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  • Get Your Own Friend

    Get your own Friends

    Get your own friends
    why do you have to seek out mine?
    are you not over it?
    give up your pride…

    Tell me a story
    the one that fell apart
    the one that left you
    and died out your heart

    Get your own friends
    leave mine alone
    is it not enough that it ended,
    that you keep lurking around my door?

    Time is of essence
    we all have to move on
    leave it alone now
    leave it be
    leave, leave, leave…

    Get out of my mind
    out my head
    leaving was the best thing
    if not I’d be dead

    Get your own friends
    just leave mine alone
    find a new hobby
    find a new friend
    just stop trying to steal mine instead…

    © ~written by: kristin nicole – March 2011

    This was inspired by a dream a friend told me about. She stopped being friends with her child hood friend and she started hanging out with her friends and taking them from her, she just wanted to move on from their friendship, but every time she turned around, she was there. Hope you enjoyed the poem.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • Happy St. Patrick’s Day 2011

    Happy St. Patrick’s Day 2011

    Saint Patrick’s Day is a religious holiday celebrated internationally on the 17th of March. It is named after Saint Patrick (c. AD 387–461), the most commonly recognized of the patron saints of Ireland. It originated as a Catholic holiday and became an official feast day in the early 17th century. It has gradually become more of a secular celebration of Irish culture. (via Wikipedia.org

    Here is a fun poem for St. Patrick’s Day…. ENJOY

    I’ll Wear a Shamrock

    St. Patrick’s Day is with us,
    The day when all that’s seen
    To right and left and everywhere
    Is green, green, green!

    And Irish tunes they whistle
    And Irish songs they sing,
    To-day each Irish lad walks out
    As proud as any king.

    I’ll wear a four-leaf shamrock
    In my coat, the glad day through,
    For my father and mother are Irish
    And I am Irish too!

    ~ The Holiday Spot

    Have a wonderful St. Patrick’s Day – Drink lots of Green Beer, but don’t drive home drunk, make sure to get a taxi or your luck will be lost….

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JNXpu9iU7Ew

    HAPPY ST. PATRICK’S DAY!

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • I fantasize about my sister in law…

    The Question:

    I fantasize about my sister in law, is that a bad thing? Do women like it when men fantasize about them sexually? Is it a sin?

    My Response:

    Dear Fantasy;

    Let’s start off with the fact that you fantasize about your sister in law – One Gross! That’s your sister in law and it’s just wrong on all levels, how would you feel if your wife was fantasizing about your brother or cousin or someone related to you? NOT GOOD, I am sure…. Second question “do women like it when men fantasize about them sexually?” SURE – If I’m dating you and if I’m not I would be a little flattered, but if you were my brother in law I would be disgusted and weirded out. Third question “Is it a sin?” – Depends how religious you are, some would say it definitely is a sin and others would say No. I would definitely keep these thoughts to yourself and don’t let your wife know, if not you are looking only for trouble.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • Stricken Japan nuclear plant rocked by 2nd blast

    By ERIC TALMADGE and SHINO YUASA, Associated Press Eric Talmadge And Shino Yuasa, Associated Press – VIA Yahoo.News.com

    SOMA, Japan – The second hydrogen explosion in three days rocked a stricken Japanese nuclear plant Monday, sending a massive cloud of smoke into the air and injuring 11 workers. Hours later, the U.S. said it had shifted its offshore forces away from the plant after detecting low levels of radiation.

    The aircraft carrier USS Ronald Reagan was about 100 miles (160 kilometers) offshore when it detected the radiation, which U.S. officials said was about the same as one month’s normal exposure to natural background radiation in the environment.

    It was not clear if the leak happened during Monday’s explosion. That blast was felt 25 miles (40 kilometers) away, but the plant’s operator said radiation levels at the reactor were still within legal limits.

    The explosion at the plant’s Unit 3, which authorities have been trying to cool with sea water after a system failure in the wake of Friday’s massive earthquake and tsunami, triggered an order for hundreds of people to stay indoors, said Chief Cabinet Secretary Yukio Edano. The two disasters left at least 10,000 people dead.

    Operators knew the sea water flooding would cause a pressure buildup in the reactor containment vessel — and potentially lead to an explosion — but felt they had no choice if they wanted to avoid a complete meltdown. In the end, the hydrogen in the released steam mixed with oxygen in the atmosphere and set off the blast.

    The inner containment shell surrounding the Unit 3 reactor was intact, Edano said, allaying some fears of the risk to the environment and public. But the outer building around the reactor appeared to have been devastated, with only a skeletal frame remaining.

    Tokyo Electric Power Co., which operates the plant, said radiation levels at Unit 3 were well under the levels where a nuclear operator must file a report to the government.

    A similar explosion occurred Saturday at the plant’s Unit 1, injuring four workers, causing mass evacuations and destroying much of the outer building.

    Shortly after Monday’s explosion, Tokyo Electric warned it had lost the ability to cool another reactor, the plant’s Unit 2. Takako Kitajima, a company official, said plant workers were preparing to inject sea water into the unit to cool the reactor, a move that could lead to an explosion there as well.

    More than 180,000 people have evacuated the area in recent days, and up to 160 may have been exposed to radiation — pouring misery onto those already devastated by the twin disasters.

    While Japan has aggressively prepared for years for major earthquakes, reinforcing buildings and running drills, the impact of the tsunami — which came so quickly that not many people managed to flee to higher ground — was immense.

    By Monday, officials were clearly overwhelmed by the scale of the crisis, with millions of people having spent three nights without electricity, water, food or heat in near-freezing temperatures.

    Officials in one devastated town said they were running out of body bags.

    Officials have declared states of emergency at six Fukushima reactors, where Friday’s twin disasters knocked out the main cooling systems and backup generators. Three are at Dai-ichi and three at the nearby Fukushima Daini complex.

    Most attention, though, has been focused on Dai-ichi units 1 and 3, where operators have been funneling in sea water in a last-ditch measure to cool the reactors. A complete meltdown — the melting of the radioactive core — could release radioactive contaminants into the environment and pose major, widespread health risks.

    Edano said no Fukushima reactor was near that point, and he was confident of escaping the worst scenarios.

    International scientists say there are serious dangers but little risk of a Chernobyl-style catastrophe. Chernobyl, they note, had no containment shell around the reactor.

    “The likelihood there will be a huge fire like at Chernobyl or a major environmental release like at Chernobyl, I think that’s basically impossible,” said James F. Stubbins, a nuclear energy professor at the University of Illinois.

    And, some analysts noted, the length of time since the nuclear crisis began indicates that the chemical reactions inside the reactor were not moving quickly toward a complete meltdown.

    “We’re now into the fourth day. Whatever is happening in that core is taking a long time to unfold,” said Mark Hibbs, a senior associate at the nuclear policy program for the Carnegie Endowment for International Peace. “They’ve succeeded in prolonging the timeline of the accident sequence.”

    But despite official assurances, many residents expressed fear over the situation.

    “First I was worried about the quake,” said Kenji Koshiba, a construction worker who lives near the plant. “Now I’m worried about radiation.” He spoke at an emergency center in Koriyama, about 40 miles (60 kilometers) from the most troubled reactors.

    Overall, more than 1,500 people had been scanned for radiation exposure in the area, officials said.

    The U.N. nuclear agency said a state of emergency was also declared Sunday at another complex, the Onagawa power plant, after higher-than-permitted levels of radiation were measured there. It said Japan informed it that all three of those reactors there were under control.

    Four nuclear complexes in northeastern Japan have reported some damage from the quake or the tsunami.

    ___

    Yuasa reported from Tokyo.

    My thoughts:

    This is a devastating disaster and I think we all need to get together in times like this to realize the things we have, and what others are going through. As I sat eating dinner on Saturday night with my boyfriend, I looked around the room, realizing all we had. The smiles and talks on people faces (without a worry in mind) while people in Japan where suffering, it just makes you think…it makes you realize to be truly thankful for things we have, the things people wish they had. A small prayer goes a long way, I will pray for the people of Japan to recover from this, and any little bit that you can to help I am sure is greatly appreciated. Donate to the Red Cross and other organizations that are helping. If every person in the world or just the United States donated $1 dollar – Imagine how much money and help that can do?!

    My prayers are with everyone in Japan and the families who have lost loved ones.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • He hasn’t called me yet?

    The Question:

    Dear kristin nicole;

    So first off I appreciate that you answer everyones question your site helps alot!!

    I met this guy at my friends sweet sixteen I thought he was cute. So when I left my friend told the guy and I came in and he started talking to me. He introduced himself but we couldn’t hear each other so he asked if I wanted to talk outside I said sure then we introduced ourselves and he asked me what grade I was in I told him and turns out he’s a senior in high school I’m a sopmore then he asked for my number and then he gave me his. When he was about to leave he hugged me and said i’ll talk to u later. It’s been a week and he hasn’t called or text. I texted him on Wednesday about 4 days after the party and he didn’t text back…..What do I think of this?
    🙁

    Sincerely,
    Lost

    My Response:

    Dear Lost;

    First thank you, I love that you look at my website and I would love to help you.

    Sometimes boys like to play games and they take a while to call, but if it’s been a week and you already text him and he did not text back I would take that has a sign that “he’s just not into you”. I know it hurts but sometimes guys act one way and then turn around and act another way. I wouldn’t waste my time, if he really liked you and he was really into you, he would have called by now and or he would have texted you back. If that is how he is going to act now you probably do not want to deal with a guy like that later. You deserve someone who is not going to play games and call you when they truly like you. It was one night of fun and conversation with a cute guy, take that and move on, find another cute boy who will call you back.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • Are the rumors true?

    The Question:

    Dear Kristin Nicole;

    I would love to take your opinion about my relationship.

    Shortly, I heard bad stories about the one that I’m attracted to. I heard that he is aggressive, and I heard that he hit his sister more than once and my brother also told me that he saw him with someone in a place which sells drugs !!! … all these are warning signs, but I’m attracted to him and in a very good relationship with his family.

    The question is : should I give him a chance and try to know him by myself or I should listen to those people because I trust him, and please notice that these problems are rarely discovered !!

    If you want more details let me know, but I don’t want to make it long !!

    Thank you in advance and I wish you the best in your relationship 😉

    ~Rumors

    My Response:

    Dear Rumors;

    It’s hard because sometimes rumors are started, but if your own brother is telling you that he saw him in a place selling drugs then this is not a good sign. Sometimes we ignore the signs because we are attracted to someone and lust sometimes takes control of seeing the truth behind the person. Maybe try to just be friends with him, and or confront him about the rumors and see what he says and how he reacts. You definitely do not want to get into a relationship where the person is abusive and possibly either taking or selling drugs. You said you have a good relationship with his family, do you talk to his sister? Perhaps you can see if the rumors behind him hitting her are true. I doubt that if she tells you they are true that more than one person is lying to you about him, and if this is the case it is probably better to cut all ties with him. Trust me, you do not want to fall into a bad relationship, if he’s a good guy then have him prove he is.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • My husband is away & over protective…

    The Question:

    Dear Kristin Nicole;

    I have been married for 2 months and my husband and I have known each
    other for 6 years now. We have a great marriage, we love each other,
    we are supportive of each other and I am happy with my man. However,
    recently (one month ago) he left to Europe in order to pursue higher
    studies for 6 months.

    Ever since my husband moved to Europe he is being insanely over
    protective about me. He keeps telling me not to go out by myself and
    to take my father/ brother along with me if I have to go out any
    where. He keeps calling me very often in the day- I don’t know if he
    is checking on me or he is actually concerned. If he ever calls me and
    phone is engaged, he keeps asking me who was I talking to on the
    phone. I love my husband and I have never thought about anything but
    loving him and staying committed to this relationship.

    I love my husband and I want to be with him. However, his over
    protectiveness is getting to me, I don’t know if I am over reacting or
    if my husband is being over protective. I tried to talk to him about
    this but all he told me was that, he is concerned about me and I need
    to understand that he is protective about me because he loves me.

    I just want to know if this behavior from my husband is normal. If he
    is being reasonable, how do I train myself to adapt to this behavior
    from him..

    My Response:

    Dear Protected;

    Your husband is away in another country, it just isn’t around the corner, and don’t worry it is normal for him to be a little worried about you and protective, you have only been married for 2 months and then he had to go away for school. Remember he can’t be with you so he may be feeling a little insecure and feel that if you go out alone you may find someone. You and I both know this is not the case because you love him, and he is not going to be gone forever. Six months is a long time but it is doable. Try talking to your husband again and explain to him that you feel a little overwhelmed by his over protection. Explain to him that you love him and nothing is going to happen, that you understand he only cares and loves you but you are also a grown women and you will be fine. Explain to him how you feel and communicate to him how it bothers you that he is constantly telling you what to do and how he questions you about who you may have been talking to prior to his phone call. Just remind him how much you love him and that you will soon be together.

    Have you guys tried video chatting? Maybe this will help a little, at least he can see you and feel a little a closer to you. Again six months is a long time but it is not that long, soon enough he will be back home and you can get back to your normal routine.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • My husband allows me to date other guys…

    The Question:

    My husband allows me to date other guys…?

    My Response:

    Dear Dating While Married;

    No man I know would allow their wife or girlfriend to date other guys, Something is definitely wrong with this picture. Either he is seeing someone behind your back and feels that if you date other men it’s okay for him, he’s gay and in the closet and can’t come out to tell you, or something deeper is hiding deep inside. Do you ask yourself why your husband would want you to date other men? Do you want to date other men? I don’t understand the point of being married if you are going to date other men, you might as well be single and live the single life. I am also not sure if there is a question here? Are you asking if it’s okay that your husband allows you to date other men, because of that is the question that the answer is flat out NO!

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • My husband of 16 yrs had an affair…

    The Question:

    I found out my husband of 16 years has been having an affair and I can’t deal with it please help?

    I found out 4 months ago that he had been sleeping with the secretary at work. Her husband found out and phoned me and told me all about it. My husband told me it had been going on for about 5 months. He said that he did it because it was offered to him on a platter and that our relationship was fine, and that he loves me and does not want to lose me. What hurt the most is he brought her to our house while the kids and I were away and had sex with her in our lounge-room. I have know idea how to get through this, I feel like nothing and I am depressed all the time. I think the best thing is for him to leave but I just don’t know. I know everyone has different ways of dealing with a cheater but I would just like some advice from people who have been in my shoes. Thanks so much…

    My Response:

    Dear Destroyed;

    It’s hard to find out someone we trusted and loved cheated on us. His excuse is plain out BS! Don’t give me that I love you and nothing is wrong yet I’ve been sleeping with my secretary for 5 months because it was handed to me???? SO WHAT???? SO if a guy handed you something in return would you take it? Marriage is a sacred sacrament and it is not something you just ignore. Don’t let him sweat talk you into thinking that what he did was okay. You deserve more than that, you gave him 16 years and now he’s done the ultimate betrayal. It is not going to be easy but I think the first step is making him leave the house. You need to get your thoughts together and you need know that what he did had nothing to do with anything you did, and only selfishness on his part. The fact that he brought this women into your house, where you have your family shows no sign of respect for you or your children. This is unacceptable….and disgusting … You have to be strong for your kids, and you have to know that even though it doesn’t seem like it right now there is always someone out there for someone (even if you don’t see that now), and even though right now you feel like your heart has been ripped out, and you will never feel happy, TRUST ME, You will. Life moves on and we move on and we learn to live and move on from the hurt that others cause us. It is not going to be easy, it’s going to be a hard journey, but you need to be strong and know that you deserve someone a lot better than someone who would lie to you and cheat on you and then use an excuse like the one he did.
    Good luck. Remember you need to love yourself and you need to heal with time before moving on. It will take time, but time does heal all wounds.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • I want to have an affair…

    The Question:

    I want to have an affair, but how do I find someone in a small town ?

    My Response:

    Dear Tempted;

    First lets start off with why have an affair? If you want to cheat on your spouse then there are certainly issues there that need to be resolved. Talk to your other half and try to fix things, if you feel there is nothing wrong but you just want to cheat then there is something wrong with the way you feel and think, and perhaps you need to move on from the relationship you are in. Second, a small town – you are only looking to get caught. Don’t cheat, it’s not worth it, and the person you are with I’m sure doesn’t deserve it.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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