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  • Is my Doctor Coming on to Me?

    The Question:

    I started seeing a specialist for migraine issues, the first time I saw him he was nervous he fixed his socks, wiggled around a little, and played with his wedding ring, a tad nervous. But after some phone calls about medication changes, I went to a follow up appointment. This time he made me feel uncomfortable. In the exam room I sat in a chair across from him he started placing his feet right in front of mine no matter where I moved them, when I moved them he re positioned him self and their they were again close like an inch or so. I felt like he wanted do something?

    But I ignored it the entire time he talked to me he had this locked eye contact with me, this time he was taking his wedding ring off and putting it back on with this look on his face as he looked at me, the only time he broke eye contact was to look at my mouth a lot (I wasn’t talking). my roommate came with me both times to help explain how bad I was feeling. he looked at my roomie when he talked but quickly went back to the iron stare. He mimicked how I sat I rested my head in my arm on the chairs side, he did to on the exam bed next to his chair leaning in and rocking his legs on a foot stool. I however, think it is OCD or something hence the staring and foot thing.

    I want to think its OCD he gets touchy when you go talk to him in his office, it is plain with no pictures of his wife which is odd but I guess he’s private. Would you think he has OCD, or is just nervous or would you think he liked you, answer honestly, please! He makes me uncomfortable as my next visits will be alone not with my roommate with me, or should I bring my roommate?

    My Response:

    Dear Migraines;

    If you are feeling uncomfortable then I would just go to another doctor, there are plenty of other doctors that can help you. You can request your records from this doctor so that wherever you go, you don’t have to start over. It could be he just has a nervous twitch or something, but if he’s making you feel uncomfortable then why keep going? Find yourself another doctor and you won’t have to worry about this doctor anymore…

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • Am I impatient or should I divorce?

    The Question:

    I know that I’ve been very lucky. I sold my business a few years ago and have a nice sales job. I’m in my mid 40’s. My family and I live in the Northeast and we were never really affected with the housing bubble or anything. We have a nice nest egg in the bank and, at this point, we could sell our house and pay cash for a condo in Florida or South Carolina near the beach. But my wife doesn’t want to because she’s close to her family up here. Our kids are grown and I’m ready for a change. It’s really creating a rift between the wife and I but I’m not looking forward to another winter here. Please, any advice. I think, in the old days, I could just say “we’re leaving here woman” but, apparently, that didn’t work with my wife. Divorce is on my mind. Any advice? Am I impatient or should I divorce?

    My Response:

    Dear impatient;

    Divorce is a huge step. You don’t divorce just because you disagree on where you want to live, are you sure there isn’t more behind this story as to why Divorce is even on your mind? Do you think moving to Florida or South Carolina alone would make you happier? Have you tried talking to your wife and explaining to her how much you really want to move. I know she will be away from her family but explain to her that you guys can come visit often, or perhaps keep the house and buy a condo in Florida or South Carolina just for the winters; maybe this will work better for you, instead of moving completely away from her family. Try talking to your wife, if you love her try to work things out. Divorce shouldn’t even be on your mind and if it is, you need to really think about why you feel this way. I don’t think that it’s just because she doesn’t want to move….

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • Is it weird to be 36 and a virgin?

    The Question:

    I am just waiting for the right guy. A handsome, tall, carefree responsible man with no kids. A loyal, good christian man with no bad habits. Is that too much to ask?

    I don’t want to be a slut and just have sex with anybody. I want it to be special…Is it weird to be 36 and a virgin?

    My Response:

    Dear 36 Year Old Virgin;

    I think that at your age it is going to be hard to find a man that has no kids. You don’t need to be a slut to have fun and be open. At your age you may not want to be so picky on that “perfect guy”. No guy is perfect and until you can realize that the imperfect might be perfect for you, you might never find the right guy. You need to be more open minded, you might have to find a guy that may have kids already or has slept around, because to find a man that is also a virgin might be a bit hard in today’s world. There is nothing wrong with wanting a loyal, good Christian man, it just might not be exactly what you have been waiting for. To some it is nice to see that you have waited for the right person to give your self to, to others it is definitely weird that you are 36 and still a Virgin. That is just how our society see’s things, especially in today’s’ world. Life is short and you shouldn’t hold back waiting for that right person to come along, because you never know if Tomorrow will ever come.
    Good luck.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • I had a baby with my wife’s sister…

    The Question:

    How do I win my ex-wife back after having a baby with her sister?
    Before you judge me I would like to say that yes I was wrong. 4 years ago me and my wife were pregnant with twins, her sister came over to stay in Germany with us for 3 months because my ex-wife wanted her here. When my wife was pregnant she was cranky, tired and resisted sex and didn’t want me near her. She kept pushing me away. When her sister came about 2 weeks into her stay, by mistake we kissed, and when my wife went to work we ended up having sex a lot. We ended it but 4 weeks after we did she was pregnant with my baby too. I regret everything I’ve done because my ex-wife was so good to me. When I told her what happened she left me and returned home to her own country and I never got to meet my children which was very unfair. I waited and thought she would come back but when her nine months were up I knew she wasn’t going to return. With her sister I am seeing the child. My wife is back in Germany at the moment because her sister told me and I’ve also seen her and my twins and they have grown up so well and I can see she has brought them up well but I want to be in their lives. How do I ask her to let me at least say hi and that I’m their dad? is there anyway I could win her back? I really love this woman and we never arranged a divorce? What I did is a complete mistake but she never got a divorce. She cant hate me then if she hated me why not get a divorce?

    My Response:

    Dear Remorseful;

    First of all – You kissed her by mistake? You don’t just accidentally fall and kiss someone and you don’t accidentally have sex with someone, let alone your wife’s sister…. Second… Yes; You made a huge mistake, the ultimate mistake. Not only did you cheat on her, you cheated on her with her sister and not only did you cheat on her with her sister you had a baby with her sister. If this woman took you back, I would say you were the luckiest man in the planet. I agree that although you made your mistakes that you should at least be allowed to see the babies. You need to first sit down with your wife and apologize for all that you have done, let her see that you are truly remorseful for what you have done to her and that although your relationship may never be the same you want to be a good father to your children. She probably hasn’t gotten a divorce for a few reasons, one she can’t afford it or two she just can’t bring herself to do it yet. Just because she left doesn’t mean she doesn’t love you. You cheated on her while she was pregnant with her sister and got her sister pregnant too. I don’t know how she forgave her sister, because you were both wrong in what you did. Communication is all you have here, try and talk to her and at least be in your children’s lives, but don’t expect to get back with your wife. Do this for your children and your love for them. Good luck.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • I live with my ex-boyfriend?

    The Question:

    We were together for 7 years and we moved in together January of this year and two weeks ago he told me that he wants his freedom, he wants to live life but loves me very much and he wants me to give him time to live? So I have to move out because it was his apartment but my name is on the lease. Right now I dont have enough money to move, I will have it by August 1. Its been really hard living with him, especially because I want him. He thinks I am moving out July 1st but I’m not. Right now we dont talk at all in the house. So my questions are: Should I wait for him? How can I make this situation better?

    My Response:

    Dear Waiting;

    If after 7 years he now wants his freedom then it isn’t worth waiting around for someone who doesn’t want to be with you. I would be honest with him and explain to him that you can’t move out until August 1st. Regardless if he was living there first, your name is on the lease, so you have every right to stay until you can move out. Before you move out you need to make sure to transfer the lease under his name. You do not want your name on anything that you are not going to be connected to. Don’t wait around for him, move on and find someone better.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • My kind of Love – Happy Anniversary

    Happy 33rd Anniversary

    Today is my Parents 33rd Anniversary, it amazes me how so many people today are divorced or separated. Whenever I tell people I have an older brother and a much younger sister they always question if it’s from the same father and mother. I always giggle with a response, YES. At first I found it strange for people to ask that question. Like what kind of question is that, of course it’s from the same parents. But as I grew older and saw so many of my friends parents divorced, I realized that it was becoming more common to have divorced parents then it was to have parents who were still married. How sad is that? I think it’s strong willed and strong love that keeps a couple together. No one is ever perfect and in the end we all argue about things in life and sometimes we get so angry with each other that we don’t want to talk, but in the end if we love each other if we just don’t give up, we can find a way to move past it and get back to where we once were.

    Love is unconditional, Love is what you make of it, Love is Love… No one can take away the love unless you let it. Live Life to the fullest and be honest with each other because in the end you only have each other.

    Happy Anniversary Mom and Dad, may you have many more years of patience, love, and happiness. Love you both!

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • My boyfriend turns me down when I want Sex…

    The Question:

    Dear Kristin Nicole;

    I am constantly asking my boyfriend for sex and I have gotten to the point that I don’t like to ask, so I try to send subtle hints his way, but it still doesn’t seem to be working. We only have sex about once a month and it’s only when he wants to have sex. We live together so it makes it even harder. I try putting on sexy lingerie and I try telling him that I need him but nothing seems to work. I have used toys and tried spicing things up in the bedroom. Do you think that maybe he’s just not attracted to me anymore? If he isn’t I rather him be honest with me so that we can end things and I can move on, but I love him and I want to stay with him, I just can’t live a life where we only have sex once a month. Please help!

    Sincerely,
    ~Need Sex

    My Response:

    Dear Need Sex;

    I would sit down with your boyfriend and tell him face to face how you feel. Stop giving off subtle hints because that obviously isn’t working. Walking around in sexy clothes and trying to spice things up also isn’t working, so there is something definitely up with your boyfriend. Has he been acting strange other than not wanting sex? Maybe he is going through some stuff at work or in his personal life that you don’t know about and he’s stressed. Sometimes when people are stressed their sex life goes on hold. Or worse case scenario he’s with someone else. I am not saying this is the case, but if he was never like this before and all of a sudden he’s just not that into you, then something is going on. Find out what is going and find out what he wants in your relationship. You deserve someone who will pay attention to your needs, especially if you are asking for it, and especially if you are prancing around half naked. I know if I was walking around in lingerie my boyfriend would be on top of me faster than I could even say “come here”. So talk to your boyfriend and find out what is going on…

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • My Best Friend slept over my Boyfriend’s house…

    The Question:

    Dear Kristin Nicole ,

    Hi, I’m 18 and I’m having trouble trusting my boyfriend. Last night I had a dinner rehearsal for my friends wedding so I couldn’t hangout with him, so he went out with a bunch of his friends and he said he would be home by 1:30 and he would call me. He called me and of course I was sleeping so he left a voice-mail around 12:30 saying that hes going out to eat with a couple of his fiends and my best-friend, and then he carried on by saying that my best friend is sleeping over his house because she doesn’t want to go home… by the way (BTW) she is 18 and my bf is 19. She also left me a text sating ” hey I’m sleeping over your bf’s house ”. I am super mad at this situation right now and don’t want to talk to either one of them. I know if I did this to my boyfriend he would brake up with me ……. I don’t think this is okay at all. What should I do?
    Sincerely,
    ~Feeling Betrayed
    My Response:

    Dear Feeling Betrayed;

    You need to talk with your boyfriend. Having your friend or any girl sleep over his house is unacceptable. There is no reason for them to be hanging out together outside of the group of friends. This is only feeding temptation. If this is supposed to be your best friend, I would talk to her too because I am pretty sure she wouldn’t want you sleeping over her boyfriends house (if she has one). Right now you have to trust both of them and hope that they are telling you the truth with why she slept over. I would keep my eyes and ears open and talk to both of them and let them know how you feel.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • Why is BF texting another Girl?

    The Question:

    I Don’t Understand Why He Is Hiding This?
    Okay so me and my boyfriend had a huge fight over him not wanting to spend time with me and then he tells me that he’s texting another girl but they are just friends so we had another fight about that and him hiding stuff from me but surprisingly he’s not texting her because he likes her, he’s texting her to talk about us but he’s now lying to me about texting her even though it’s just about that (I texted the chick because I know who she is). I just don’t understand why he’s lying to me just about that. Any ideas?

    My Response:

    Dear Fighting;

    The fact that he is talking to someone else about your personal relationship is not good, let alone another girl. If you guys are having problems he needs to talk to you, not another girl. Just because he says he does not like this girl and he is only texting her to talk about your problems doesn’t mean he is telling the entire truth. Sometimes we seek out friends in comfort and later it can turn into something more. Talking to another girl about his relationship problems is only causing temptation where there shouldn’t be any. If you have questions, talk to your boyfriend, sit down with him and tell him how you feel. If you want things to work out, stop arguing and talk. Communication is key in any relationship.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • Dating my friends daughter?

    The Question:

    I am a 42 year old man and for the past 5 months I have been secretly dating and sleeping with the 20 year old daughter of a good friend and colleague. This started up when she stayed with me for a couple of weeks last December when she was between flats while at university. We had been drinking too much wine one thing led to another and we made love. We kept promising to end it but neither of us are able to, I am falling in love with her but her father will literally kill me if he finds out.
    It’s such a mess, should I confess to her father or keep seeing his daughter in secret?

    My Response:

    Dear Truth be Told;

    You guys have a huge age difference, that is not to say that you do not have things in common or that you aren’t compatible, but you have to really think about what you want in this relationship and if she is on the same page as you are. She’s not even 21, she has barely lived her life and partied, and these are things she may want to do. Sleeping with a good friend and colleagues daughter that is so much younger then you is probably going to come back to bite you in the ass, however if you are both on the right page then hiding this from her father is only going to make things worse. If the relationships is serious then you both need to come clean. At the end of the day she is an adult and she needs to own up to this relationship whether or not her dad likes it. If it is only a sex thing then I would truly think about whether or not it is worth ruining your friendship and possible working situation. The truth eventually always comes out, and I think it is better to come clean then for him to find out another way. Good luck.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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    May 18, 2011