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  • Who delivers near you?

    Delivery near you….

    Delivery has become a huge part in our society now a days. Many of us sometimes just want to cuddle near the television, watch a movie and order in. Why get dressed and go pick it up if they can bring it to your door?

    The problem:

    I recently moved to the Downtown area of Miami, and if you live there you know this is Delivery City USA…. Almost every restaurant even the ones that you think don’t deliver; Do! It’s great, so what’s the problem??? Some places either don’t deliver or I have no clue that they do deliver and how am I supposed to find out what restaurants are in my area? Sure there is Yelp.com which is one of my favorite apps, there is also Yellow Pages, Restaurants App, Around Me, Urbanspoon and much more that I’m sure I’m not aware of. My point…. All of these are great with finding a certain radius of restaurants in your area but none let you filter correctly the restaurants that DELIVER in your area. If a business isn’t added by you or me then we also don’t know about the place. Does anyone know of an Application or a website that offers this service? It would also be a great help if their menu was attached, how do I know what to order if I don’t know what they serve?

    No more delivery?

    Some places decide not to deliver. Do you think that this harms a restaurant in an area where competition to deliver is huge? Where the same food you serve there are 2 or 3 others that do deliver? One restaurant that comes to mind that I recently found is Mikan Japanese Restaurant. We ordered from here twice, the first time I ordered, it was brought pretty fast and not only that but the sushi was amazingly fresh and well lets just say DELISH! You can see my review on Yelp here. Well that day we found a great sushi spot that delivers & it was the day I found out I wasn’t going to be able to order delivery anymore, because they stated on a note that they were changing management and they would no longer deliver. WHAT?!? I know, I know….shocking, because there are about two other sushi places I can name off the top of my head that do deliver. I haven’t tried them so I don’t know if they are just as good but if I really don’t feel like driving and sitting down at Mikan’s then I most likely will try one of the other two in my area that do deliver, and I’m pretty sure I’m not the only one who thinks that way. Lets see how long they won’t deliver?!? Hopefully they will change their minds, because right about now, I feel like ordering me some SUSHI!

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • They want to marry me off but I’m already in love…

    The Question:

    Dear Kristin Nicole;

    I’m in a relationship with my boyfriend for the past 5 years and we decided that we want to get married. My mother knows everything about him and kept saying that I needed to leave him because my dad would never approve of him. (I am from Delhi) I never listened to my mother and I stayed with my boyfriend. I met his family and they all accepted me, then one day my parents told me that they wanted to marry me off. My mom told my dad everything about my relationship and how long I had been with him, and now he is so angry that he doesn’t want to see me, they do not agree with my relationship and say it’s an affair, he is not good enough due to making less money then they do. They want me to leave him but I can’t live without him and I do not want to marry any other man. They said if I want to marry him that I can, but I would have to leave the house and have no relationship with them ever again. My boyfriend wants to just leave and get married and take me away from my family but he doesn’t understand that I cannot just get up and leave them, they are my family, they are the only thing I’ve ever known. My family will be in great pain if I just leave them. I am caught in between and I don’t know who to choose.
    I’m really depressed about this because I can’t bare to live without my boyfriend. Please tell me what to do?

    I also want to mention one more thing here that our kundlis do not match and he belongs to a different caste; and the big problem I am facing is that I can’t run from home thinking that my parents have done a lot for me until now and if I run, how will they face the world? They will die with this act of mine, so I can’t leave my parents just like that; but my boyfriend is forcing me to run from home. I am not able to understand that; how should I handle both sides? I am really trapped in between my parents and my boyfriend. Please try helping me out.

    ~In Between

    My Response:

    Dear In Between;

    To my understanding you are in love with a man that your parents don’t approve of due to him not making enough money (that meets their standards), Religion (because you stated they wanted to marry you off to someone else) and they want you to marry a man you don’t love? You have to choose between your family or your boyfriend who you want to marry? You have been with him for 5 years but your father never knew about it? This is and was your first mistake. I understand that in your religion or culture that it is very different, but communication and honesty is key. You have a big decision to make and unfortunately I can not tell you what to do. You need sit down with your father and mother, explain to them that love to you is so much more important and that you love this man, you want to spend the rest of your life with him but that you do not want to loose your families respect nor their love or relationship with you. Your happiness means a lot and your happiness should mean a lot to them as well. I know that it is very difficult because your father is probably very stubborn and very true to his religion/culture and what you are doing is probably an embarrassment of some sort or disrespect. Unfortunately we cannot help who we fall in love with.

    If you talk to your parents and they are still making you choose then you have to make a decision. Also talk to your boyfriend, explain to him that this is not an easy decision, although you love him and want to spend your life with him, you can not just run away with him and leave your family behind to never reunite with them. You need time to talk to your family first; and to make a decision. Maybe your father will agree to a meeting with your boyfriend so that he can meet him and his family. You said that your kundlis do not match? and you belong to different caste? Is this a religion or this is a horoscope (I am confused)? You may not be able to convince either party to compromise, and this is when you will be faced with one of the hardest decisions in your life. Do you choose LOVE, or do you choose Family. Family will always be there for you, they will always love you even if they are making you choose love over family and they are your family. Love, love sometimes only truly comes around once, and sometimes we have to really think; can we give up everything for the one person we love? Can we give up what we have known all our lives because of love? Love comes and goes sometimes and although sometimes we feel there is only that one true love, love comes in many ways and forms and there is always love out there. This is something you have to decide, but take your time and try talking to your family and your boyfriend again before making such a hard choice.

    Good luck.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • Life’s speed bumps

    Life’s Speed Bumps

    In life we get some speed bumps that we can race through with just a little bump on the head and sometimes in life there are speed bumps that you have to slow down with, take your time and go over it, watching things pass by and watching the people you don’t even know race on beside you. Unfortunately life doesn’t have a sign that warns you about a speed bump like the sign above, in life we just come to a slow bump where we know; this is it….this is my speed bump in life…

    Where are we going?

    At my age you start to think about the future. What’s next, where am I going, what do I WANT in life? I’m not a teenager, I’m not in my early 20’s but I’m not old either, I’m just in between trying to find my way. Sure I have some regrets in life; like most we try not to regret, I try not to because we can’t change the past we can only change the future. (Okay, okay I know I sound like a commercial); but it’s true. I don’t regret many things in life, even the worst parts of my life I don’t regret, because it taught me lessons and it made me grow into who I am today. (Which isn’t so bad if I say so myself). The one thing I wish I had more ambition for, the one thing I wish I would have just finished was (if you guessed it) yes School. I’m still moving forward towards my bachelors and I have a long way to go, sometimes I am not even sure what I’ll finish studying, but I wish I had done it when I was younger, I wish I had finished and I would be doing it right now instead of struggling, working full time and going to school. Some people don’t know how tough it is, and some well I can’t complain, I have no kids and some people are full time workers, and full time parents and still manage to go to school and finish. I give 100% respect for those people, because I just don’t know where they find the time and energy to keep going.

    My thoughts:

    Like you haven’t been already hearing them; well my thoughts on this – move forward and keep on pushing. Sure I complain sometimes, and I get stressed and I wish like hell I had finished school or would just finish already because it’s so hard, but I keep going, I keep moving forward and I give thanks for all the things I do have that others don’t. Life gives you speed bumps, some you can go fast and some you just have to slow down, have patience and move forward. This is my speed bump, this is my journey and one way or the other I’m going over this speed bump. I’ll get to where I want to be and maybe one day you’ll actually see an article about me in a magazine
    🙂

    Until next time…

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • Is this the way marriage is suppose to be?

    The Question:

    Been married for almost 3 yrs and been together for 4. My hubby and I started going to therapy to learn how to communicate better with each other. Plus he is one that holds everything inside and lets it brew not to mention the pure hell his last wife put him through and the abusive relationship that I was in.

    Anyways, therapy was going very good for awhile then all hell broke lose. If I mention one thing about his kids and how I feel disrespected by them or how I feel that they are being handed everything my hubby flips out. We agree on things and then he does what he wants with OUR money meaning we both work full time and both contribute to the bank account. One issue is we are paying for his sons car insurance and not my daughter. Neither one of these kids live with us and both are high school graduates with full time jobs.

    His mother is constantly telling me how the love of his life was his ex and that’s where he wants to be for the sake of the kids. She will also tell my co workers my personal business and then deny she said anything. My hubby says nothing to her, he tells me to let it roll. And that she talks about everyone.

    His kids are disrespectful to me and my hubby claims they are joking. His 15 yr old son told me last week that I don’t make the rules around here, his dad does. And his dad says what goes, not me. This is my house that my hubby moved into. We don’t own it together nor rent it. This same young man told me before he didn’t have to listen to me he only had to listen to his dad, mom and his moms BF because he had the money. Again my hubby said or did nothing.

    When we were planning our wedding. I asked his two daughters and his niece to part of the wedding and he was sitting there when they were asked. About a week later I was talking to his oldest daughter (from another mother) via Facebook or Myspace (the ex wont allow her kids to be friends with me on either of these networks) and we were talking about the wedding. His ex told my hubby that their daughter was really upset because she wasn’t invited to participate in the wedding and wanted to be part of it. I tried to explain to my hubby that she was invited and he was there when we were talking about it. He couldn’t remember that day.So again I invited her and told her what we wanted her to do. She agreed once again. When our wedding came the daughter refused to do anything. She sat there and texted the entire time. He said or did nothing about it after making an issue out of it.

    Now at therapy he says all I do is complain. What am I suppose to do allow his kids to say or do whatever they want while at our house? Leave their messes every where? Only have sex when my hubby wants it? Ignore what his mother says no matter how much it hurts me? Keep handing out to his kids constantly while my daughter gets nothing? And sit and watch Xbox every weekend for 6-8 hrs at a time or watch tv in the bedroom? Not expect to have date nights on any weekend unless the kids mother has plans for them? According to my hubby it seems if I live by these rules then everyone will be happy!

    My Response:

    You obviously aren’t happy, being in a relationship where kids are involved from a previous marriage is always hard, that is why it’s best to date for a long time and make sure that the kids aren’t going to be a problem. A lot of what you mentioned happened right before you got married and you have been married now for 4 years, you need to sit down with your husband and communicate. This is why you went to counseling to begin with (to communicate) so sit down with him and explain to him what you are feeling, explain that things need to change, you need to feel respected by both his kids, mother and himself. He can’t always just take the kids side or they will never respect you. If he doesn’t want to change then you have to really think if this is the type of marriage you want to stay in? You said “According to my hubby it seems if I live by these rules then everyone will be happy!” Yes everyone will be happy, everyone except the one person that matters…. YOU! Stick up for yourself, communicate with your husband and try to resolve these issues, if you let them slide more, it is only going to get worse. As it is it’s already been 4 + years. If you want this marriage to work things need to change, if not you aren’t going to be happy. Respect yourself to know when you aren’t being respected.

    Good Luck.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • I abuse my wife, what should I do?

    The Question:

    MARITAL HELP!!!! PLEASE!!!!?

    Me and my wife, Petunia, just got into a huge fight. I remember tossing her across the room onto a glass table. She ceases to breath and is bleeding profusely out of her mouth. Perhaps I threw her to hard and perhaps she is faking. Can someone help me out?

    My Response:

    First off… ARE YOU KIDDING ME?? You got into an argument with your wife and you threw her across the room and she landed on a glass table and is bleeding and you think she might be faking it? The only help you need is anger management courses. You could have easily killed your wife, there is no reason any man should touch his wife in an abusive manner, I don’t care what the fight is about. If you can’t handle it walk away and take a break for a while until you can talk like human beings to one another. If your wife doesn’t call the cops on you for abuse then I don’t know what else to tell you.

    You definitely need help, and you aren’t going to find answers here, you need to truly get help some where if you are abusing your wife in this manner. I would start with calling the ambulance or taking her to the hospital if she is bleeding badly.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • Some people just don’t get me

    Some People Just Don’t Get Me….

    Do you ever try to explain to someone something they just don’t get? On an outsider point of view – we see things sometimes the person in the middle doesn’t see because all their emotions are clouded by the past, but as an outsider we can see both parties, we can see what it is about and we can give our opinion on what both sides may be thinking or feeling. Fact is, as much as we might think something, and even though the person in the middle might be clouded sometimes we have to realize that the person in the middle might just know a little more than we do, because they are the ones who actually experienced it, they are the ones who actually lived through it and they know how the other party is, they know what they are like and who they are. We only know what we see. It’s like seeing the book cover without really experiencing or reading the book.

    Who’s Right?

    No one is right! If you are venting to someone or sharing a story and someone has an opinion on what you should do or how you should act, well that’s just fine, but you cannot get upset if the person does not agree with the advice you are giving them. Everyone carries their own opinions, if we all thought the same way then life would be boring and we would all just get along, and there would be no conversations because we already knew what the other person was going to say. It’s not about being right or wrong, it’s about listening to the person and understanding where they are coming from and if they want your opinion give it to them, but if they just want you to listen; sometimes listening is just what the doctor ordered.

    When I’m upset….

    I just like to vent, I probably sound like an angry sailor filled up on caffeine because I rant and I curse and I tell you what I’m feeling because I get emotional so I get angry and pissed off, but after I rant and you listen and tell me not to worry about it, then I’m over it just like that, but some people, some people just don’t get me….

    Everyone is different:

    Some people don’t vent, they hold it inside until one day they explode and this isn’t good because why carry around such worry, or anger inside of you? Some people shyly tell a close a friend but don’t want to make a big deal of it so they tell them it’s okay what the other person did, but that it did bother them a little and they move on. (This is nice but sometimes people end up walking all over you and eventually you get so tired of it that everything ends up upsetting you). If something is bothering you, talk about it. Some people don’t like confrontation so we ignore it and we vent to other family and friends and we yell and we scream and we simply just let it all out so that we feel better about it and we can move on. Sometimes it is okay to not confront certain things because it’s really not a big deal to bring up and it will only cause more fighting and sometimes we just have to vent in order to get over it. Sometimes though we should confront it because if we don’t the other person might keep doing what they are doing and you will only become more upset about it in the long wrong. Me, it depends on the situation, sometimes I confront, confront, confront until you are tired of listening to me, but it’s only because I care and I want to get it out in the open and make sure there are no hard feelings between us and we can move on and be happy, other times I will reply with a firm answer but I won’t make a big deal about it I’ll just vent to my boyfriend or a friend and let it all out.

    Some people might not always agree with what I say and maybe I am wrong, but it’s how I feel and you can’t tell someone that what they are feeling is wrong. A feeling can’t be wrong it’s just an emotion and if that is what we feel then let us feel it. You don’t have to understand me to just let me feel and vent about what I’m upset about. Just understand me enough to let me vent.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • MIAMI Drivers

    Miami Drivers:

    Miami Drivers are simply; well what’s a nice word to say…. A**HOLES. Yup there really is no nice word. Every day I watch my surroundings, cars beside me, next to me in the other lanes and there is always that one person who has to be rude, cut you off, beep a horn, take a red light, stay on your ass. I don’t understand what the big rush in life is all about? Is the world going to end in the 2 minutes you might be late? Will something horrific happen if you don’t take that yellow light and actually stop and wait for it to turn green again? Tell me please so that I can understand why people are in such a hurry in Miami. Maybe it’s not just Miami, I lived in Texas and even though I didn’t drive at the time I remember my mom saying it was the most courteous drivers she’s ever seen. I lived in San Diego and even driven in L.A. & Okay L.A Drivers aren’t really that nice and it’s a little crazy, but I still think Miami is one of the worst places to drive in.

    Lets start off with just this morning; I’m coming out of my garage I go to make a left to get to the light to get out of my complex when this car literally has changed lanes to not stay behind me in the red and absolutely took it. I guess at 6:30 in the morning he has to get to work in a hurry. It didn’t stop there…Oh no…then I’m sitting waiting for the red light when this car literally stops slowly at the red light looks both ways and just takes it, only to stop at the other light once he made the immediate left turn (that’s what you get a-hole). My light turns green he’s still there… follow the curb around, make a left to get on the 95 and BAMB He get’s stuck at the red light before getting on to the 95…(See had you waited at the red light at our building like everyone behind me was, you still would have jumped on the 95 at the very same time I did). I just truly do not understand…. By the way, this wasn’t the first time I saw someone take the red light to make a left turn there. I understand traffic isn’t that bad there, but it doesn’t give you the right to take the red light before you are supposed to. Perhaps there is someone crossing the street you don’t see and you are only looking for cars coming your way. Or maybe you just didn’t see that car coming straight, what then? Have patience people, life isn’t going anywhere, and if it does it’s more than likely because you caused an accident for being a complete ass.

    People are always in a hurry, or you have your blinker on and they don’t let you in, (don’t pretend you don’t see my blinker), stop being rude and be nice for a change, you aren’t going to get there any quicker by cutting people off or not letting them pass, you might get there a whole 2 minutes earlier than you would have being nice. So next time you think about cutting someone off, being completely rude or taking a red light, think to yourself “is it really worth it”?

    Miami Drivers – Then they wonder why we are listed as one of the most “raged” drivers in the U.S.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • The bill comes due for Dez Bryant: $54,896 for dinner

    The Story: By MJD – Yahoo Sports

    Back in July, there was a big to-do about Cowboys rookie wide receiver Dez Bryant(notes) refusing to carry pads for fellow wide receiver Roy Williams. It’s tradition in the NFL that rookies perform menial chores for veteran teammates, so Bryant’s refusal drew some attention and criticism.

    The mini-controversy blew over quickly. Bryant apologized, Williams accepted and everyone moved on. Williams did mention, though, that Bryant would have to pick up a dinner tab, and at the instant that Bryant refused the pad-carrying, Williams suddenly got a little hungrier and a little thirstier.

    After the Cowboys beat the Texans, it was finally time for that dinner. The end result? Bryant probably wishes he’d have carried those pads. From Calvin Watkins at ESPN:

    Monday night at Pappas Bros. Steakhouse, Bryant took the offensive players out, then Williams invited the defensive players and when the night was over the bill came: $54,896.

    “They got the young fella,” said Bryant’s adviser David Wells. “What could he say? He had to pay it unless he wanted to wash dishes for a month.”

    Players ordered basically everything on the menu and even took home bottles of wine.

    Well played, Roy Williams. Not only was it a nice touch to invite the defense, but to also wait until everyone was in a celebratory and festive mood? That’s a veteran move.

    Even when you factor in the number of players who attended, it still comes out to a ridiculous amount of money spent on food and drink for each person. Active game-day rosters include 45 people. Figure that some people probably skipped the festivities, and some coaches and other personnel might have been there, and we’ll guess it was around 50 people. That’s still well over $1,000 per person.

    Revenge must have been delicious.

    My Thoughts:

    Really??? $54,896 dollars on dinner??? Really??? It’s crazy how much money is out there. This restaurant just made $54,896 in one sitting. Some people save months or even years to spend that amount of money on a down payment for a house, and some people spend that much money on a wedding. This was spent on a dinner. Now I know the “tradition” is for the Rookie to take some heat and do things for the veterans and I know Bryant was being a little bit of a spoiled brat for refusing to carry Watkins pads, but damn, he’s a rookie and he just started making the big bucks and he’s already had to dish out $54,896 (Okay so that might not be much to a person who’s possibly making millions) but it’s still a lot of money in the eyes of you and me who don’t even make that much a year haha. I guess a part of me believes he got what he deserved for not picking up slack and helping out and even though he apologized I guess the guys just wanted to teach him a lesson. But isn’t this a harsh lesson guys? I guess MJD is right:
    Revenge must have been delicious. and I bet he’s wishing he would have not been so stuck up about helping carry a few pads out to the field for practice. This should be a lesson to any future rookies out there. Carry the pads, it’s cheaper than a dinner out with the boys.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • Birthday Dare Turns Deadly In Dania Beach

    The Story: Written by: Lisa Bolivar
    DANIA BEACH (CBS4) ―

    Sep 27, 2010 12:25 am US/Eastern

    Timothy Jordan took a deadly dare during his 46th birthday party Saturday night, and lost.

    Jordan, who would have had his actual birthday on Sept. 28, took a $50 bet that he could swim across a canal near his Dania Beach home. He didn’t make it.

    Witnesses say Jordan, who was drunk, made it half way across the canal before he began flailing his arms and then went under at about 2 a.m.

    Friends gathered at the site told Broward Sheriff’s Office and Dania Beach Fire Rescue responders that Jordan had stripped down to his boxers before jumping into the canal.

    It took a couple of hours to find his body. At 4:21 a.m. BSO Marine Unite divers found Jordan at the bottom of 10 feet of water.

    While the Broward County Medical Examiner will confirm the cause of death, BSO homicide detectives currently are considering this an accidental drowning, according to BSO Spokesman Mike Jachles.

    CBS4.com

    My Thoughts:

    These are the kind of things that make you stop and think before you do. Jordan was going to turn 46 years old, he was still young and vital and had a lot of more years to enjoy with friends and family, and because some people get drunk and think they can fly doesn’t really mean you can fly. My question here is “No one tried swimming out there when they saw him struggling to swim”? And why would you actually let him swim out there knowing he was drunk? There is one thing to dare someone and see them get ready to to actually do the dare and stopping them and there’s another – actually letting them do the stupid thing you came up with for them to do. Now Jordan lost his life, but now the friend who thought it would be funny to see their friend swim across a canal drunk is the one that has to live with the guilt of feeling like they killed their own friend.

    Some people need to grow up. It’s okay to take dares, and live life on the edge and it’s also okay to back down when you really think it can end your life or end on a bad note.

    Some people say life’s too short, take risks, but if taking risks ends your life, then life really will be too short, shorter than it really had to be.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • How can I trust him and communicate with him again?

    The Question:

    We have been together about 4.5 yrs and I recently found out that when I was away one weekend a couple of years ago that he kissed one of my best friends. I confronted him about it and he says he is sorry and that he was stupid and would never do it again. I also confronted her and she said that she was sorry and didn’t want to tell me…afraid that I would be mad (ya think) and that we would break up. I have forgiven him and her and still love them both but I can’t forget and now now we don’t communicate.

    My Response:

    Dear Lied To;

    It’s hard to gain someones trust back, the fact that he kissed your best friend and then hid it from you for so long is hard. He can’t expect you to just forget just because it happened a few years back. You have to trust that it was only that one time and he’s been faithful to you for the past years until now. You have to think about that and you have to really find it in your heart to truly let go. If you feel that you can’t let go your relationship won’t last. Communicate to him, tell him you are still hurt about this even though you forgave them both and you feel that the two of you aren’t communicating lately. Communication is key, don’t hold on to this it will only harm you more. If you know deep down you won’t ever trust him, this is the time to speak up, don’t wait another 4 years before realizing that you could have moved on a long time ago. If you can forgive him and start trusting him again then do that, and when you feel like you aren’t trusting him about something just try to remember that this has never happened before (it was only the one time) it doesn’t make it right but the truth is out now and he’s going to have to deal with that. Did he tell you that this happened a few years ago? How did you find out? If he told you about it, then the lies were probably eating away at him and it’s a good thing he told you, that means he can’t keep secrets from you, however he did hide it for a long time and that is something you have to think about. It’s hard when someone lies about something so big and the lie comes out, but now you have to make a decision. Open up to him and try to make it work, or move on.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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