necklace that matched the ring he got me last year. I got him Fifa 09 for the PS3 (It’s one of his favorite games) and I got him Jason Mraz tickets for December 5th

    After opening our gifts we went to Texas de Brazil. The food was delicious. We ate so much that I couldn’t even walk around afterwards. We tried though, we went to Borders but I just had to sit down before I exploded. LOL. We went home and well ….I don’t kiss and tell 😉

    So back to Jason Mraz, I’m actually listening to his songs right now, I can’t wait to go see him. I plan on getting off work a bit early that day to go home and get ready because it’s at the beach and the parking becomes a mission. This way we can get there with plenty of time, and then go out to eat afterwards. =)

    xo,
    Kristin Nicole

  • Trying to buy a home…

    So here’s the thing, my boyfriend and I have been trying to find a home since December, we started looking knowing it’s the time to buy and with all the houses we have searched and looked for we came up with one, we put in a bid and someone put in a bid higher than us, this discouraged us and we haven’t been looking that much until recently again and I can’t help but feel that we’ll never find the right home. Am I being too picky when I don’t think the neighborhood is up to par or the fact that there is wires hanging from the roof or the roof is too flat, the inside needs way too much work? Why can’t I find the perfect home for the perfect price? Impossible I am starting to believe.

    So we wanted to see a house and our Realtor calls and he doesn’t have a Supra so you think the Realtor who is selling the place would want to show it to potential buyers? Wrong, she says she is too busy and to call her next week, thing is next week my Realtor will be out of town so hopefully she will show it to us without him being here, and then she goes to tell our Realtor that the place is in really bad condition, unlivable…what kind of Realtor is this. Let us decide that first!!! So frustrated!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!