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  • Advice Column: My wife cheated on me

    Advice Column: My wife cheated on me

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    Advice Column:

    I found out recently that my wife was cheating and emailing old boyfriends (2 different guys); during 10 years of her sneakiness she kept her self in unbelievable shape and always looked hot. After I confronted her she said she was so sorry and she loved me and she made a mistake.The problem is, that now that her sneakiness has stopped she is not worrying about how she looks and is gaining weight. I know this looks so obvious on the surface but what do you think it really means ??

    Is this just another sign of her not being happy with me so she doesn’t have to look sexy any longer.

    My Response:

    Dear Wife’s Too Comfortable;

    First lets start off with that your wife cheated on you and you are still with her. Why are you with her? Don’t you think you deserve someone who doesn’t need to cheat on you to later realize they really want to be with you? Second – her gaining weight and not looking good for you can mean different things. Every women is different, personally I like to stay looking good for me and also because there are other women out there and it feels good to keep your man happy. It could mean that she is no longer cheating and has realized that although she’s happy with you, she now doesn’t have to worry about her appearance. I mean if you stayed with her after she cheated on you, why would you leave her if she gained some weight? Or she can simply just not care anymore. I think you should sit down with your wife and talk to her if you aren’t happy. Looks aren’t everything and I am not saying someone in the relationship is not allowed to gain weight, you should love the other person no matter what. I just find it strange that she kept herself up really nice when cheating on you, but now is just letting herself go. Again – COMMUNICATION is key, talk to your wife and see what she’s feeling. A happy relationship needs communication, if you don’t talk, you will never know the answer to your question.

    Good luck.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Answers.Yahoo.com

    (Edited 2010)

  • Advice Column: Bad kisser but good in bed

    Advice Column: Bad kisser but good in bedDear Kristin Nicole;

    My boyfriend “Jason” and I, have been together for over a year and most of that we were long distance. As in every relationship, he was amazing at the beginning, and he still is as a boyfriend – he treats me well, he never lets me pay, he gives me compliments every single day and doesn’t complain about me at all, but there are certain things that make me wonder whether I want to be with him long-term. He doesn’t have a higher education which is fine with me, but he still doesn’t have a clue what he wants to do in the future. He has a part-time job and lives with his parents (he will be 24 soon). I gave him a few ideas what he could do and he liked those jobs, but he would have to undertake some training which he isn’t very keen on doing. I feel like he thinks he is still a teenager and has his money just for fun (yes, after 7 years out of high-school he hasn’t saved much). Also, although he treats me well, he isn’t the nicest person, he shouts at his parents, calls him mum ‘bitch’, tweets random people to ‘fuck off’, simply he is a bit aggressive. Lastly, we doesn’t share the same sense of humor and he is a bad kisser. Good in bed, but a bad kisser.

    I don’t want to leave him because I don’t want to hurt him and he gives me security, but I am young, I shouldn’t worry about finding another boyfriend.

    Thanks for your time and help 🙂
    ~”Katie”

    Names have been changed for privacy purposes. 

    My Response:

    Dear Katie;

    It sounds to me like you are just settling to be with this guy. He’s turning 24 soon and it sounds like he has a lot of growing up to do. You pretty much summed up reasons why not to be with him, can you think of any reasons why you should be with him? You have to think about your future, do you see yourself with a man like this? Not having an education isn’t the worst thing, and like you said it isn’t a big deal, but the fact that he doesn’t want to try and work is a totally different situation. He needs to figure out what he wants to do in life, what career, and what path he plans on taking, because if everything in life is a negative now, imagine how it will be later down the road.

    You stated; “lastly we don’t share the same sense of humor and he is a bad kisser. Good in bed, but a bad kisser.” There are so many other people out there who you will have things in common with. Being with someone and sharing things you both like is a big thing to have in a relationship. If you feel that you don’t share the same humor or personality, that can be a problem. As for being a bad kisser, you can always try to train him and tell him how you like it. You are young and you have so much time to find someone that you are more compatible with. Don’t waste time on a boy (and I say boy because he hasn’t grown up yet); when there is probably something better waiting for you out there. If you truly love him, truly madly, deeply can see yourself spending the rest of your life with him, then sit with him and tell him how you feel, try to get him motivated into changing his life around. Good luck.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

     

  • Advice Column: Why is he so bad at sex?

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    Advice Column: Why is he so bad at sex?

    He is so bad at sex! He lays in bed and says give me a BJ! I said okay, how would you like it, and he is very non descriptive. [sic]. He said with your tongue; you know go up and down. I tried but he seemed real frigid and unsatisfied to be honest. During sex he cums within minutes and asks if I want it again. He doesn’t give me kisses and he doesn’t ask me if I am enjoying it. I find that I am demanding with him with what I need and he often just denies what I demand of him.

    He pumps it into me like a rabbit man on steroids. [sic]. This is sad and true. How do I freaken [sic] communicate to him?

    (Edited)

    My Response:

    Dear Unsatisfied;

    This is a Simple question. Tell him how you feel! Communication is not that hard, tell him you want more attention, you want him to be more detailed in how he likes things and if he doesn’t like it a certain way, to also let you know. It is important to be open with your partner and if he can’t do that with you then maybe it’s time to go your separate ways. Don’t worry about always asking him how he likes it. Do your thing and be confident! If he can’t satisfy you then maybe you need to find yourself a man that can. Find someone that can open up to you, rather than just sit there and tell you to blow him. We all deserve better then that. It is important to be attentive to your partner and get some in return.

    Good luck.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Answers.Yahoo.com (2011)

  • Advice Column: Abusive boyfriend

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    Advice Column: Abusive boyfriend

    The Question:

    I just broke up with an emotionally abusive man. After two years of trying,  now I regret it, why?

    (Edited)

    My Response:

    Being in an abusive relationship sometimes turns into a cycle. You did the right thing by getting out. Some women don’t ever get out and they live a life of abuse and sometimes even end up dead. Do you want to live that kind of life? Always being scared, never feeling truly loved? Don’t ever regret leaving someone who only hurt you emotionally and physically. YOU DID THE RIGHT THING, by leaving him. Trust me. You should try talking to someone, letting out your concerns and the trauma that you went through. You might not think that what you went through is much, but it is, and this can keep you from having healthy relationships in the future. You need to love yourself and respect yourself first so that the next man that comes along will love and respect you just as much as you love and respect yourself. No man should ever hit a women and know that you NEVER deserve to get hit, no matter what you say or do. Remember no man is worth you hurting over. Love yourself, respect yourself and always know that leaving a man who abused you isn’t something you should ever regret.

    Good luck.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Answers.Yahoo.com (2010)

  • Advice Column: I want to sleep with my boyfriend’s BF

    Advice Column: I want to sleep with my boyfriends best friend. Image found on Flickr.com
    Advice Column: I want to sleep with my boyfriends BF. Image found on Flickr.com

    Advice Column: I want to sleep with my boyfriend’s BF. What should I do?

    Dear Kristin Nicole;

    I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now. I love him, I don’t want to break up with him, but I have always had a physical attraction to his best friend. I actually met his best friend first, and we flirted for a while but nothing happened. I then met my now boyfriend and we hit it off. I still flirt with his best friend all the time, and he flirts back. One time when my boyfriend wasn’t looking he grabbed my ass and told me how hot I looked. It turned me on, knowing my boyfriend was in the other room. Another time I was wearing a skirt and we were all out to dinner, under the table he touched me. It was exciting and I just wanted to take him right there and kiss him. I don’t want to hurt my boyfriend but I can’t help my sexual feelings for his best friend. Should I just sleep with him and get it out of my system? Do I leave it alone? Help.

    ~ Attracted to my boyfriend’s Best Friend

    My Response:

    Dear Attracted to the boyfriend’s Best Friend;

    It is never a good idea to cheat on your boyfriend, let a lone with his best friend. If you are having feelings for his best friend and his best friend has made moves on you, then you need to break up with your boyfriend. If you really loved him, you wouldn’t have allowed his best friend to touch you while out to dinner. I don’t think you should ever sleep with a boyfriend’s best friend or an ex’s best friend. But it is ultimately your choice. I would break up with your boyfriend and talk to the best friend. This may just be a physical attraction and you may lose something that was more special. But you never know, maybe this will turn into much more. On another note: If he was really a good person or friend, he wouldn’t be hitting on or touching his best friend’s girlfriend. I don’t care who met who first, it’s just wrong.

    Look deep into your relationship, if you were really in love, you wouldn’t be messing around with his best friend. If the best friend really cared about his friend, he wouldn’t be messing around with his girlfriend. You say you don’t want to hurt your boyfriend but if you sleep with his best friend you are only going to hurt him. There really isn’t any way around this.

    xo,

    kristin nicole

  • Advice Column: Why don’t I want to be in a relationship?

     

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    Advice Column: Why don’t I want to be in a relationship? Image found on flickr.com

    The Question:

    Why don’t I want to be in a relationship?

    Theres this guy on Facebook; I asked him out and he said yes, and now I feel like I’m not good enough for him. Many people told me that no one will ever like me. I feel like it really effected me some how. I’m always pushing people away; like friends and family . What should I do?

    (Edited)

    My Response:

    Dear pushing away;

    I don’t know who you are talking to or what type of friends you are hanging out with, but it’s not very nice of them to tell you that you will never meet anyone. You obviously have, and you actually had the confidence to ask him out and he said yes. So stop worrying about what others have told you and gain that confidence back. Sometimes we push people away because we are scared to loose them, so it feels easier to push them away before they get too close. But honestly, this doesn’t fix anything. It doesn’t stop from feeling whatever it is you’re going to feel. Life is a journey and there are lessons to be learned, but it makes us who we are. Go out with this guy and take a chance.

    xo,

    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Yahoo.com

  • He is a virgin but I’m not…

    The Question:

    Dear Kristin Nicole;

    My boyfriend that I am with now is a virgin, I didn’t know this when we first started dating, because he seems so confident, I had assumed he wasn’t a virgin. He is 23 years old and I am 21, I have had more than one partner in my life and I am wondering if I am going to enjoy having sex with my boyfriend. I want someone who is going to know what to do, not someone I have to tell what to do. Is it wrong of me to think this way? Should I break up with him, or should I take his virginity?

    ~ Boyfriends a Virgin

    My Response:

    Dear Boyfriends a Virgin;

    You shouldn’t break up with your boyfriend just because he is a virgin, you obviously liked him enough to become his girlfriend. It may not be the same as the other men you have been with, but he might just surprise you. Try taking the dominant role and perhaps showing him exactly what you like will win over the rest in the end. Sometimes you can’t teach an old dog new tricks, but one that doesn’t know any better might be worth a little work. Have you tried doing other stuff with him? Perhaps having a little fun beforehand can loosen up the mood. If you really feel like you do not want to be with him, make sure before taking his virginity, although I’m sure he wouldn’t mind. Good luck

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • Happy Birthday!

    Happy Birthday

    Today is the day you were born
    Today is the day I give thanks to the lord
    Without you here, you wouldn’t be part of my world.

    My world changed the day you came into my life
    With every wish I wished upon a star
    that one day I would find love
    love found me a million miles away

    Love entered my heart when I thought it was gone
    you showed me the light,
    you showed me the way,
    if it wasn’t for you
    my world would have gone astray.

    Today is your birthday
    and I wish you the world
    I know that good things are coming your way
    with every wish I make
    with every breath I take
    I know deep down that from here on out
    only good things will come our way.

    Happy Birthday to the man I love
    Happy Birthday
    Happy Birthday

    I love you…..

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    © ~Written By: Kristin Nicole August 23, 2011 – Monday~

    Happy Birthday to a wonderful boyfriend, I hope you are enjoying our trip. I love you

  • Jump into the Jacuzzi with Ex or Current BF?

    I was scanning the web when I bumped into this article “Ask Kitty” the Title “Kitty Jumps into the Jacuzzi”.

    The women wrote as follows:

    “My company has a Jacuzzi on the 15th floor of our office building and I’m dying to try it out. There is a special guy in my life, but I’m thinking water sports should involve someone I can get wild and crazy with, i.e., my biker ex-boyfriend. Prior to our breakup, I promised him a romp in the tub, but we never got around to it. Would it be super-scandalous if I took him up there instead of my bf? And do we need to use a rubber? My bff told me the hot water will kill the sperm. A baby would be a clear indication I’ve cheated.” (you can find the link below, if you want to see Kitty’s response). ~Juana Getwhet

    My Response:

    Dear Juana,

    First I would like to acknowledge the fact that you stated you had a best friend who told you hot water will kill sperm. First tell your friend to take some classes on “how to get pregnant”. YES, You can get pregnant in water, jacuzzi, pool with chlorine, any type of water anywhere that you aren’t using protection you can get pregnant. (Water will also not stop any transmitted diseases). I advise you get on a birth control pill because using a condom in the water can easily break. (Remember birth control pills also won’t help with transmitted diseases). BTW…(Sorry if I’m too blunt, but I don’t want you to make a mistake that you’ll later regret). As you indicated “A baby would be a clear indication that you cheated”. Along with many other responsibilities you’ll have to deal with later. Now back to the rump in the jacuzzi with someone who is “wild & crazy”. Have you even tried talking to your current man about getting wild & crazy in the jacuzzi on the 15th floor? How do you know he won’t be up for it? I guarantee any man wouldn’t pass an invitation like that up. If by chance he does turn you down, maybe you should re-think him being your man. My only other concern is the fact that just because your ex and you had discussed doing something like this, why would you even give him that chance to do that with you now that he is your EX? Perhaps you aren’t quiet over you ex? Issues we wold have to discuss another time.

    In Conclusion:

    Talk to your new man and have that wild & crazy night in the jacuzzi with him, not your Ex. And remember to always use protection.

    XO,
    Kristin Nicole

    If you want to read what Kitty’s response was you can link Here.

  • My girlfriend is texting with another guy

    I don’t know if you are familiar with Yelp.com, but I was going through the threads when this question popped up:

    The Question:

    Its been almost a year and my girlfriend keeps texting back and forward with a coworker I was competing with when we were dating. This guy keeps telling her how beautiful she is and texting her when she is not at work. Initially I didn’t mind the competition but when she became mine, I let it go but this guy keeps coming back. Should I have a talk with her? I am not a jealous guy but I don’t want to be play a fool. Help!
    Thanks.

    My Thoughts:

    Dear Mr. Not Jealous

    Lets start off with my first question. Is your girlfriend texting this guy back?!?

    You don’t want to cause conflicts at work if you work with this guy, so I would advise you talk to your girlfriend. You say you guys have been together for a year now, and that should mean open and honest communication with each other. Tell her how you feel, and have her text him back asking him to please not text her anymore. If she loves you and she wants your relationship to work, I see no problem in her doing this.

    If she has a problem texting and telling this guy to stop texting her, then maybe there is something else behind these texts. If she’s texting him back, maybe he thinks it’s okay to tell your girlfriend she is beautiful. This is a disrespect to you and your relationship and he also needs to know that he’s stepping over his boundaries. Maybe go up to him nicely and ask him to please stop texting your girlfriend, that you don’t appreciate it. If this is too straight forward for you and you feel this may cause conflict (as I stated above) in the work place then speak to your girlfriend and have her tell him to stop.

    If she refuses then maybe you need to sit down and see what she wants out of your relationship, because if she’s going to continue flirting and texting with this guy then maybe you need to re-evaluate your relationship.

    XO,
    Kristin Nicole