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  • How can I help my friend who’s son ran away from home?

    The Question:

    How can i help my friend her son ran away three days ago and she thinks something bad happened? He is her baby he is 14 and ran away three days ago and the police are involved now but i am unsure how to help her and her husband i want to just really unsure. Been there almost every day supporting her it just doesn’t seem enough i guess. Advice?

    My Response:

    Dear Good Friend;

    Just being there for her during this hard time is the only thing you can do. Letting her know you are there for her is good. This isn’t something that you can just fix. Her son is obviously troubled if he ran away from home. If the police are involved I am assuming they have filed a missing person report (this is the first step into finding him). A lot of people think that just because a teenager runs away from home they can’t file a missing person report and this is their first mistake, he is still a minor and they can file a missing person report in hopes that if someone spots him the police can pick him up. Three days must feel like a decade to your friend and her family, and I couldn’t imagine the thoughts that are going through your friends head. Just keep doing what you have been doing and be there for your friend, other than that, there really isn’t much more you can do. If you want to help other than moral support, you can try posting pictures of him around the neighborhood, gather some people from the neighborhood to help. Even though he ran away from home, doesn’t mean something hasn’t happened, and doesn’t mean you can’t go about it as if he was missing or taken. I hope he comes back home soon and my prayers are with your friends family. Keep praying and don’t give up hope.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • Why don’t I have a boyfriend?

    The Question – Found on Answers.Yahoo.com

    I don’t understand, boys tell me I’m pretty and nice all the time. I don’t have a boyfriend though whats up with that? What could possibly be wrong with me…..:(

    My response:

    Dear boy-friendless,

    There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You will learn that sometimes boys don’t always know how to ask a girl out. I was never the kind of girl to ask a boy out, but now a days, many girls are the ones to ask boys out. You can try asking the boy you like out, and if this route just isn’t for you then try throwing out some hints, or try setting up a few friends to go to the movies or to eat pizza and invite him to go, this will at least break the ice. Don’t act insecure, boys don’t like that, and that may throw them off, but if they are telling you that you are pretty, it’s more then likely they like you, and you might just have to step up and be the one to ask them out. Don’t be shy, be confident, you know you are pretty and fun to hang out with and soon you’ll have more boyfriends then you’ll know what to do with.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • What should I do about the way my best friend is treating me?

    The Question: Found on Answers.Yahoo.com

    We have been friends for a couple of years and a few months ago he told me that he liked me but he has a girlfriend so I was just going to go on with my life like normal. We texted each other everyday after school and talked all the time in class but when he was with his girlfriend he never talked to me. Then after a while there was drama between me and his girlfriend, and he told me that he didn’t care about the drama and he would stick up for me through it all, and he said that if they broke up we would be together. After the drama we texted for a while but now that we don’t have a class together he never texts me any more….I miss my friend what should I do?

    My response:

    Dear no longer friends,

    I think your friend was trying to have their cake and eat it too. He say’s he liked you, but then he had a girlfriend, but then “if” he left his girlfriend he would be with you? I’m not sure I understand? If he really cared about you he wouldn’t have said that, and he would have just broken up with his girlfriend to be with you. If he was willing to stick up for you and not his girlfriend, that doesn’t say much about him, it sounds to me like he’s a jerk. I’m sorry to say this, but when you have a girl/friend or a boy/friend and you enter into a relationship the friend in the opposite sex always gets pushed back a little. When you are in a relationship you don’t tend to talk to the opposite sex anymore because it might bother your boyfriend or girlfriend, it’s just the way things are. Him not texting you as much when he had a girlfriend is completely normal. I know it’s hard to not feel offended but this is what usually happens. I’m sorry but just because you don’t have a class together anymore doesn’t mean he can’t stay friends with you, if he was a true friend he would be texting or calling you to chat, but he isn’t. I say move on, I know you miss him but that will pass, you deserve better friends then that in your life. If you insist on trying, call him and ask him why he hasn’t texted you in a long time. Don’t text, people can ignore texts but if you talk to him in person or over the phone he has to listen to what you have to say. My opinion though, you deserve a better friend that what he’s been to you lately and I think you deserve better then that, you have to know that. Hope this helps.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • Am I too young to feel like this or is it natural?

    The Question: Found on Answers.Yahoo.com

    Well I’m only 13 but I always have this really maternal instinct. I really wish I had a little brother or sister but my parents are too old to have kids and whenever I see a little baby I always want to hold it and play with it. I really want to have a kid but I know I’m so young but it’s a really bad yearning and I obviously wouldn’t but I really, really want to. I have dreams all the time about having babies and stuff and I just don’t know if this is natural or not. So what should I do?

    My response:

    Dear Teen,

    It’s natural to feel and have maternal instincts. You are obviously mature beyond your years. This is normal in a lot of girls. Feeling this way and acting on them are two different things though. You have never been around small children, and although you know you have a soft spot for them, being around them and having one on your own are two different things. Children take a lot of work, a lot of attention and a lot of money. Don’t be in a hurry to grow up, you are only 13, your time will come when you are much older and ready to take on such a huge responsibility. If you like children a lot, have you thought about volunteering in a hospital, a day care, or any other place that has children. They have the big brother/big sister programs, I am not sure how old you have to be to join, but maybe your parents can help you get involved in one of these programs. There are plenty of programs that you can get into that involve being with children (research what is in your area), and this way you can help children that don’t have the privileges other children have. Hope this helps.

    xo,
    kristin nicole