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  • I had sex with my wife’s father…

    The Question:

    I had sex with my wife’s father. What should I do?

    Okay so my wife and I were visiting her parents for Easter. We all had a lot to drink and by about 2 AM my wife and her mother had passed out on the couch. I talked to my father-in-law for another half an hour before suddenly he reached over and kissed me on the cheek. I returned it except this time I kissed him on the lips, and before I knew it we were downstairs in the guest bedroom having sex.

    It was one of the strangest and yet most amazing experiences of my life. It was without question the best sex I ever had, but obviously it could prove to be problematic. My wife knew I was bisexual before we got married, but I think to her this would be crossing the line. I haven’t heard from her father since and my wife clearly knows absolutely nothing (we’ve since had sex twice).

    I feel somewhat guilty, but I know if the opportunity presented itself again I would do it again. What the hell should I do? Should I tell my wife and ask her if I can carry on with her father in a purely sexual way—-not in a relationship? I love my wife and don’t want to lose her. I’m so confused. Please help. By the way we’ve been married 4 years and have no children.

    My Response:

    Dear Bisexual;

    First – OMG – Is this for real?
    Second – Of course your wife would be upset, not only are you betraying her trust by cheating on her, but with her father no less. This is not only wrong on all levels on your part but on her fathers part as well. If you decide to come clean do not expect her to be okay with you having a sexual relationship with her father and don’t expect her to want to stay with you at the same time. What person in their right minds would think this is okay? I think a person who is bisexual is still trying to find what they really want in the world, and I think that you are still confused. You need to decide what you want to do but under no circumstances should you do this again, not only are you hurting your wife but your mother in law who probably is in denial that her husband is gay. Own up to what you have done, do not let your wife live a lie with you and end up having children only to hurt them in the end. You have only been married for 4 years and although this will be hard on your wife it is a good thing that you do not have children yet, it will be a lot easier to get out of the marriage. If you truly loved your wife you wouldn’t have cheated on her, especially with her own father. Talk to your wife about how you have been feeling and if you decide to tell her the truth, good luck, because this is one case where you are going to need it.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Answers.Yahoo.com

  • Am I overreacting?

    The Question:

    What do you think? Or am I overreacting?
    So there is guy in my girlfriends class that obviously has a thing for her cause he always stare or like glances at her. One day i pick her up from class and he didn’t know who i was and was walking toward her and when he saw me he immediately walked the opposite direction ( on to the issue ). So this guy got partnered up with my girlfriend, and we both have a feeling he has a thing for her and me and her have discussed and agreed on it. So they obviously have to meet and do they’re project, and tells be that shes going to invite him into her dorm to do homework, when there’s a study area right below her and next to her dorms. So i get angry about it cause she for one knows he likes her and all, and wonder why of all the places invite him to your DORM!. But yeah i get annoyed cause sometimes shes makes a big deal about him looking and even looked up his myspace to “see if hes a douche or that type of person who would try and hit on someones girlfriend “. I thought this was odd, and the fact that she thought to invite him to her dorm to study irked me a lot. Wouldn’t you feel the same way?

    My Response:

    Dear Overreacting;

    You need to talk to your girlfriend and tell her how you feel, if she respects how you feel there is no reason why she can’t meet up with this guy at the study center. I agree with you here, there is no reason to meet up to study in her dorm room when there is a study center in the same building. I think your girlfriend is playing with fire, and although she may act like she doesn’t like the fact that this guy likes her, then why even bother looking up his myspace, facebook or any account for that matter. On that note; you have to trust your girlfriend and even though this guy might have the hots for your girlfriend you have to trust that nothing will happen. I don’t like putting temptation in places they don’t need to be, so ask your girlfriend to meet him in the study center and not in her dorm room if this will make you feel better. Communication is key, and if she is mature she will understand and have no problem with meeting him in the study center instead.
    Good Luck

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    I found this question on April 28, 2011

  • Should I cheat on my wife if she cheated?

    The Question:

    Should I cheat on my wife if she cheated?

    My Response:

    Dear Two Wrongs;

    Two wrongs don’t make a Right. If your wife cheated on you then there are other options you need weigh in. First have you talked about it? Communication is key to any relationship, and this is not something that should be ignored. Two if you have talked about it and you have decided to forgive her then cheating on her is not a way of forgiving, nor will it make things any better. If you feel you can’t forgive her or trust her again then the only option I can think of is Divorce. Find yourself a divorce attorney and get out of a marriage you aren’t happy in. You deserve a wife that won’t cheat on you, and you need to either fix the marriage or get out.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Answers.Yahoo.com

  • KARMIN – Latest Stars to hit the web

    I don’t normally write about music or up and coming STARS, but I was watching the Ellen Show the other day (YES I heart Ellen), and she showed a preview of this girl called Amy and her boyfriend Nick. Her song caught Ellen DeGeneres attention, and what do you know… it also caught millions of viewers attention. Okay I can’t for a fact say millions of viewers but I know it caught my attention.

    Here is the clip from Amy and Nick:

    A little bit about Amy & Nick:

    Karmin which is what they call themselves is has follows: KAR-MIN (car-men) – noun, in Latin meaning ‘song’, with altered spelling to hint ‘karma’ – I would love to know how they came up with this name or where they found it (sounds very interesting).

    Nick and Amy met at Berklee College of Music in Boston (makes sense has to why they would go there), they wrote songs together for school projects and later took the name “Karmin” to put an identity to their distinct writing style. Nick and Amy aren’t just co-worker, collaborators, music geniuses, they are also dating and set to get married. (At least that was the buzz around the Ellen Show). If you want to learn more about Amy and Nick… or should I say KARMIN – You can read their Bio and you can also check out the clip from the Ellen Show.

    What do you think about this? Do you think Amy will get picked up on a record deal with Nick or by herself? Although I find Nick talented, lets be real here, Amy has most of the talent (sorry Nick – I loved you in the video’s and like I said you are very talented, but Amy is phenomenal). Love your work Amy and I hope to see more of it soon.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    If you have Twitter you can follow them @karminmusic

    April 21, 2011

  • Everything Happens for a Reason.

    Everything happens for a Reason….

    Sometimes we don’t understand that the things that are happening to us in the moment are reasons we will one day hope to understand. Sometimes we fight for something that just isn’t meant to be. I used to believe in fairy-tales and happily ever afters but after a while you stop believing. You start to wonder if any of it is even true, and if it’s even possible.

    I pictured my life a certain way and when god had other plans I realized that I can’t control fate or life, I can only try to control how I feel about it and I can only control what I will do next to make it better.

    In life I have come to learn a lot at my age. I have gone through more than most and yet so little compared to others. You can never compare what you have gone through in life to what someone else has gone through, because although you may think that what you have gone through wasn’t easy, and I’m sure it wasn’t, what the other person may have gone through could have been worse or just simply another situation that was just as hard. I couldn’t imagine going through the things that I know some have gone through, and I don’t judge but I look at them with honor, and grace in knowing how strong some people can be, how strong some can overcome the odds and become good people.

    There are still things that happen that I have no explanation for, and sometimes I just want to help those who won’t let me in. I feel bad and I feel like I’m pushed against a wall with no where to turn. If that person knew how much I loved them and cared for them they would know that at any time they could come to me, and at any time I would always be there for them. Although I was just like this person I knew when it was time to need someone. I always had my mom that I could count on. Sometimes we need to put our pride away and open up to the people around us that love us and care for us, because in the end they are the ones that will always be there for us.

    Everything happens for a reason, and although I don’t have the answers, one day you we’ll see and understand why it happened. I used to believe in fairy-tales and happily ever afters and although I gave up on that, I still have hope inside that one day I will have my fairy-tale, and one day I will have my happily ever after, because everything happens for a reason.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • My husband cheated several times and I keep taking him back!!?

    The Question:

    I found out he said he wanted to leave me for her and did, he said it was because I was neglecting him. I travel around a lot for work plus my family never really approved of him so it put a strain on our marriage. After a month he came crawling back,begged for my forgiveness, I took him back. Then I went away for 2 weeks to visit my mother and when I returned I found out that he again cheated ion me with the same girl. Said it was an accident and that it was for sure over this time. I forgave him because of my previous guilt of how I use to leave him for my work all the time
    ( I support the both of us and give him everything he wants) Then months later I read some of his old emails and find out he cheated with several different women. But this time there’s no excuse cause it was just a year into our marriage when he did it and at the time I wasn’t traveling. Is his love BS? Am I being stupid? I no longer work at the same place and my husband now currently supports us, great change after 5 years. Is he really trying to change?

    My Response:

    Dear Waiting for Change;

    I am not saying that someone can never change, but the past has proven otherwise. He has cheated on you more then once, he left you for the ‘other women’ and the first mistake you did was taking him back. You used the excuse of your traveling for work has an okay for him to do what he did to you. Truth is, it wasn’t okay, it doesn’t matter that you traveled, a marriage is through better and worse and if he did not like that you were traveling he should have been honest about it, that is definitely not an excuse to cheat. Now you find out he actually cheated on you before you started traveling for work and with several women, so now do you have an excuse has to why or why it’s okay? Open your eyes, and stop being pushed around, you deserve a man who is honest with you, who will love you and be faithful. No person deserves to be cheated on, if he wants to sleep around then he should have stayed single. Don’t settle for comfort or the fact that now he is supporting you, if you want a real marriage and real relationship without lies I think it’s time you move on. You deserve better, and you need to stand up for yourself and respect yourself to know that what he has done IS NOT RIGHT! Stop waiting for him to change and change your own life.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Answers.Yahoo.com

  • Sometimes we have hard choices to make…

    Random Thoughts:

    Sometimes we have to make hard choices in life and look for a sign from God, or from the Universe to tell us that what we are doing is okay, that what we are about to do is right, sometimes deep inside we have to trust our feelings and we need to realize that maybe if we need to see a sign, maybe if we need to think about it so much, that maybe that just means it isn’t the right thing to do.

    As we grow older we start to realize the mistakes we have made growing up, the stupid things we used to do when we thought “it won’t happen to me”, and the life lessons that brought us to where we are today. At my age, I can’t say that I have been through it all, because I haven’t and I know that there is so much worse in the world, but at my age I also know that I have been through much more than most. I can’t sit here and cry over the things that have happened and I can’t pretend that they never did (even though some things I wish I could turn back time on), it is what it is, and it has truly made me into the person I am today.

    When you think your world is crumbling down, think about the people out there that have it worse then you, and remember that behind every shut door there is another one waiting to be open.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • My boss friend requested me on FB?..

    The Question:

    Would you find it strange if your male boss made a friend request to you on Facebook? If you were working there for a week only…
    He’s not exactly the friendliest guy either…he’s okay but a little nerdy lol

    I kind of feel like I have no other choice but to except because it’s a good job and I don’t want him to hate me for not accepting him… What should I do?
    (Revised – KN)

    My Response:

    Dear Friend Request;

    I do find it a little strange considering he is your boss and you have only been working there a week. If you don’t want to deny him the friendship request I would add him to a list that you can create under your Privacy Settings. You can manage what some can see and what others can’t see. For example; you can add him to the privacy setting where he cannot see any of your personal information or any of your pictures, and he can only see your wall. If he asks, just tell him you do not have any pictures up and that you barely log onto Facebook. Create your Privacy Settings before requesting him, and if he asks you if you got his friend request tell him you barely log on, so you haven’t seen it. (This way he doesn’t think you are ignoring his friend request), but don’t bring it up so that it makes it look like you really haven’t seen the request, don’t mention it unless he does first…

    I don’t think management should request Facebook friendships, I think it can be awkward and or snooping on their part. If it’s too much just take Facebook off for a while, but I do not think it is necessary if you add him to a privacy list.

    Good luck

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Answers.Yahoo.com

  • I need a break from Marriage…

    The Question:

    I used to have no problems with my married life. Now I find myself often wanting to be alone… I got married young-ish (25), I am still in love 8 years later, I am just tired of sharing my space 24/7… What can I do?

    My Response:

    Dear Need Space;

    If you are still in love with your wife then this is good. You just need your space, which sometimes is understandable. Take time for yourself, whether it is a hot bath, reading a book or grabbing a glass of wine (yes guys do this too) and if you need more space then that, maybe join a gym and take time off by working out. Go out with a friend to a coffee shop, or a bar to watch the latest sports game. The point is, take some time for you and spend it either by yourself or with some friends. A marriage takes a lot of work but it does not mean that you can’t take a day for yourself. Take a day out of the week or out of the month to do YOU!

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Answers.Yahoo.com

  • What would you do if you were in love with your friend’s girlfriend?

    The-Question:

    My friend and his girlfriend have been together for 11 months and are happy and in love but I think I’m in love with her. I’d never do anything about it and even when they broke up I wouldn’t as she’d be his ex but I can’t stop thinking about her. What would you do?

    My response:

    Dear ‘friend’;

    I don’t think you are in love, I think you are infatuated with the idea of love. You see your friend happy with another girl, a girl that is easy to get along with because you like her as a friend, pretty, interesting and it’s easy to get all these mixed feelings. If you are a true friend and they are happy then leave it alone, try finding yourself another girl to date (there are plenty other girls out there other then your friends girlfriend), never go for the friends girlfriend, unless you want to risk loosing your friendship. If they break up and time has passed you can always ask your friend if he’d mind you dating her but even if he said yes things may be awkward and the girl might not feel the same way about you. You will still be risking your friendship. Some guys don’t mind if a friend dates an ex girlfriend, or at least that’s what they say to your face, but put yourself in his shoes, would you want him dating one of your ex-girlfriends? I’m not sure why you are even thinking about “if” they broke up if you say they have been together for 11 months and in love. I say just keep moving, don’t stop, and find another girl, NEVER go for your friends girl unless you don’t care about your friendship.

    Good luck.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    Found on Answers.Yahoo.com