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  • Dream.Love.Believe.Hope

    Dream.Love.Believe.Hope

    Dreams

    Sometimes we aim for a dream and it comes true, other times we aim and miss. I wanted this DREAM to come true so bad, I wanted it to come alive, for all my hard work to finally pay off. Then the news….. “Sorry we decided to go with someone else.” Life doesn’t teach you how to take rejection, it doesn’t teach you what to do next, or what to feel, or what to do. You take the tears and the pain and you keep moving forward.

    In life we wish for the things we want for ourselves and our family, we dream big and we hope that one day, everything will fall into place. When we are hit with the disappointment of seeing our dreams come crashing down, we are filled with a pain so hard that we sometimes forget how to push that pain away to the side and keep pushing forward. We forget what it is to believe in HOPE. No one ever tells you how hard it is to be rejected, no one ever shows you what to do next. In life, we just do it, we just keep moving forward and we hope that one day, that dream will come true.

    I’ll admit, I was crushed, I felt like I had it on the tip of my fingers, I had this faith inside me that my dream was finally coming true, only to hear those horrible words “Sorry & But”. Yes I cried, yes I felt sorry for myself and yes I almost wanted to just give up. But if I gave up, then what good will that be? I love to write, I love to help people with their problems and I’m not going to give up on myself just because someone else doesn’t believe in me. One day I’ll be everything I’ve ever dreamed of and more. I have people who believe in me and most importantly I believe in me.

    When you start to lose faith in yourself, remember that where ever there is a storm of self-pity, there is always a rainbow shinning bright on the other side. Dream.Love.Believe.Hope

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • How do I stop talking to my ex so I can live a sane life?

    The Question:

    I have posted before about this train wreck of a relationship. I dated him for about a year, moved in early, then moved out because he was kind of a whack job, then we tried to date again, then broke up, and now are in this gray area. Do I see a future with him? No. Do I want to be with him? No. Do I want to move on and stop talking to him? More than anyone can humanly imagine. So, why then, do I consistently maintain contact with him? He will text back, he will sleep with me, he will hang out with me (at his convenience) but overall, a selfish jerk. Sometimes when I text him, I just feel icky. I know that he will avoid me, or ignore texts just to see me squirm. He is rude and doesn’t give two shi**s about what I’m doing, other than the occasional, “How are you?” text after I have asked him. Do I think he actually cares about how I am? No. Am I still in love with him? Not this guy, but the guy he used to be. He leaves me hanging’, I don’t trust him…..but I just can’t STOP the contact with him. HOW (and I am in counseling too), do I just STOP!?!?!? How do you stop the obsessive thoughts of whether or not he’s with another girl….texting another girl….ignoring me….? I just want to STOP so I can live my life. My days are crap when I’m in contact with him. He’s no good. I just want this madness to stop. I feel like I have zero willpower. I am desperate.

    My response:

    Dear sane;

    You say you don’t want to be with him, you say you are over him, you say he’s a jerk, that you want to forget about him, yet here you are still talking about him, still texting him, still wondering if he’s with another girl. STOP! Take time to breath, and realize that you are still hung up on this guy whether you want to be or not. Sometimes it’s hard to get over what we thought we had, what we think could of been. You already have realized that he isn’t the same guy you started dating, and that’s the first step into getting over him. No one can really tell you how to make it stop, you are the only one that can make that happen. Erase his number from your phone, get rid of anything that he’s given you or any pictures you still have of him ( I know you must have that stuff still), the sooner you do this the sooner it will sink into your head that things are really over between the two you. STOP Texting, loose his number and perhaps even change yours so that he can’t contact you. You already know he isn’t any good for you, he didn’t treat you good and he was as you stated a bit of “a whack job”, so why would you possibly want to be with someone like this. Respect yourself, and learn to love yourself, when you get that you will finally see that this guy isn’t worth your time. You deserve someone that will love you the way you love them, you deserve someone who will treat you good and want to be with you, not someone like the man you described above. Unfortunately women tend to hold on to things, we tend to think about the guy, and drive ourselves crazy even when we know it isn’t going to do any good. Start hanging out with family or friends, going out keep your mind off things and move on. You have to stop in order for you to move on. Hope this helps you a little. Keep me updated.

    Please leave comments if you want.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Answers.Yahoo.com