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  • My boyfriend has started beating me?

    The Question:
    I have been staying with my boyfriend for a year, but recently he has started to lose his temper and beat me. He is kind and loving 90 percent of the time, should I leave him because you know the beating will never stop?

    My Response:

    Dear Abused;

    I think you already know the answer here. If you even have to ask then the answer should be obvious, but just in case…. My answer would be YES Leave him, and not just because he probably won’t stop, but because this is not love! Someone who loves you won’t dare put a hand on you, no only is it disrespectful but it’s physical abuse and no person should ever have to go through this. If he has a bad temper it could only get worse, he needs help and he is the only one that is going to have to want to get the kind of help he needs, but if you stick around it can only get worse from here. Respect yourself and Love yourself enough to get out of a relationship you already know is no good for you. Find someone that will respect you and love you and won’t lead to violence just because he gets upset about something.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • My boyfriends mum is having an affair what do I do?

    The Question:

    My boyfriend had told me that when he was younger his mum had an affair and his parents split up for a while but now they are back together. His mum goes out a few times a week dancing or with friends but always comes back at funny hours, considering clubs close at 3 she doesn’t come home until 6. I have also seen her sending text messages saying ‘you will always have my heart’ etc to an unsaved number in her phone which she then deletes. I want to tell my boyfriend or his sister but I don’t want to stress him out as he is coming towards the end of university and needs to concentrate on his work and his sister is getting married in June and I don’t want her family to be upset/arguing on her big day. Should I just ignore it?

    My Response:

    Dear Knows Too Much;

    This is a very hard situation to be placed in. If you don’t tell him, and he finds out you knew he might be upset that you didn’t tell him, but on the other hand it really isn’t any of your business. I would honestly more than likely stay out of it, at least for now until after your boyfriend finishes his exams and his sister gets married. And honestly I am sure they aren’t oblivious to the fact that the clubs close at 3am and she doesn’t come home until 6am. I am sure they have noticed this too and I am sure their dad notices as well. Perhaps they are in denial because they do not want to believe that she would do this to their family again. I would stay out of it for now. I am not sure how you even saw her phone messages, especially if she deletes it soon after, BUT just stay away from it all. After all the exams and wedding then decide if you can keep this secret from your boyfriend. Although this is not your business, he is your boyfriend, and trust is a big factor in any relationship. Put yourself in his shoes, would you truly want to know if your mother was cheating on your dad yet again? Or would you rather just not know???

    Good luck.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • I Slept with my twins boyfriend

    The Question:

    Like she wont speak to me and when she found out she pushed me down the stairs, it was a bit dramatic really. I think it is her boyfriends fault though he shouldn’t of done it. Shes a brat pushing me though, argh do you think that’s wrong ?

    My response:

    Dear twin;

    First how old are you? Second, she has every right to be mad at you, that is the ultimate betrayal from anyone let a lone a sister and especially a twin sister (usually twins are a little closer than most siblings). Perhaps your sister went too far pushing you down the stairs, but you aren’t physically hurt are you? If it were me, I might have kicked your a**. However, I am hoping that she dumped that looser of a boyfriend because if he’s willing to sleep with his girlfriends own sister the guy is a (well we won’t say what he is here, but you get my drift). It’s the boyfriends fault as much as it is yours. He didn’t force you to sleep with him, and his little wienie didn’t just fall into you, take responsibility and stop blaming only the boyfriend, it’s his fault as much as it is yours. Need advice DON’T sleep with your sisters boyfriend, friends boyfriends or anyone elses boyfriend. Perhaps you need to ask yourself why you felt you had to sleep with your own sisters boyfriend to begin with? Put yourself in her shoes, how would you feel if your sister slept with one of your boyfriends? Then come back and ask if she was over reacting. Beg your sister for forgiveness and hope that she forgives you and trusts you again, because if it was me I don’t think it would be that easy to forgive you or trust you again. Good luck and I hope you learned a valuable lesson here….DON’T SLEEP WITH ANYONE ELSES BOYFRIEND!

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • Have you ever felt this way after a proposal?

    The Question:

    Hello, so I just wanted to know why I might feel this way after a proposal, so yesterday my boyfriend of 9 years (I met him when I was 14) proposed and I said yes but now I feel so nervous I’m just scared of planning or doing anything wrong so I just wanted any advice in how I could over this feelings? And did you ever feel this way? Thank you….

    My Response:

    Dear Engaged;

    You are still young and you met your boyfriend at a very young age, nerves are natural. There isn’t much anyone can say or do to make you feel better, you just have to take it easy and relax. Don’t worry so much about the wedding and take your time, there is no rush to get married tomorrow. If your nerves are beyond just feeling a little scared about marriage than just make sure that you really want to marry your boyfriend and you didn’t just say yes because you haven’t been with anyone else. Marriage is an important part of life, and it shouldn’t be taken lightly. Make sure this is what you want, if it is, then the nerves are natural, again just relax, have your family and friends help you plan the wedding and have fun with it.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • My boyfriend isn’t ‘the one’, should I leave him?

    The Question:

    I’m a 32 year old woman and I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and we were friends for years before that. He is a great guy, we get on well and we are really well matched in many ways. My concern is that I don’t think I love him and I feel in my gut that we are not meant to be together in the long-term. I feel strongly that I don’t want to commit to him. However, I’m also scared to leave him because I know he’d make a great father and partner/husband (although I don’t see myself marrying him). I guess I feel he may be my only chance (at my age?). Question is: am I just afraid to grow up and settle down or would I just be settling for the wrong guy if I stayed? I’m scared of making a massive mistake either way.

    My Response:

    Dear Not In Love;

    I think you already know the answer “He is a great guy, we get on well and we are really well matched in many ways. My concern is that I don’t think I love him…” You have already spent the last 5 years with someone you already know you don’t want a future with and it isn’t fair to lead him on into thinking that his future might be with you. Be honest with yourself and with your boyfriend, it might hurt and it’s hard to move on and find someone else but at the end of the day you both will be happy that what you did was the right move to make. Marriage is a very big commitment and it isn’t something you should ever get into just because “he or she might be a great parent”. You are still young and there are plenty of other men out there, don’t keep putting it off and spending more time on a relationship that you aren’t truly happy in. Don’t ever settle to just settle, settle down because that’s the person you truly know you want to spend the rest of your life with. Sit down with your boyfriend and tell him how you feel, move on and find someone you are truly in love with and can have a future with.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • What to do to fix my relationship?

    The Question:

    What to do to fix my relationship?
    About 4 days ago I said somethings I didn’t mean to say to the girl I love and I really hurt her and now she is saying she needs time to figure things out. I feel horrible about what Ive done and Ive done all I can to try and show her I care, before all this happen we were trying to have a child and making plans on moving in and marriage one day; now she acts like I never mattered and it kills me. Anyone have any ideas on what I should do or say to try to make things better?? I just don’t get how it went from so good to so bad with us…

    My Response:

    Dear boyfriend;

    It can be many things, I only know this one piece of the story, but look back into your relationship (as the whole) and was it really good (not perfect, because no relationship is perfect) but was it good? If it was and you really didn’t have any problems before this then maybe she’s just being a little over emotional, give her time, keep showing her how sorry you are and tell her you love her. If you guys have had a few problems (big) in the past perhaps this was the last straw and she’s using it as a way to get out. Sometimes we try to pick fights or we get mad over small things because we really aren’t happy in our relationships. I say sit down and talk to her, find out what is really going on and apologize for what you said. If she still is blocking you out, give her time and then try talking to her again.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • Would you leave if he still didn’t want to get married after 6 years together?

    The Question:

    Would you leave if he still didn’t want to get married after 6 years together? My partner and I have been together for 6 years. Prior to starting our relationship we were good friends for 5 years. We currently have three children together.

    He has given me mixed messages about marriage since I was pregnant with our first child. At times he would say that he did want to get married but most of the time he would get angry any time the word marriage was mentioned and use a range of excuses.

    Lately I have demanded that he give me a straight answer and he has told me that he doesn’t want to get married to me because our relationship has been terrible for the entire 6 years. Should I leave? Does it seem so stupid to be with someone that thinks that?

    My Response:

    Dear 6 years;

    The question isn’t really should you stay or leave because it’s been 6 years, but the fact that he told you straight out that he doesn’t want to get married and that your relationship has been bad for the last 6 years seems like a clear sign that this guy is never going to fully commit. Don’t sell yourself short, if what you want is marriage, don’t stick around hoping that he changes his mind. More than likely if he says he doesn’t want to get married, then he doesn’t. You already have 3 children together and perhaps the first sign was when you were pregnant with your first (in which he didn’t want to get married). You are now stuck with him for the rest of your life, whether you like it or not, but do you want to be in a relationship that isn’t filled with love, and is only filled with (whatever it is he’s holding inside of him)? You deserve someone who loves you to the fullest and someone who will want the same things you want in life. If this guy after 6 years doesn’t want what you want, and is being honest about not wanting those things, then you have a decision to make. Either stay with him, and be unhappy that you are never going where you want to go with this guy, or get up and move on. It isn’t going to be easy but you have to do what is right for you and your children.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • Can you stop loving someone?

    The Question:

    Do you believe that we can stop loving some one we used to love?
    She said she was in love with me but now she is not…….. how ??

    My Response:

    Dear Lost Love;

    I do believe that we can love someone and one day not love them anymore. Sometimes we think we are in love or that we love someone but we sometimes grow apart or realize that the person we thought we loved wasn’t the person we really wanted to be with. We can sometimes even not want to be with someone anymore and it doesn’t necessarily mean we don’t love that person, it just means we don’t want that kind of relationship with them. Love is hard and it doesn’t always make sense, she could have been confused or thought she loved you or wanted to try and love you but just realized she really didn’t. It is better that she was honest with you rather than have you there believing that she still loved you. I know it’s not easy, but move on, find yourself someone who will love you.

    Good Luck

    xo
    kristin nicole

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  • Is it a good sign that he did this?

    The Question:

    My boyfriend and I were in an on and off relationship for almost two years, but a couple of months ago, we decided to break it off and haven’t spoken since.

    A couple of days ago, I saw that he had been to my LinkedIn profile – and he is not a connection, since I started the account after the last time we broke up.

    Does this mean that he might be thinking of me? Am I right to think it’s a good sign?

    My Response:

    Dear LinkedIn;

    LinkedIn is used for professional reasons, perhaps he was thinking of getting one and just wanted to see your profile, just because he was looking at it doesn’t necessarily mean he was thinking of you to get back with you or anything. You also said that it was a mutual decision to break up, so why the wondering about your ex boyfriend now?

    I also don’t see how you know he looked at your LinkedIn? Perhaps the question here goes beyond the fact that he might be thinking of you. I say let it go, if he hasn’t tried to contact you directly then move on. You broke up for a reason right?

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • Losing the people we love…

    Life’s struggles:

    In life we lose the people we love, sometimes something as simple as a breakup and other times something called forever. We live our lives not realizing that tomorrow is not guaranteed and we take advantage of the people we love. Sometimes we don’t even get the chance to tell them we love them because we had a petty argument. This week I’ve seen a bosses dad pass away, a friends mom and the faith they hold inside, that things really do happen for a reason.

    In the end…

    It’s inevitable to avoid the fact that one day we are going to lose someone we love. Whether it’s our grandparents, our parents, our spouse, and some people lose people they never thought possible, their children. We don’t know why things happen and we don’t know why we have to lose the people we love and go through that pain, but it’s a pain that no one can truly explain, even though at one point in our lives we have all felt it or we are going to feel it one day. Life doesn’t teach us how to deal with losing someone we love, it doesn’t teach us how to cope or how to keep living our lives without them, we just do.

    The day comes…

    The day comes when we have to feel that pain, we have to cry and we have to grieve and we have to keep living without the people we love. This is why it’s so important to not take advantage of the people you love, make sure to tell them you love them and make sure that no matter what happens you are there. For that one split second in time when your life stops, when your heart stops, we grieve for the person we lost, and we hold that sadness inside of us in which we hope will only make us stronger and we continue to live our daily lives without them, because the world doesn’t stop for us, the world doesn’t let us cry on it’s shoulder and it doesn’t let us understand why things happen for a reason. Sometimes we ask why? but there never seems to be an answer, and we keep moving forward. Life stops for no one, so don’t stop living, don’t stop believing and don’t stop telling the people you love that you love them, because at the end of the day, the world keeps moving forward, we keep moving forward.

    xo,
    kristin nicole