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    52 Weeks of Awesome

    Have you heard about Pace & Kyeli? Neither had I until one day I stumbled across a link on Twitter that took me to their website, Connection-Revolution.com. I was inspired by one of Kyeli’s posts, well written, written from the heart kind of story. You can read up on the About Page on Pace & Kyeli’s website.

    So the other day I was going through my twitter feed when I noticed a post from Pace on her website, from another fellow twitter friend named @Caffeinatedelf — her story — A more Awesome Me, I read with definite detail how this woman’s life had changed and how? From two people who inspired people to register and buy their e-book called 52 WEEKS TO AWESOME! The story behind it from Pace & Kyeli themselves:

    How did the idea come to start?

    When we wrote our first book, The Usual Error (http://usualerror.com),we found that even though we were writing about communication, deep down, we were really writing about personal development. So, for our second book, we wrote about personal development directly.

    Why personal development?

    Because it’s a topic near and dear to our hearts. We’re passionate about it and our lives are full of it. To explain why we wrote our second book in the form of an e-course instead of a regular book, I’ll refer you to this blog post:
    Connection-Revolution.com

    Whose idea was it?

    Both of ours. The two of us were having a fun conversation in Austin Java in 2009, brainstorming potential product ideas. We came up with about 5, including “How to Be Awesome”. We sent our readers a survey,asking them which of the 5 ideas they were most interested in. “How to Change the World with Your Writing” was #1, so we did that first. It became the World-Changing Writing Workshop Worldchangingwriting.com. “How to Be Awesome” came in second, so we did that one next. (:

    With love,
    ~Pace & Kyeli~

    Most people don’t try to inspire others, some just take their knowledge of how to make your life just a little bit better and keep it to themselves, but Pace & Kyeli have brought it to whoever wants it. I don’t know if it works by experience but just read their blog and find out for yourself. Unfortunately Pace & Kyeli told me that Registration was closed for the 52 weeks of awesome but it will be back sometime next year.

    Good luck Pace & Kyeli in all your ventures and keep inspiring people the way you do.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • Is it normal for a cheating man to do this?

    The Question:

    Is it true that if a married man keeps going back to the same woman, even when he has had other affairs, it is because he has feelings for her?

    I recently found out that my husband has cheated on me multiple times, more often with one specific woman.
    Additional Details
    I caught him looking at a picture of her face the other day, but he doesn’t know that I know. Does this mean that he’s not over her? According to what I’ve read, they broke up a while ago.

    My Response:

    Dear Denial;

    Are you really asking “does this mean that he’s not over her”? You caught your husband cheating on you, and you found out he cheated on you more than once and specifically with this women. He’s looking at her picture, and they supposedly broke up recently… They probably broke up because she wants him to leave you and for whatever reason it is that men choose to stay with their wives he probably told her he wouldn’t leave you. But why would you want to stay in a marriage full of lies and with a man that is cheating on you? Respect yourself, love yourself and know you deserve better than this. If your husband really loved you, he wouldn’t cheat. I don’t care what the movies tell us, or what men say, if you cheated on me, then you really don’t love me. Don’t tell me it’s just sex either, because he could be having sex with you instead of her. Confront your husband and don’t keep this secret inside of you, it will only cause resentment and anger. I know it isn’t easy to find out your husband cheated on you, but you need to move on, find someone who won’t cheat on you and love you enough to be honest with you.
    Good luck.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • My husband and I want a child & a career…

    The Question:

    My husband and I want a child and a career, is it possible? We do not see a “perfect” time to have one due to age, finances, careers, ect. pls help! I am 31 and my husband is 37. I have 3 yrs to complete my nursing degree. He HATES his job, and will take the opportunity once I finish to change careers. Our money is extremely tight. My husband does not want to have children past the age of 40, and he already has a 5 yr old daughter. I wanted to be a stay at home mom when I had a child, but due to my husbands strong desire to change careers, I don’t believe that is possible. So, I will have to have a baby during nursing school or not have one at all. That sounds terribly stressful, however is it REALLY worth giving up my desire to raise a child with my amazing husband? I need some advice from people with children and those who chose not to have them. How did your decision affect you later in life? Thank you in advance for your help!

    ~Confused and frustrated~

    My Response:

    Dear Confused and frustrated;

    I don’t have children but I can tell you that all my friends who have them don’t regret not one moment about it. I can understand where you are coming from though, I am finishing up my Bachelors degree and I couldn’t imagine working full time, finishing school and having a baby right now, however, with that said, if your dream is to have children, then go for it. It might not be the way you always dreamed, but if your husband also wants to have a child with you then go for it. No one said life was easy, especially when you add children to the mix, but I have heard only good feelings come with it. Don’t put your career on hold or make your husband put his on hold, if you guys want to have a family and a career then go for it. You also need to sit down and talk to your husband, I understand he wants to have a child before he’s 40 but he needs to understand that you aren’t the same age and although he’s almost there, you aren’t. A few more years won’t make a difference, if you finish your education at age 34 and he changes his career then he can wait another year or two while he focuses on his career and then you can have a baby, he’ll only be a year or two older. Again I don’t know your entire situation, but if he’s not happy with his job now, I don’t see why he has to wait until you finish your nursing degree to change it. Unless you aren’t working and he wants to start his own business then I can understand this, but in the meantime he should think about just changing jobs/careers. He doesn’t have to quit his job right away, start looking for a new one, then leave once you have one lined up. Communication is key, talk to your husband and weigh all your options. If you really want a family together, I’m sure you can figure it out. Good Luck.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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    Confused and frustrated

  • Should he move on or keep waiting on her?

    The Question:

    Should he move on or keep waiting on her? A friend of mine met this girl online last week and they have were emailing each other quite heavily for a few days. They had a lot in common and were looking for the same thing. They even exchanged a few pics of each other. This guy suggested they meet and said she could come to his place. He gave her his phone number and address. She was fine with that. Ok, then she changes it to a more public place which wasn’t far from his house and he was cool. She hasn’t given him her phone number yet, by the way. Ok, she sets the location, date and the time. My friend said he gets there but she doesn’t show up. Later in the day she emails him saying she was nervous about meeting him face to face but she still wants to talk to him. He said he was fine with that but he senses she may be loosing interest in him. The emails are starting to get less and less from her. He feels that instead of having him sitting there at a gas station waiting on her to show up she could have at least called him to say she wasn’t coming. She had his number but she didn’t even call or even send a text. She could have done that if she didn’t want to meet. Hell, it was later in the day before she even sent her email. They were suppose to meet at 10:30 AM and she didn’t send her email until 4 PM. Should my friend move on to someone who seems a little more interested? I told him not to put all his eggs in one basket and to keep looking elsewhere cause she seems like there may be some drama there she’s not telling. What do you think?

    My Response:

    Dear Friend;

    Plain and Simple: Move on…. This girl is simply not interested or she is way too shy, either way, if you are on a dating site, you know eventually you have to meet a stranger. I can understand her not wanting to meet him at his house, that is a little strange to do on a first meeting (she doesn’t know if your friend is a perv or not), it’s better for him to invite a person he’s never met out in public, the girl will feel more comfortable rather than meeting at his place. As for him waiting in his car for her at a gas station? (Was this the Public Place they were meeting in)? Sounds a little funny, if she’s the one who set up this “public place” then perhaps she just wanted to see how he really looked (not sure if they exchanged pictures prior to this or not) but maybe she just wanted to meet him and didn’t like what she saw so blew him off, felt bad and emailed him back making up that excuse, and little by little has not written back to him so that he can get the point and move on. Some women don’t know how to be straight forward and so they play these small games and expect the man to figure it out. Sorry dude, but “she’s just not that into your friend”. Tell your friend to move on and find another girl, and next time… PLEASE tell him to meet in a public place (coffee shop, diner, anywhere else other than his place or a gas station). Good luck.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • Would you leave if he still didn’t want to get married after 6 years together?

    The Question:

    Would you leave if he still didn’t want to get married after 6 years together? My partner and I have been together for 6 years. Prior to starting our relationship we were good friends for 5 years. We currently have three children together.

    He has given me mixed messages about marriage since I was pregnant with our first child. At times he would say that he did want to get married but most of the time he would get angry any time the word marriage was mentioned and use a range of excuses.

    Lately I have demanded that he give me a straight answer and he has told me that he doesn’t want to get married to me because our relationship has been terrible for the entire 6 years. Should I leave? Does it seem so stupid to be with someone that thinks that?

    My Response:

    Dear 6 years;

    The question isn’t really should you stay or leave because it’s been 6 years, but the fact that he told you straight out that he doesn’t want to get married and that your relationship has been bad for the last 6 years seems like a clear sign that this guy is never going to fully commit. Don’t sell yourself short, if what you want is marriage, don’t stick around hoping that he changes his mind. More than likely if he says he doesn’t want to get married, then he doesn’t. You already have 3 children together and perhaps the first sign was when you were pregnant with your first (in which he didn’t want to get married). You are now stuck with him for the rest of your life, whether you like it or not, but do you want to be in a relationship that isn’t filled with love, and is only filled with (whatever it is he’s holding inside of him)? You deserve someone who loves you to the fullest and someone who will want the same things you want in life. If this guy after 6 years doesn’t want what you want, and is being honest about not wanting those things, then you have a decision to make. Either stay with him, and be unhappy that you are never going where you want to go with this guy, or get up and move on. It isn’t going to be easy but you have to do what is right for you and your children.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • My wife laughs at me because I am fat…

    The Question:

    I get very emotional, I am 5’6 285lbs and when we are around friends my wife makes jokes. I do eat a lot but her making fun of me does not help. She actually made me cry and I don’t cry…What should I do?

    My Response:

    Dear Emotional;

    Sit down and talk to your wife, communication is key. If you don’t tell her how you feel, she may never realize that when making jokes about your weight in front of other people really bothers you. If you are unhappy about your weight then join a gym membership or jog around your neighborhood for some cardio exercise. Don’t ever let another person put you down about your weight, not even your wife, if you don’t like it, stick up for yourself and do something about Realizing that you are eating a lot is a good start, start eating healthier snacks and make a change.

    xo
    kristin nicole

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  • Is my husband ashamed of me?

    The Question:

    Is my husband ashamed of me? I love my husband very much and we have been together 3 years now. I have put on 10 lbs since we have been together I feel so fat. I used to weigh 110 lbs now I weigh 120 at 5’9 I feel like a cow and he never takes me out anymore. He also doesn’t answer my phone calls or texts anymore when he’s away. I want to lose the weight so badly to make him happy, I would do anything even starve myself. What can I do to make him love me again?

    My Response:

    Dear 10 pounds;

    If your husband is not giving you the attention you need I don’t think it is just because you gained 10 pounds, and if he is ignoring you and not taking you out because of it, then that is not true love. You need to be happy with yourself, don’t ever starve yourself or “do anything” just because the person you love is not there for you. Loose the weight if you want, but do it for you (to make yourself feel better). I can’t imagine that you are “fat” if you are 5’9 at 120lbs. I think the problem here goes deeper than just a few pounds gained, sit down and talk to your husband and get down to the core of what is really going on with him. If he’s that superficial and it really is that you gained 10 pounds then you need to work on that with each other. Start eating better and go to the gym, but this shouldn’t be a reason for the way he is acting with you. Again COMMUNICATION is KEY! Talk to your husband and tell him how you have been feeling, if he wants to work on your marriage he will, and if he doesn’t, then there might be some hard decisions you may have to make. LOVE YOURSELF first, and no matter what any man says or does, remember you are perfect the way you are, don’t ever put yourself down just because a man is acting like a dumb a@# and don’t ever starve yourself to loose the weight, just eat right and exercise, it’s only 10 pounds.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • Can you stop loving someone?

    The Question:

    Do you believe that we can stop loving some one we used to love?
    She said she was in love with me but now she is not…….. how ??

    My Response:

    Dear Lost Love;

    I do believe that we can love someone and one day not love them anymore. Sometimes we think we are in love or that we love someone but we sometimes grow apart or realize that the person we thought we loved wasn’t the person we really wanted to be with. We can sometimes even not want to be with someone anymore and it doesn’t necessarily mean we don’t love that person, it just means we don’t want that kind of relationship with them. Love is hard and it doesn’t always make sense, she could have been confused or thought she loved you or wanted to try and love you but just realized she really didn’t. It is better that she was honest with you rather than have you there believing that she still loved you. I know it’s not easy, but move on, find yourself someone who will love you.

    Good Luck

    xo
    kristin nicole

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  • Happy Turkey Day…

    Happy Turkey Day…

    Today not only do I celebrate Thanksgiving but it is also my anniversary. Today is a day to give thanks to many things, what do you give thanks for?

    I give thanks for:

    My family
    My boyfriend (who I love)
    My friends
    My job
    The roof over my head
    The food we eat
    I give thanks to god for keeping me strong and keeping me sane when we think things are at our worst.

    Remember life isn’t easy for anyone, even those who look like they have everything they don’t. Look at the famous people who look like they have it all but can’t keep a marriage, look at some people who might have it all but loose it to the addiction of drugs, or the people who are strong but have lost love ones. Everyone goes through hard times, and no one person is perfect. Today I give thanks for the many blessings we do have in our lives. Today I give thanks to you (for supporting soapnights & keeping it going). Today I give thanks…

    ps Happy Anniversary baby, may more years follow the happiness and the journey we have together. i love you.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    Happy Turkey Day~

  • I left my husband today…

    The Question:

    I feel weird… its been a long time coming. My husband wants to live in Australia and he does already. I want to stay in England with our son. I also don’t like the way he treats me so I called it quits. Anyway it went surprisingly well. He was fine with it, and said that he would come visit my son when he can. He was so nice to me and he’s never that nice. Its made me feel really guilty. I’m not going to change my mind on t love me to bits. I’m not going to change my mind on this although I love him to bits. I just don’t want to live in Australia and he wont live in England. Why was he so nice and how do I get past this upset weird guilty stage?

    Before anyone judges me it was the best thing to do for my son as my husband was violent at times…

    My Response:

    Dear England;

    I’m going to skip right to the part you said “your husband was violent at times”. If this was the case, then it’s more than just not wanting to move to Australia with your husband. If your husband was abusive then it is better to have gotten out of the marriage now rather than later. If you are choosing not to move just because you don’t want to leave home (England) sometimes we have to make sacrifices to keep our family together. Again if he was violent with you, then there is no reason for you to feel guilty for staying in England. You have to do what is right for you and your son, and it is better to leave an abusive relationship than to stay in one. You say that you still “love him to bits”, if your husband is abusing you it isn’t right, and you shouldn’t love anyone who can hurt you that way. What you are doing is better than being in an abusive relationship. If your husband is being nice, he may just be trying to get you to forgive him and move to Australia with him. Stick with what you believe, and if he is violent, I wouldn’t allow him to have visitation rights with your son alone, make sure you are always there with him.

    Good luck

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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