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  • Do you think it is overrated to save your virginity until marriage?

    The Question:

    Do you think it is overrated to save your virginity until marriage?
    Ii just want some honest input, if you’re not mature enough to answer than don’t. Since I’m asking for your input I guess I can give you mine. “I am 19 years old and in college and a virgin. I’m wondering if its just a silly pipe dream that I will find a girl who has the same morals as I do? It is not easy keeping it and honestly I kind of forget why I am sometimes. Any thoughts?

    My Response:

    Dear Wanting to wait;

    I do not think it is overrated and I do think it is sweet, and it is hard very hard. Now a day’s a lot of girls and a lot of guys do not wait for marriage, but if this is something you truly believe in then I think you should stick with it. Perhaps join a church group, you might be able to find a girl that is still “pure” there rather than frat parties in college 😉 You might also find other guys that have the same morals as you do and it may make it easier to hang out with them then other 19 year old guys who are only looking to party and have sex. You are still young and you still have time to decide, but do not let others tell you that it is overrated or that you shouldn’t wait until marriage. If this is how you feel, I say go for it. Good luck.

    xo
    kristin nicole

  • My Dad’s going through a mid-life crisis & he is scaring the heck out of me! What should I do?

    The Question:

    No joke I need advice. My dad is 53 yrs old and I believe he is going through a mid life crisis. He is starting to scare the heck out of me because he is NOT acting like himself. It seems like one minute he is OK and the next he’s get extremely upset or angry over little things. He’s criticizing himself all the time and sometimes my mother for no reason. He thinks he looks too wrinkled and now he’s getting botox injections (even tho we can’t afford it). Like I’m worried about him but he thinks I am over reacting?!? WTF (What the F***) did I do? I understand he’s getting older .he has some health and financial problems in his life but I would like to try to find a way to help him. Anyone else have this problem?

    I am 23 yrs old (turning 24 soon in August) but I feel like he treats me like I am an extremely naive, stupid and unsophisticated child. I live at home but I’m trying to help him pay for bills and living expensive with my part time job.

    I am telling you he is driving me f***ing crazy. What should I do? (no jokes please )

    My response:

    Dear going crazy;

    I know it’s hard because no one really knows what he’s going through, the only thing you can try to do is sit down with him when he’s in a good mood. Explain to him the way you feel about the way he’s been acting lately and go from there. If that doesn’t work, then just try to stay out of his way for right now, give him time to figure things out. You should also talk to your mom, maybe the two of you can sit down together with him and tell him that whatever he’s going through that the two of you are there to help. The only other thing I can tell you is move out. You said you had a part time job, is this because you are going to school? If you are continue doing what you are doing then, live at home and just try to do your own thing. Mid-life crisis is like a man going through menopause, the difference, women talk about it and men don’t so they decide to do all these crazy things that we just don’t understand. Try to communicate to him as delicately as you can so he doesn’t take it the wrong way, and if all else fails, just give him time and stay out of the way. Good luck.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • Happy Birthday!

    Happy Birthday

    Today is the day you were born
    Today is the day I give thanks to the lord
    Without you here, you wouldn’t be part of my world.

    My world changed the day you came into my life
    With every wish I wished upon a star
    that one day I would find love
    love found me a million miles away

    Love entered my heart when I thought it was gone
    you showed me the light,
    you showed me the way,
    if it wasn’t for you
    my world would have gone astray.

    Today is your birthday
    and I wish you the world
    I know that good things are coming your way
    with every wish I make
    with every breath I take
    I know deep down that from here on out
    only good things will come our way.

    Happy Birthday to the man I love
    Happy Birthday
    Happy Birthday

    I love you…..

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    © ~Written By: Kristin Nicole August 23, 2011 – Monday~

    Happy Birthday to a wonderful boyfriend, I hope you are enjoying our trip. I love you

  • Jump into the Jacuzzi with Ex or Current BF?

    I was scanning the web when I bumped into this article “Ask Kitty” the Title “Kitty Jumps into the Jacuzzi”.

    The women wrote as follows:

    “My company has a Jacuzzi on the 15th floor of our office building and I’m dying to try it out. There is a special guy in my life, but I’m thinking water sports should involve someone I can get wild and crazy with, i.e., my biker ex-boyfriend. Prior to our breakup, I promised him a romp in the tub, but we never got around to it. Would it be super-scandalous if I took him up there instead of my bf? And do we need to use a rubber? My bff told me the hot water will kill the sperm. A baby would be a clear indication I’ve cheated.” (you can find the link below, if you want to see Kitty’s response). ~Juana Getwhet

    My Response:

    Dear Juana,

    First I would like to acknowledge the fact that you stated you had a best friend who told you hot water will kill sperm. First tell your friend to take some classes on “how to get pregnant”. YES, You can get pregnant in water, jacuzzi, pool with chlorine, any type of water anywhere that you aren’t using protection you can get pregnant. (Water will also not stop any transmitted diseases). I advise you get on a birth control pill because using a condom in the water can easily break. (Remember birth control pills also won’t help with transmitted diseases). BTW…(Sorry if I’m too blunt, but I don’t want you to make a mistake that you’ll later regret). As you indicated “A baby would be a clear indication that you cheated”. Along with many other responsibilities you’ll have to deal with later. Now back to the rump in the jacuzzi with someone who is “wild & crazy”. Have you even tried talking to your current man about getting wild & crazy in the jacuzzi on the 15th floor? How do you know he won’t be up for it? I guarantee any man wouldn’t pass an invitation like that up. If by chance he does turn you down, maybe you should re-think him being your man. My only other concern is the fact that just because your ex and you had discussed doing something like this, why would you even give him that chance to do that with you now that he is your EX? Perhaps you aren’t quiet over you ex? Issues we wold have to discuss another time.

    In Conclusion:

    Talk to your new man and have that wild & crazy night in the jacuzzi with him, not your Ex. And remember to always use protection.

    XO,
    Kristin Nicole

    If you want to read what Kitty’s response was you can link Here.

  • A poor man’s sign for help

    Yesterday I was driving home, and if you live in Miami and have ever been to 57th and US-1 You know there is usually a poor man standing there with a sign asking for money. This man yesterday had a sign that read: ” Please help children in need, they need food too”. Now I was thinking…. Should I give this guy money even though he is obviously putting it out there that he’s lying and using children as an excuse, even worse….

    My thoughts:

    So I thought to myself would people be willing to give a guy money who’s sign read ” Please help children in need, they need food too” vs. “Please help, need money for food, drinks and drugs”. Or whatever he actually needs the money for? So I sat there thinking for a second or two and I think I rather give money to the guy who’s honest. Even if it is for some alcohol. At least I know he’s being honest. BUT What do you think? What would you do??

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • My friend had sex with her brother…

    The Question:

    Parents what would you do if your son, and daughter had sex? Just wondering?
    I know a friend of mine who had sex with her brother she told me, and I want to know if I were to tell, what parents would do in general in that kind of situation?

    My response:

    Dear Teen with a big secret;

    I am not a parent but I am an older sister to my 16 year old sister. It is a scary thought that your kids may be having sex and to find out that they are I couldn’t imagine. BUT…. Yes…But…..it is going to happen one day. I don’t agree with having sex at such a young age and I do think that you really need to think about it before doing it. Most boys just want to have sex and nothing more, and the minute the girl gives it up the boy is gone. I know this happened to a lot of my friends in high school. If you are a parent that just found out your son or daughter is having sex or had sex, the only thing you can do is try to NOT to overreact. Try to talk to them about all the consequences, like diseases and about teen pregnancy. If you have a boy buy him condemns and explain to him about all the things that can happen along with respecting girls. If you have a girl, I think it is a lot harder, you can either get her on birth-control (Most parents think this is just giving the OKAY to have sex) but it’s better than the alternative…(Pregnancy), and you need to talk to her and explain all the the bad stuff that can come with having sex at such a young age. In the situation that your friend had sex with her own brother, that is just plain WRONG! That is incest and it can be that the brother raped her or molested her. If she had sex with her own brother willingly, that is wrong on all levels and either way they need help. In that situation I am not sure what the parents would do, they need to talk to both of them and find out exactly what happened and why. They will then need to have a lot of counseling. This is not normal and I hope your friend knows this. I hope she can get the help she needs and I hope her parents are strong enough to deal with something like this. Good luck….

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • Tomorrow’s not Promised

    There comes a time in life when you have to realize this is it… when everything around you changes and you feel like you have changed as well. This is called “growing up”.

    In a life full of questions, in a life full of fun, there isn’t a moment that passes that I wonder is this the one?

    Is this the one time that I’ll make this mistake
    Is this the one time I’ll cry
    Is this the one time I’ll laugh
    Or is this all a lesson of which I’ve passed?

    Time is an essence
    a tick of the clock
    when you look around you
    nothing has stopped.

    Every     day passes
    another day gone
    another day older
    another day closer.

    Live your life to the fullest
    and have no regrets
    because tomorrow’s not promised
    but today…
    today I live
    today I grow
    today i tell you i love you
    Tomorrow, I just don’t know…

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    © written by: kristin nicole 2009

  • I want a threesome with another man & my husband

    The Question:

    Is there any possible way, that I can make my husband Steve let me have a three-some with another guy. So it will be Me, Steve, and another “go getter”. He is usually open about his sexuality since he is a homosexual. Excuse me if this gets a little graphic but I always wondered how it would feel for 2 things to be in 1 hole. This sounds very dirty and I’m sorry if I offend anyone its just been a long time fantasy for me. Any tips or advice for how I could work it into the conversation? Any tips to make it happen?
    — Waldo

    My Response:

    Dear Waldo;

    Well first off your husband is a homosexual and you married him anyway and he married you? I’m sorry are you a man or a woman? Sorry if I sound a bit rude, but I am just baffled by this question. Okay back to the question on hand….How to go about bringing up the conversation, if you have always been sexually honest with your husband than just bring up your fantasies and ask him what he would think about a threesome with another man. Then go from there, if he says he is not comfortable with it you should respect his wishes and maybe try buying a toy that will semi-satisfy the whole 2 things in one hole. If he says yes, then you have to take into consideration that your husband may like the other guy more than he likes you, and are you ready to accept that. (Of course this could be far from what happens) but you have to make rules as to what you both want before doing something like this. In personal experience, I have never nor ever wanted to have a threesome with another man. My man is my man only and I do not share under any circumstances but that’s just me.
    Go for it if it’s what you really want and just come out and say what you feel. Good luck.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • Confrontation…

    The Question:

    Dear Kristin Nicole;

    Have you ever had a confrontation with your boyfriend and later realized you were wrong and now you owe him an apology?

    My Response:

    Dear Confrontation;

    I am sure many people have had confrontations with their boyfriends, girlfriends, spouses, parents, friends and have later come to realize they were wrong. If you are wrong the right thing to do is put your pride away and apologize. It will definitely make your relationships stronger knowing that you are woman enough to apologize. I would hope that your boyfriend would do the same if he realized he was wrong in any given situation. Owning up to your mistakes will teach you a lot along the way.
    Good luck.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • Is it kind of usual now for parents to cheat on each other?

    The Question:

    Is it kind of usual now for parents to cheat on each other?

    My dad first cheated on my mum when I was around 10. From then he’s had about 3 affairs with different women, all who are after his money but he’s too blind and stubborn to see that. I just want to know if that’s kind of normal in families now.

    My Response:

    Dear Normal;

    This is not normal and I’m sorry you have had to know and see what your dad does to your mom since the age of 10. No parent, man, women, or anyone should cheat on the other. It’s infidelity and betrayal in the worst possible way. If you love someone you don’t cheat on them. What your dad has done to your mom isn’t right, and if your mom has stuck it out with your dad, I’m sure she has her reasons, or she is just in denial and didn’t want to break up the marriage. Your mom could have also stayed with your dad thinking it was “best for the children”. Have you ever tried sitting down with your mom and telling her what you know? Have you ever tried confronting your father? Sometimes it isn’t good to get in the middle of your parents situations because I truly believe that their problems should stay between them, but the fact that you have know that your dad has been cheating on your mum for years now, is affecting you. At the end of the day you want to know if this is normal for a family? For a man to cheat on his family and wife? The answer to that is NO. Although many people today cheat on each other, it doesn’t make it right. Being faithful and loving someone with all you have is one of the biggest challenges in today’s life, and it’s sad that we have to even call that a challenge. It should come easy and if you have doubts believe me, there are still good people out there who don’t cheat on their partners.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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