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  • Advice Column: Cheating boyfriend

    The Question: Cheating boyfriend

    He cheated on me after we’ve been going out for 5 months and we were best friends for years before that. He was my everything! We were together every day and we did everything together. I’m so lost and I miss him so much it hurts. He hurt me so bad and I know we need time apart (he hasn’t even exactly tried getting me back yet) but I can see it coming in the future. We said our goodbyes but I don’t want to live without him and my mind set right now is saying that I’ll see what he has to say whenever that may be.[sic]. No matter what happens I can’t forget that he put me through HELL, I cried for 48 hours straight and I hate him for what he did, but he was my first real boyfriend. I lost my virginity to him and he was the first guy I have ever loved. I still love him so much and its like the saying “what do you do when the only person who can make you stop crying is the one who made you start?” [sic].

    Please help, what should I do?

    (Edited)

    My Response:

    Dear First Love;

    Its hard and it’s not going to be easy because he was your first real boyfriend and you lost your virginity to him which is something very intimate. I went through the same thing you did, my first love cheated on me and went back to his ex after we dated for over 6 months. It hurt like hell, and you feel like your whole world is falling apart, and you feel like there isn’t anything you can do to make the hurt stop. I know it feels like this now and I know in a way forgiving him to just have him back in your life may sound easy, but it’s not.

    He broke your trust, he betrayed your love in the worst way possible, and this is something that is unforgettable. You can forgive him, but it’s something you will never forget, and it will always be in the back of your head. If he hasn’t tried apologizing now or trying to get back with you by now, he just doesn’t care. I know it’s hard to hear, but guys like this aren’t worth your time. I understand he was your best friend before that, but even friends don’t betray a persons trust. If he didn’t feel the same way about you that you felt for him, he should have been honest, more of a man and not a boy who would just go cheat on you with someone else.

    You have to be strong! If he tries to talk to you one day, hear him out, forgive him so that you can move on, but do not under any circumstances GET BACK WITH HIM! You need to have respect for yourself, getting back with someone who would hurt you in that way isn’t going to make you feel happy. There are ‘plenty of fish in the sea’, so to speak, time will heal and you will find someone else, even if right now it seems hopeless. Trust me it’s not! As to your question of the saying ‘”what do you do when the only person who can make you stop crying is the one who made you start,” You move on! Because if the one person that you think can make you stop crying is the person who made you cry, they aren’t worth your time or energy, they don’t deserve your love.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Answers.Yahoo.com (2010)

  • Advice Column: Which guy should I choose?

    Advice Column: Image found on google.com/images

    The Question:

    Guy number 1 – This guy, I met randomly and we just started talking and we really connected. We used to talk to each other as much as we can from day to night, until he had to go to bed. A few weeks later he told me he loved me and asked me out. That was the perfect thing as that was all I ever wanted. He is a great guy and he treated me very well.

    I think its true that people change, as now, as we know each other inside and out, there is really nothing to talk about anymore, and we are loosing the connection we had when we first met each other. It gets kind of awkward and I can sometimes tell that he is kind of ‘bored’ as he talks to other girls. I try not to become the jealous type, but its not like I can tell him not to talk to those girls.

    Anyway, I questioned him the other day, because now I’m feeling nothing at all, and I think he forgot everything about me as he doesn’t know how I feel about things now. [sic]. I am very sensitive and I tend to cry a lot about different things. He told me everything I wanted to hear, and it made me feel so guilty that I ever doubted him.

    The thing I was a bit [sic] more upset about was how he had to go to camp for his French excursion and when I was talking he said he was ‘packing.’ I asked what for and he said he was going on Camp. I was a bit disappointed about this but I didn’t really have a choice. He left the next day and wont be back for four days. That’s when I reconnected with my best friend.

    Guy number 2- I’ve known this guy for nearly a year and we met through this other guy, which we don’t see very much anymore. He also is seeing somebody else, and is having problems with her as well and she is on vacation and wont be back for about 2 weeks. So both of them went away and left us behind.

    We started talking one day and I think a little spark happened between us. We both were experiencing some problems in our relationships and we were talking about it and ‘trying’ to help each other. Things got better as he asked me a lot of questions about relationships and how I would go about doing things. Things like ‘what if you love someone else’ or ‘what kinda guys do you like’ – things like that.

    I thought for a minute that he might be just being friendly but I knew he wasn’t as it was quite obvious that he may be giving me hints that he likes me back. We talked about it for the 4 days and we really reconnected and it changed the way we talked to each other, not like the old times.

    He is really a sweet guy, who makes me really happy and says the things thatI want hear. I think I am actually falling in love with him. I don’t know how to act and I’m so confused because now it feels weird when I talk to my boyfriend.

    Sorry this was really long, but that’s the info I can describe about both guys, I am so confused and I have no idea how to go about this. Can someone help me make my decision?
    Thanks so much!
    xox

    (Edited)

    My Response:

    Dear stuck between two;

    Okay lets start off with the obvious Guy #1 – Sometimes we think we fall for someone when really it was only an infatuation, and sometimes we do love someone but we fall out of love with them. It seems to me that your current boyfriend needs to go. The chemistry just isn’t there anymore for the two of you and it isn’t that any of you did something wrong, sometimes it just isn’t meant to be. You two have grown up a little more and perhaps just grown apart. When you really love someone and really truly have things in common with them, you never run out of things to say to each other. Don’t even look at Guy #2 right now as an option, just focus on Guy #1…Do you love him? Do you see yourself with him in the long run? If one of those answers is a NO, You need to move on, because of what you have said about your boyfriend, he seems like he cares about you but he just isn’t in love with you.

    Now Guy #2 – You guys are friends, have always been friends and have now reconnected because you are both having the same problem. You may think you are falling in love with him, but it could just be the common story you share together, boy with girl, girl and boy aren’t happy anymore, etc etc…. You guys have something in common with each other and you are sharing something together that is very personal, that will bring any two people closer together, but it doesn’t necessarily mean that it’s love. On the other hand it can be something growing there, but the two of you first need to figure out what it is you want with the people you are currently committed to, don’t discuss that if you leave her, I’ll leave him type of thing, just do what you feel is right, and if he is still there when you decide then go from there.

    Good luck with the two.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Yahoo.com (2010)

  • Advice Column: Is my husband overprotective?

    Advice Column. Is my husband overprotective? Image found on google.com/images

    The-Question:

    I think mine is. It’s nice to have someone watch out for you and it shows that he really cares about me but sometimes it gets frustrating. For instance, he doesn’t like the idea of me going to the mall by myself. I know that our mall has a bit of crime and bums hang around and beg for money but even my parents let me go to the mall alone when I was a teenager and I’m 23 now. It’s not that he won’t let me go, he just lets me know how much he doesn’t like the idea and will go with me if he knows I’m going to go. He’s never kept me from doing anything I’ve wanted to do, he just tells me when he disagrees with one of my decisions and says that I don’t see the world for what it is. He says I assume people aren’t going to take advantage of me and that I’m kind of naive about strangers thinking I’m completely safe no matter where I go and I know that’s not true but I guess I have the attitude that “it couldn’t happen to me.” Another example is that when we stop at a store or gas station and he’s just running in to get something and I’m staying in the car, he says, “Keep the doors locked” and he locks them when he gets out. Anyway, my question is, does your husband do this or does he not care at all about what you do or where you go?

    My Response:

    Dear Over-Protective;

    I don’t have a husband, however I do have a boyfriend. I can understand a husband or boyfriend being protective, when you love someone you don’t want anything bad to happen to them. However, there is over protectiveness. Not letting you go to the mall alone and having to always tag along is a bit too much, sometimes we need our space and we need to do the smallest things alone, even if that is just going to the mall. If you don’t live in a safe neighborhood I can understand him being a little more worried about it, but if it’s a good neighborhood then he needs to stop thinking so negative (that every time you step out of the house something can happen to you) if we lived like that we would all drive ourselves crazy. He needs to trust that you are a grown women, you are only 23 but you are married already, you are a grown women and you can take care of yourself. If it makes him feel safe talk to him and explain to him that you will be okay just going to the mall, he needs to not be so protective of you, and if it helps carry one of those mace bottles on your key chain or in your purse. Just because someone isn’t acting like your husband doesn’t mean that person doesn’t care or love the other person some men are more protective than others. As for the locking the doors when he goes into the gas station, that’s completely normal, I think everyone does that, even my mother tells me to lock the doors if she leaves me in the car, and I’m older than you. Talk to your husband and try to explain to him that it’s okay for you to go certain places without him, you’ll be just fine. If this is how it is to just go to the mall, it can get worse for future things, and you don’t want to have that kind of relationship with your husband. He needs to trust you and he needs to trust that you’ll be okay. Always be aware of your surroundings no matter what, and always take your keys out of your purse before you exit the mall or any other store you are in. Being protective of your loved ones is one thing, being over protective and not letting them go anywhere with out them is another. Talk to your husband and nip this in the butt now.

    xo
    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Yahoo.com (2010)

  • Am I being crazy or is something going on?

    Repost:

    Dear Kristin Nicole;

    The Question:

    OK my wife had an emotional affair around 2-3 years ago. Its started with emails and within only a few months it became a lot more. Since then I’ve been a mess, I used to be “Mr Calm” about everything she did and now I’m jealous and over thinking everything….but maybe I should be… you tell me. I found out she’s been chatting on facebook with this guy (also married) recently. He was one of the first people she added as a friend and she didn’t add his wife until a month later. After I found out she changed her password and also changed the settings on her phone so she wouldn’t get messages sent to our email. {sic} Yet everyday there are 15-20 internet/media net things on our phone bill. I’ve tested this and those don’t show up if you are just checking your email and she doesn’t do anything else on her phone/internet except email and facebook.

    Other things….she has a job that she can change her schedule and take an hour or two off anytime during the day, he lives 2 minutes away from us, is a cop, she tans everyday and has an after hours pass, her best friend who she tells everything to had an affair with a married man for 10 years and they are now married, he’s a cop too and friends with this guy. I catch her in little lies here and there and I have to wonder why she would lie if she’s not up to something.

    Things to consider… We’ve been together since she was in high school going on 11 years of marriage now and have two beautiful sons. We look like the perfect family and couple. Everywhere we go we are the best looking couple there. If I left now she wouldn’t be able to pay the bills herself, she would be screwed, if the guys wife found out she could ruin her name in this town and my wife is all about “who’s who”

    OK that’s the best I can sum all this up , so tell me am I being crazy? And what suggestions do you have for me….

    Additional Details
    Oh… the first guy was also married and is not the same guy I’m talking about now… and yes I know I’m insecure, I hate it!!! My wife is not a cop just him, Oh did I mention her dad was a cheater all his life and she adores him. Also, Counseling…seriously thinking of that but really I just want to know if she is cheating because I’m halfway out the door right now. At this point we are currently lovey dovey with each other yet I still see the 15/20 internet thing a day on the phone. If I try to talk to her again about it she will just get pissed and think I’m crazy again, her reason for the changing of the passwords is cause she said she doesn’t want to be treated like a 13 year old. I have asked her already and she swears its nothing just small talk, swears she loves me, but I wonder who she thinks about during the day at work. Keylogger? You have to tell your spouse or that is invasion of privacy, if I told her she would just use her phone all the time, there are two many ways for her to get away with it. {sic}.

    My Response:

    Dear Cheated On;

    Okay first let me start with “YOU SHOULD HAVE LEFT HER THE FIRST TIME!” Cheating is the ultimate betrayal and you being insecure or not trusting her comes with that. Unless you fully forgave her and were able to move on the first time then this isn’t a healthy relationship. I don’t care about what other people think or that people think you look like the perfect couple, those other people don’t live with you and those other people don’t have to feel miserable with you either. Stop thinking about how she will manage, as long as you take care of your kids let her fend for herself, she made her bed now let her lie in it. (Okay cheesy line, and I never understood the analogy behind it but it seemed to fit here). Her best friend had a 10 year affair and ended up with the guy, doesn’t necessarily mean your wife will be do the same; however I have to go back to the phrase “Once a cheater always a cheater.”

    I understand you have two boys you have to think about but be honest with yourself, kids are smart and if something isn’t right they are going to sense it. It isn’t healthy for anyone to stay in a relationship where there is no trust and cheating going around. If you feel you have to check her phone or look at how much she’s used her internet, your suspicions should tell you that something just isn’t right. She may have psychological issues that go back to her dad but she is a grown women and she knows that cheating is wrong. If you truly want to try to make things work, it’s not a one way street and she has to put effort into making things work as well, try marriage counseling. My advice though…. get an attorney, get full custody of your kids, and move out. Have respect for yourself. What are you teaching your children if you stay in a marriage that is full of lies? You deserve better.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    I found this answer on Yahoo.com

  • I caught my husband having affairs on the net – After being married for thirty years

    The-Question:

    I caught my husband having affairs on the net – After being married for thirty years I don’t know what to do? I cant seem to trust him anymore. I cant seem to forget and keep blaming myself for not keeping an eye on him.


    My Response:

    Dear 30 Years;

    You have every right to not trust him anymore, you were married for 30 years and he betrayed your trust in the most horrible way a man can betray a woman’s trust. Do NOT blame yourself. We can not be on top of our men all the time, and we shouldn’t have to. You should be able to trust the person you are with and that person should be faithful to you no matter what temptations are out there. If your husband couldn’t be faithful this is not your fault. No matter how hard it may be you deserve respect and love from someone and you deserve to not get cheated on. It may be hard to leave your husband but he left you the day he decided to cheat on you and destroy your marriage. Stay strong, it isn’t going to be an easy journey for you but I promise there is someone out there for everyone. My aunt was married for over 20 years and later found her soul-mate. It’s never too late! Good luck!

    xo
    kristin nicole

    I found this question on <a/ href=”http://www.answers.yahoo.com”>Answers.Yahoo.com

  • How do I express myself?

    Express yourself. image by: google.com/images

    Expressing yourself can sometimes be hard. If you are angry do you tell the person you are fighting with what you feel right then and there? Or should you wait until you cool off and have a more focused mind set? Sometimes letting it out in the moment allows you to really tell the person how you feel but sometimes it’s better to cool off and talk calmly with each other in order to avoid words you may regret later.

    Sometimes there comes a time when you argue with your boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife, or friend, and sometimes you get so angry you can’t express your feelings. In my case I try to talk in the moment but if I get too frustrated I close myself off because I can’t fathom having a conversation with that person. When I try to say what I am thinking sometimes I over think my thoughts and I end up stoping my self, leaving myself with no words to say.

    Why do we do this? Why is it so hard for women and men to say what they feel? Are we afraid of what the other person might say? SOMETIMES, For me that is the case. I’m afraid to get into a bigger argument when I just want them to understand what I am feeling, but that doesn’t always work.

    So I find it easier to express myself sometimes through email, letters or text. I know this shouldn’t be the solution but sometimes it’s the only way to get what I feel out in the open. It’s better to get it out one way than not at all. Right?!?

    In my letter I try to really go into details on what I feel but you still want to make sure you aren’t crossing the line somewhere. Sometimes in letters the person reading it may interpret your words differently and you don’t want to hurt the person’s feelings, unless taht is your intentions of course.

    I found a website that talks about relationships and communication, and I truly believe that communication is the KEY to a healthy and long relationship. You can’t hold things inside because in the end you will only blow up, and that isn’t good for either one of you. This website tries to help MEN communicate better. For those men who have problems communicating check this website out and click HERE.

    Even though the website indicates how to communicate more for men towards women, I think it’s good for women to read it as well. Some of women might be a little more like men then we think. Open up to your other half and tell them how you feel, but don’t attack them with your words, just tell them that you only want them to know how you are feeling and what can “we” do to fix it.

    Assumptions are the termites of relationships. ~Henry Winkler.

    xo
    kristin nicole

  • Brother & Sister Wedding Dance

    I love my Brother – Picture found on Instagram – edited by: kristin nicole

    So recently I have been thinking that I really want to save a dance for my brother at the wedding. My brother has always been there for me, at some points even though I was so mad at him, he really thought he was my father, so it only feels right to dance with him on my special day. My brother is my best friend and I couldn’t imagine my life without him. So I have two songs that I really like and I wanted to see what you all think. Let’s have a vote on which song you like best.

    The first song is called My Wish by Rascal Flatts

    Lyrics

    I hope the days come easy and the moments pass slow
    And each road leads you where you want to go
    And if you’re faced with the choice and you have to choose I hope you choose the one that means the most to you
    And if one door opens to another door closed I hope you keep on walkin’ ‘til you find the window If it’s cold outside, show the world the warmth of your smile
    But more than anything, more than anything
    My wish for you Is that this life becomes all that you want it to
    Your dreams stay big, your worries stay small
    You never need to carry more than you can hold
    And while you’re out there gettin’ where you’re gettin’ to
    I hope you know somebody loves you
    And wants the same things too Yeah, this is my wish

    I hope you never look back but you never forget
    All the ones who love you and the place you left
    I hope you always forgive and you never regret
    And you help somebody every chance you get
    Oh, you’d find God’s grace in every mistake
    And always give more than you take
    But more than anything, yeah more than anything
    My wish for you Is that this life becomes all that you want it to
    Your dreams stay big, your worries stay small
    You never need to carry more than you can hold
    And while you’re out there gettin’ where you’re gettin’ to I hope you know somebody loves you And wants the same things too Yeah, this is my wish, yeah yeah

    My wish for you Is that this life becomes all that you want it to
    Your dreams stay big, your worries stay small
    You never need to carry more than you can hold
    And while you’re out there gettin’ where you’re gettin’ to I hope you know somebody loves you And wants the same things too Yeah, this is my wish (My wish for you)
    This is my wish (My wish for you)
    I hope you know somebody loves you (My wish for you)
    May all your dreams stay big (My wish for you)

    The second song is called Brothers by Greg Bates

    Lyrics

    They knew all about you from the day that you were born
    Your highchair, weight in ounces, the face that we adored
    But when it came to naming you Mom and Dad weren’t sure
    But that’s what brothers are for

    I can still remember your first day of school
    And I know I didn’t say it then, but I was worried too
    And I know that Momma woulda walked you through that door
    But that’s what brothers are for

    Yeah I know we’ve had our share of fights
    And I’ve come close to killin’ you a few times
    But I woulda gone down in flames just to see you soar
    Cuz that’s what brothers are for

    I thank God that you could be here today
    Cuz standin’ next to you means so much to me
    As she walks down the aisle, I know I’m not alone
    Cuz right beside me is the best man I’ve ever known
    And I know we’ve had our share of fights
    And I’ve come close to killing you a few times
    But I woulda gone down in flames just to see you soar
    Yeah, I wanna see you soar
    Cuz that’s what brothers are for

    Tell me what you think…

    xo
    kristin nicole

  • It’s a new year

    Engagement Ring. Lands End. San Francisco, CA – Photo by: kristin nicole

    It’s a new year, and everything is changing. As most of you who know me, you know that I went to San Francisco for my birthday. Well it was one of the best birthdays I have had in a long time. My boyfriend of six years, proposed to me on Lands End. The place is spectacular and I couldn’t have asked for a better proposal from the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. Now I’m in wedding mode, so in between work and school I have to make time to plan a wedding. It’s amazing how I knew the theme I wanted and everything else has just come together. I don’t have everything yet, but I have the base of my ideas. I have a friend who gave me a great idea. I am going to put together a vision board, full of the ideas I want for the wedding. This way I can see it put together on a board in front of me. Now of course I am not including my ‘fiancé’ in any of this, the less he knows the better he feels. I have come to realize that men are just completely useless when it comes to weddings. Even though they have asked you to marry them, it doesn’t mean they can handle all the wedding plans and ideas. It seems to overwhelm them. I don’t like to stress anyone out, so I try to keep things has simple has possible. Thankfully I have a lot of friends and family who are very excited about this wedding as I am. Having support and helping to plan a wedding is great … how do I call it… stress relief…. anxiety relief…. Okay… who am I kidding, I’ll probably still get anxiety, because I am a little of a control freak. I can’t help it. One bridesmaid said, she can’t even surprise me because I want to approve the surprises! Sorry, but yes I do… haha

    If you look at my categories, I have now added a Wedding tab. I will be periodically posting ideas and thoughts on the wedding planning. If you are planning your wedding and want to share ideas or grab some from me, go right ahead.

    xo,

    kristin nicole

  • 26 years and no longer in love

    Twenty Six Years. Image found: google.com/images

    The Question:

    Dear Kristin Nicole;

    I am thinking about leaving my husband of 26 years. I held on hoping he would change, I held on for the kids, but now that our kids are older I just can’t pretend anymore. I don’t know how to tell him. Can you help me?

    ~Twenty Six

    My Response:

    Dear Twenty Six;

    It’s never easy letting someone know you want to move on from the relationship, but it’s even harder after so many years. I think you are making the right decision. You shouldn’t keep pretending to be happy, if you aren’t. Try to sit your husband down and explain to him that you are no longer in love with him. I’m sure if you have not been in love with him for a long time, that this is not going to be a total surprise to him. Either way it is not going to be easy, and he may be hurt. But at the end of the day it’s better for the both of you to move on from something that you aren’t happy with. Good luck

    xo,

    kristin nicole

  • 30 Goals Before 30

    Update 12/05/12:

    I have sadly not done much of the goals on my list. Unfortunately some take time and money and I have neither. I have accomplished a lot reaching my 30s. I have 15 days left in my 20s and I am very sad to see them go. My 20s have been filled with lots of emotions. I grew up a lot, I’ve learned life lessons, I have continued my education and I have found a best friend who I want to spend the rest of my life with. I’m not going to lie, turning 30 is a little scary. I always heard the older you get the faster life passes you by. I am truly starting to see that now. I am seeing that every moment counts, that we shouldn’t take things for granted and we need to express to those we love that we love them. I have encountered freedom, moving away from home thousands of miles away with no family but a true friend who till this day is my family. Yoli – You are my best friend and my sister, without you I would have not been able to survive Cali, and I will continue to love you and cherish you in my life. I miss you every day I don’t get to see you, and although we don’t always talk, you are always in my thoughts. With Yoli I gained a family. I gained three beautiful nephews that I adore. They are young men now and I love them dearly.

    After moving back from Cali I experienced a life lesson some should never have to go through. Lost love and financial hardship. I pulled through and survived both. My families support helped me surpass what I thought at the time was one of the hardest things I had to go through. Then I found my best friend. My boyfriend has been there with me and has supported me going through school and finishing my Associates, Bachelors and now my Masters Degree. Although I didn’t get to finish my degree before reaching 30 I will be done by the end of next year, and this is an achievement to be very proud of.

    I am now entering what they call “the prime” and although I rather stay in my 20s it’s looking like I don’t have a choice. For my 30th my boyfriend is taking me to San Francisco, California. I am excited to spend my birthday over there and see another one of my best friends. I have lost friends and gained friends, and although I have gone through struggles, I would not change one thing. Every hardship, every tear, every laughter and smile has made me into who I am today.

    Let’s hope 30s are even better than my 20s. Let’s see what it has in store for me…..

    xo
    kristin nicole

    Update 07/31/12:

    Sadly I have not done the ones that mean the most on this list. I have crossed out the ones that I have accomplished, and I feel I should change a few things on here…. Thoughts in process….


    Update: June 2011

    I have recently purchased a home with my boyfriend so I can now cross out a few things on my list before 30. The ones in bold were ones I had already done when I made the list and the ones with the line through them are the current goals I’ve achieved. What are your goals?

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    30 Goals Before 30

    30 Goals Before 30… Let’s just say I don’t have that much time, yet I’m willing to try and get 30 Goals done before I’m 30! I got the idea of writing out my 30 goals before 30 from a good friend of mine. As I was reading her blog on Clothes, I discovered another post she wrote about called “30 Goals Before 30”. I thought to myself… WOW What a great idea. So of course I asked Vanessa if I can borrow her idea and make my own 30 Goals Before 30 and she was more than thrilled to see what my goals are. If you want to check out Vanessa’s Goals you can visit her website Vanessa-Michelle.com.

    So where do I begin…The goals highlighted in Bold are the Goals I’ve already reached and all the rest are goals I hope to achieve before I’m 30.

    Goals

    1. Go sky diving <– I would still love to do this… so maybe this will be a goal to do in my 30s…
    2. Travel to one new State each year (So far so good)
    3. Get a pet
    4. Go to the Regatta (Lost that one, when we couldn’t make it)
    5. Live in Downtown Miami
    6. Buy a House with my Boyfriend
    7. Get my AA
    8. Picture Blog (365 Picture Project) – I better get started — EEK Not going to happen…
    9. Sign up for a Professional Cooking Class
    10. See a Vineyard (Napa Valley)
    11. See SNOW
    12. Learn to play the guitar <— This is my goal for sure….
    13. Learn to play the keyboard <— we shall see
    14. Visit San Francisco
    15. Graduate with my Bachelors Degree
    16. Make a dessert from scratch
    17. Make my own recipe meal
    18. Help give good advice to someone who needs it. (I would think I did this one.)
    19. Go to Disney World (I’ve been to Islands of Adventure with my boyfriend but not Disney World). Does Hollywood Studios Count??? We should be going to Magic Kingdom before 30 though… heh – Whoot whoot, this was achieved. We just went for our anniversary 🙂
    20. Go to New York and finish seeing all the things I missed the first trip. (I could have done this, but decided on Chicago instead)
    21. Visit Seattle
    22. Visit my friend in Louisiana
    23. Go in a Limo
    24. Be a Maid of Honor
    25. Have a mango tree in my backyard
    26. Grow my own vegetable garden (Eventually but don’t think it will happen before 30 – although my boyfriend and I did have a basil tree grow) <— working on it…
    27. Design my own house (Not exactly the house but a lot inside)
    28. Finish the transition from Soapnights to staging.kristinnicole.com/ <– Okay this is not my fault, this is my bff's fault.
    29. Write a Book (in the works) – Not going to happen before 30…..
    30. Someone to discover me and have my own column so that I can work from home and travel.<– working on it.

    These are my 30 Goals Before 30 – Some of them I have already achieved and some I am currently working on. You never know where life will take you but you can make choices in life that can lead you to where you want to be. Be positive and good things will always come your way.

    xo,
    kristin nicole