Question: Is my best friend into me?
How to know if my best friend is now into me?
Response:
Just ask, it’s as simple as that. I know it’s easier said than done, but only true answers come from asking questions. If you don’t want things to be awkward then leave things alone. I don’t know the details of your relationship or why you think your best friend might be into you but it could be nothing.
xo,
kristin nicole
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The Question:
My friend is Bisexual, what should I say to her?
My friend told me and a load of other friends that she was bisexual over bbm (Basically a bc) [sic]. I’m going to see her at school tomorrow and she’s probably going to want to talk about it, but I have no idea how to respond.
I’ve only ever been in 2 relationships and I get pretty awkward when people talk about stuff like that, what could I say to her when she mentions it?
My Response:
Dear Friend;
If she’s a good friend of yours, don’t worry about it too much. She probably just wanted to be honest with her friends and a little support is probably all she’s looking for. It can’t be easy to come out to your friends, so just try to be there for her. To be honest with you, there really isn’t much to say, if you accept her the way she is, just let her know that you respect and support her no matter who she likes. She may be confused and just wants support from her friends, the best thing you can do is be there for her. Support her and listen to her, don’t stress about what to say or do. Just be there for her.
xo,
kristin nicole
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The Question:
The Question:
Is he basically lying to me? Does he even like me?
This guy I like has been showing signs that he likes me and things were really going well. I went out for a walk the other day and we bumped into each other. I asked him if he wanted to come with me on this walk. Everything was really nice and we were really flirting. Next minute my friend rings saying she’s allowed to come over, so I tell her to meet me.
My friend turns up and this guy instantly starts looking her up and down but is still in deep conversation with me. He then starts making jokes about her having sex and that she’s always doing it. I then start talking about something serious and he interrupts by walking past me and picking my mate up on his shoulder. He keeps touching her arm and messing with her hood in front of me like I’m not there. He then start adding her on Facebook and flirting with her. We walk to his house and when we get in he tells me to sit on the other side while they sit together, but as soon as she goes home he’s asking me to message him.
He called me today and I said I’m not going out again and he was like ‘why not? I’ll have to drag you out!’ What is it with him and why is he leading me on and then clearly flirting with my friend?
Please help
My Response:
Dear Confused;
He is obviously trying to have his cake and it too (sorry for the metaphor) but it fits perfectly with your situation. It sounds like you need to talk to your friend first. Does she know you like this guy? If she does then it’s wrong that she would be flirting with him right in front of you instead of trying to help you out. If this guy really liked you then he wouldn’t be flirting with your friend right in front of you. I say move on and find a guy who is really into you and not trying to mess with your head. It sounds like he’s trying to hook up with your friend and then hook up with you while your friend is away. If he really liked you he would have already asked you out. This doesn’t seem to be the case, so move on and find a real man.
xo,
kristin nicole
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The Question:
I’m a 14 years old boy. I feel trapped in my own house. I can’t act like myself around my family. Ever since I came out as gay to my parents, my mom has been calling everything I do “gay.” For example, I was listening to my Ariana Grande album and my mom said it was girly and to turn it off. My dad made me change and wouldn’t let me wear skinny jeans to school. They are trying to change everything about me. My mom said “gay is not gods way.” and my sister constantly calls me a fag. They even make fun of my voice. I try to talk deeper but it’s so obviously fake. I can’t help the way I talk 🙁 It’s so hard living like this. Advice please?
(Edited)
My Response:
Dear Coming Out;
It hurts me to hear what you are going through. It’s a hard to come out to ones family and then to be called names and constantly being told what you do is ‘gay’ is just wrong. Try sitting down with your parents again and try to explain to them how you feel. If this still does not work try talking to a counselor at school. Do you have other family that you can talk to? If you do and if they are accepting with who you are then talk to them. See if you can spend more time with them and less time at home until your parents start accepting who you are. It’s not easy for parents to accept their child is gay but it gives them no excuse to treat you the way they are treating you. Talk to your sister and tell her how you feel, what she is doing isn’t nice and she needs to understand that. I hope things get better for you at home, but don’t ever give up on who you truly are. Be proud and stand tall.
xo
kristin nicole
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Question:
How do I ask a girl for her number? We are both in high school, I’m not sure if she likes me. She smiles if I talk to her and I make her laugh.
Answer:
Dear Number,
If you have already spoken to her and she’s your friend then don’t be shy. Just casually ask her for her number. If you can’t come up with the courage to ask come up with a reason. Do you have any classes together? Maybe ask to get together to study. Or get a few of your guy friends to get together and tell her you guys are hanging out this weekend and if she wants to join with any of her friends, then ask for her number. Don’t be shy, worse case she says no. But if she’s smiling at what you say and you guys are friends there is no big reason she would turn you down. Good luck.
xo
kristin nicole
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The Question:
We’ve known each other for nearly 6 years now and have been together for 2 of them. We pretty much live together as it is between her place and mine. Before we were going out I always wanted to be with her and I felt so strongly about her and loved her so much when we got together. But in the past few months I don’t feel like I love her anymore. I don’t want to be around her or talk to her.
I understand that when your with someone for a long time you get your down time for a while but I’ve had these thoughts before. The longer we’ve been together the more I don’t want to be with her. The only thing is we’re 16/17 and I’m her second boyfriend, and I helped her through her first break up and I don’t want to hurt her the way her ex did. I just feel like sh*t when I’m with her. We were so much better when we were just friends. Anyway, please can someone help me out? I don’t want to hurt her but I don’t want to be with her anymore and I feel so much sh*tter [sic] when she mentions marriage and how her parents and family think we’ll get married cause I’m so good for her. HELP!
My Response:
Dear Young Love;
Telling her the truth and not leading her on will be the first step. She will get hurt regardless because she loves you but in the end she will realize that you telling her the truth about how you feel is better then living a lie. You are super young, you guys are only 16/17 and you both have so much more dating left to do. I do not understand how her parents can possibly think marriage at your age, but don’t worry so much about everyone else and what they think, worry about how you feel. You do not want to pretend to be happy in a relationship and you do not want to lead her on into thinking that one day you will get married when you know deep down that will never happen. It’s hard and you are going to have to sit down with her and tell her how you feel. In the end even if she doesn’t see what a great guy you are by telling her the truth now, eventually she will. Don’t ever settle for someone just because you do not want to hurt their feelings. Relationships are hard and when one person wants to end it there is always one person who’s feelings will get hurt, but it’s better you do it now then later down the road. Staying with her longer and then telling her you don’t want to be with her will only hurt her more. Communication is key to any relationship and I think you will be a great boyfriend to another girl one day, but you have to think about you and you have to think about her. It’s not fair for her to keep believing you love her when you don’t. Tell her how you feel, and although it won’t be easy, you can finally move on and start dating other girls. Live your life, you are still young and have so much more experiences to live for. Good luck.
xo,
kristin nicole
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(2011)
Sometimes in life the unexpected hits close to home. Sometimes we think we are invisible, that we will live forever, that tomorrow can wait another day, but sometimes that isn’t the case. There comes a time in some people’s lives where they need to mourn those they have lost, they have to try and understand the reasons behind something so unimaginable, try to cope and live each day with this weight on their shoulders. Life is given to us but it doesn’t come with a rule book, or a guide book on how to live it, it doesn’t tell us how to cope with the struggles and losses we have endured. We live each day as if tomorrow will come, but the truth is, it does not matter how old we are, whether it’s a few hours old or 90 years old, tomorrow isn’t always promised.
Just this past weekend a good friend lost his step-brother in a car accident. When we think we are invisible at a young age we sometimes do crazy things, and this night was one of those nights. A family of four was caught in this accident, and a father and 15 year old son passed away, and the mother and 12 year old son are in critical condition. The driver who was racing is in critical condition as well, but my friends step-brother Ivan wasn’t so lucky, he too passed at the age of 20. We don’t think about the consequences or what or who we can hurt with the decisions we make in life, and we don’t understand why things happen the way they do, but we wake up each day knowing that the decisions we make in life do in fact impact others, whether they are close to you or just mere strangers walking by.
This tragedy has opened eyes to many, and although we cannot understand why it happened, we will pray and hope that one day the families that have lost those they loved can move forward with their lives. We hope that the pain of losing those we loved won’t hurt as much one day. We pray and we hope that one day we can understand the reasons behind why things have to happen.
Rest In Peace Ivan Rodriguez, Jr.
xo
kristin nicole
Are you stupid, blind or just naive,
Can’t you see what you are doing
is going to change everything?
This isn’t a game,
There’s people involved
You can’t pretend it didn’t happen
You can’t turn back…
In the midst of light
I see you
when I look at you
I thought I knew you
Now I look at you
and I see a stranger
A person who lies
A person who schemes
A person in which today I see
but tomorrow I flee
When the world seemed to crumble down
you shut us out
When you shed tears of sadness
You cried alone
When your heart falls apart
no one will be around
because in every moment of sadness you
pushed the people you loved away.
Today I open my eyes
and I SEE that nothing is ever really meant to be
But with every hope inside
I come to realize
that illusions of the heart
make you blind
It is not that you are stupid
blind or naive,
its that you are a child who just can’t see…
xo,
kristin nicole
© ~Written By: kristin nicole – April 6, 2011 (Wednesday)~
Everything happens for a Reason….
Sometimes we don’t understand that the things that are happening to us in the moment are reasons we will one day hope to understand. Sometimes we fight for something that just isn’t meant to be. I used to believe in fairy-tales and happily ever afters but after a while you stop believing. You start to wonder if any of it is even true, and if it’s even possible.
I pictured my life a certain way and when god had other plans I realized that I can’t control fate or life, I can only try to control how I feel about it and I can only control what I will do next to make it better.
In life I have come to learn a lot at my age. I have gone through more than most and yet so little compared to others. You can never compare what you have gone through in life to what someone else has gone through, because although you may think that what you have gone through wasn’t easy, and I’m sure it wasn’t, what the other person may have gone through could have been worse or just simply another situation that was just as hard. I couldn’t imagine going through the things that I know some have gone through, and I don’t judge but I look at them with honor, and grace in knowing how strong some people can be, how strong some can overcome the odds and become good people.
There are still things that happen that I have no explanation for, and sometimes I just want to help those who won’t let me in. I feel bad and I feel like I’m pushed against a wall with no where to turn. If that person knew how much I loved them and cared for them they would know that at any time they could come to me, and at any time I would always be there for them. Although I was just like this person I knew when it was time to need someone. I always had my mom that I could count on. Sometimes we need to put our pride away and open up to the people around us that love us and care for us, because in the end they are the ones that will always be there for us.
Everything happens for a reason, and although I don’t have the answers, one day you we’ll see and understand why it happened. I used to believe in fairy-tales and happily ever afters and although I gave up on that, I still have hope inside that one day I will have my fairy-tale, and one day I will have my happily ever after, because everything happens for a reason.
xo,
kristin nicole