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  • Should I feel guilty?

    The Question:

    Should I feel guilty? Why do I?? Confused!!?

    Ive just come out of a relationship. It was hard to end and I wasn’t happy in the end. The guy didn’t talk to me for weeks after we split and now he turns up saying all the stuff I ever wanted to hear. Mean while, I started dating (nothing serious just dates) this other guy. I explained to the new guy, that I’m just out of a relationship and I have mixed up feelings, and he is ok about it. So why do I feel guilty? Like if I’m cheating on someone when I’m not!!? I told my ex we can talk next week but I can’t promise more then that and we will see what happens. Am I doing anything wrong? Why do I feel guilty? I’m no one’s girlfriend now right? Thanks in advance for your advice.
    ~Conflicted

    My Response:

    Dear Conflicted;

    You shouldn’t feel guilty because you were very honest with they guy you are dating about just being out of a relationship and not wanting anything serious. You are probably conflicted because you may really like the new guy you are dating, and even though you haven’t done anything but talk to your ex, you are feeling like it’s wrong. If you weren’t happy at the end of your relationship then why do you want to talk to your ex now? I think the best thing to do is move on from your ex, and the easiest way to do that is to stop talking to him. If you really like this new guy then don’t ruin it by talking to your ex. If you are confused, then take some time off from both of them and see what you want to do. If you have unfinished feelings with your ex then maybe talking to him and seeing him will clear a few things up for you. Don’t drive yourself crazy about it though, you are single and you are doing nothing wrong, you were honest with the guy you are dating, so if he wants to stick around while you sort out your feelings then that is entirely up to him. Good luck.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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    August 25, 2011

  • My fiance cheated on me with my best friend…

    The Question:

    Fiance Cheated on me and now we are through. What do I do now?
    We had been together 6 years and then she cheats on me with my friend and is with him now. I feel lost, don’t quite know what to do. I loved her very much and just in shock still of what has happened, was the last possible thing i ever thought could have happened. How do i make it through the days without her, what do i do now? How do I attempt to find someone after so long with her i don’t even know where to begin. Any advice is deeply appreciated.

    My Response:

    Dear Recovering;

    It’s hard, not only did your girlfriend who you thought you were getting married to cheat on you but she cheated on you with your best friend. The first thing you need to realize is your best friend, really was never a friend if he was able to cheat with his best friend’s fiance. Second your girlfriend is not worth being sad over if she just couldn’t tell you how she felt and ended things before going onto your best friend. You got hit here with a double wammy, not only did you lose your girlfriend but you lost your best friend the same day. You deserve better, you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself and realize that it was better to have lost her before you got married, I know it doesn’t make you feel better and the pain of loosing her isn’t just going to go away, but you need to stand up and be strong. Start hanging out with other friends and get back out there. I wouldn’t recommend getting back into a relationship so bad because you are still hurting, but go out there and start dating, have some fun and in time you will see that things happen for a reason. You may not see that reason now, but I promise that one day you will turn around and remember these words and you will truly see that everything happens for a reason.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • My husband allows me to date other guys…

    The Question:

    My husband allows me to date other guys…?

    My Response:

    Dear Dating While Married;

    No man I know would allow their wife or girlfriend to date other guys, Something is definitely wrong with this picture. Either he is seeing someone behind your back and feels that if you date other men it’s okay for him, he’s gay and in the closet and can’t come out to tell you, or something deeper is hiding deep inside. Do you ask yourself why your husband would want you to date other men? Do you want to date other men? I don’t understand the point of being married if you are going to date other men, you might as well be single and live the single life. I am also not sure if there is a question here? Are you asking if it’s okay that your husband allows you to date other men, because of that is the question that the answer is flat out NO!

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • Just separated, when should I date?

    The Question:

    Recently separated, how long until I start to feel happy again?
    I’ve been separated from my partner of 10 years, we have two children aged 3 and 5. Our relationship has not been working for 2 years now. It was more my decision to separate and due to this my parents are not talking to me. I feel so empty and hate the weekends when he has the kids, I have been warned not to start dating as it’s too soon and will not work out. I just want to know how long I’m gonna feel unhappy for?

    My Response:

    Dear Unhappy;

    It is always going to be hard because of the fact that you have children together, however with that said it has been 2 years since you have been having problems. If you don’t love your husband/partner anymore then you need to sit down with your parents and explain to them how you feel. At the end of the day, you need to live your life, and your parents aren’t always going to be here. They need to understand that if you aren’t happy in your relationship that you are not just going to sit back and stay while you are miserable. I am not sure how long you have actually been separated so I do not know when the appropriate time to start dating should be. There really isn’t a time period that anyone will agree with because of the fact that you have kids. You have to think about them, and you do not want to just bring about any person into their lives. Time will heal, and you won’t always be unhappy, you have to work at being alone, work at getting your life together with out the kids father in your life, repair your relationship with your parents, and when the time is right you will meet someone else. Don’t rush into it, life is short but you don’t need to rush into something you don’t think you are ready for. If you feel that you are ready to date, then go for it, I just wouldn’t bring the next guy around your kids unless it starts to become serious. Good luck.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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