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  • Advice Column: Threesome friend with benefits

    Advice Column: Threesome friend with benefits

    Advice Column: Threesome friend with benefits. Image found on google.com/images

    Advice Column: Threesome friend with benefits

    My friend with benefits and my girl friend and I had a threesome and now I’m so jealous I’m crying my eyes out. Please any advice?
    So me and Hank (Fake Name) are really good friends and we hook up when we’re bored. Today we went out and I brought my friend Stacey (Fake Name) along with us because I wanted her to meet him. Hank and I  started hooking up and I’m like oh look Stacey feels left out lets let her join! He said okay.  So we did and Hank and Stacey were having sex and I was so f’en [sic] jealous but I played it off and pretended I was tired. Stacey came up to me afterwards and apologized and I was like whatever its cool you know. So now I don’t know what to do. Hank and I are just friends with benefits but everyone knows we kind of like each other but I’m so jealous I cried! Even Hank asked me whats wrong because I was obviously annoyed and just quiet afterwards. Has anyone ever been in a situation like this? What now? Help….

    (Edited)

    ~Friend with Benefits

    My Response:

    Dear Friends with Benefits;

    It is my opinion that if you care about someone, never do a threesome, there is always someone in that equation that gets hurt. What is done is done, if your friend knows you like this guy just make sure you don’t have any more threesomes with her and your guy. If you really like this guy and you think he has feelings for you, then you need to talk to him. If you don’t talk to him then chances are he will just stay comfortable in this “friends with benefits” routine you guys have going on. Friends with benefits doesn’t work once someone starts having feelings for the other person. You need to tell him how you feel and go from there. If he doesn’t feel the same way then you have to stop sleeping with him. Sleeping with him is only going to make your feelings stronger for him and you are only going to get hurt. Remember communication is key in any relationship If he’s really your friend then he should be honest with you on how he feels.
    Good luck.

    xo
    kristin nicole

    I found my question on Answers.Yahoo.com (2011)

  • Advice Column: Virgin vs friends with benefits

     

    Advice Column: My friend is a virgin but wants to have sex. Image found on flickr.com
    Advice Column: My friend is a virgin but wants to have sex. Image found on flickr.com

    Advice Column: Virgin vs friends with benefits… My friend is a virgin but wants to have sex with me. Like… friends with benefits. What should I do?

    One of my friends is coming over to my place soon and she’s wanting to have sex (amongst hanging out and so on.)
    I was okay with this and passingly asked how many guys she’s slept with. She replied that other than oral/hands she’s a virgin. 
    Now, I’ve never slept with a virgin before. I know you have to treat her gently as if you were doing brain surgery on the President. 
    I know what to do in order for it to be less painful, but how do I make it an awesome experience for her? I mean you never forget your first time, so I want her to remember it in a positive (insert HIV joke here) manner. She and I aren’t looking for a relationship. Just buddies who have sex every now and then. How can I make it more special without sounding like I’m trying to be romantic after we agreed no romance? I appreciate the help.

    My Response: 

    There is a very fine line that you are playing with in taking a girls virginity. She may say she doesn’t want anything now, but she has never been intimate with someone, so she doesn’t really know what feelings comes with that. I honestly wouldn’t do it. I wouldn’t ruin your friendship on just wanting to have a friend with benefits, especially if she is a virgin. She should want it to be special with someone she really loves and not just to get it over with. It’s nice of you to want to make it special for her, but the best thing you can probably do for her, is let her down gently and tell her to find someone she really loves to have sex with for the first time.

    xo

    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Yahoo.com

  • Advice Column: He deleted me from social media

     

    Advice Column: He deleted me from social media. Photo from flickr.com
    Advice Column: He deleted me from social media. Photo from flickr.com

    Advice Column: He deleted me from social media, should I try contacting him?

    Basically I didn’t reply to a few of this guys texts and calls so he blocked and deleted me. I am quiet and I realized I didn’t really like him. What shall I do? He has blocked me, so it seems if I try contacting him I will look pathetic, what should I do?

    My Response:

    If you realized that you didn’t really like him, then it really shouldn’t bother you that he blocked you or deleted you from any social media sites. If you wanted to just stay friends with him and it bothers you that much, then try contacting him and apologize for your actions. Explain to him you were confused and that you are sorry how you handled things, but that you would like to stay friends. Good luck.

    xo

    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Yahoo.com 

  • Little Black Box

    Little black box

    When you left I put you in a box
    wrapped you up and left you in the back of my head
    Every now and then you pop up in my mind
    leave me alone
    it just isn’t our time

    You left me so sudden
    it all just went away
    I didn’t have time to cry for you
    so I walked away.

    Everyone leaves one day
    but it just wasn’t your time
    that day in the hospital
    a part of me died.
    Every time someone left a part of me left too
    it’s a wonder I’m still here
    standing here
    writing this to you.

    With tears held back
    I shiver in fear
    because I don’t know who I’ll lose next
    and drown out my tears

    The world is so big
    yet oh so small
    why can’t you just leave when you leave
    why do you linger in my dreams?

    Letting go of pain
    is the hardest thing I’ve had to do
    Living in this world of mine
    I do what I have to do

    Today is another day
    Today I continue to walk
    Today I live my life
    with you in that little black box.

    © ~written by: kristin nicole – March 16, 2011

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • Did you ever think of me?!?

    Did You Ever Think Of ME?

    Did you ever stop and think of me
    Or did you just pretend I never existed?
    Closed that door
    made a lie about how you never loved me anymore
    Left me standing there with my heart on my sleeve
    wondering what I did wrong
    Wondering how I can fix something that didn’t exist.

    I wrote you a letter
    you never wrote back
    later i found out you held it in your sack.
    Why didn’t you say anything to me
    why did you hide who you were
    don’t you know i would have loved you anyway

    Standing there all alone
    I cried
    Wondering why you couldn’t love me
    And with tears in my eyes I pulled out that paper and pen
    started to write all the things you didn’t want to feel
    But I told you the truth
    and the truth always hurts
    look in the mirror and see who you are
    stop hiding
    I’m right here.

    No words can express the pain you caused me
    I think that’s when I started shutting people out
    I started to hide behind a wall
    because behind the wall no one can see
    all the pain you truly caused me.

    I pulled out that paper and pen
    started to write all the things you didn’t want to hear
    But I told you the truth
    and the truth always hurts
    look in the mirror and see who you are
    stop hiding
    I’m right here.

    Now it’s too late
    you’re already gone
    Why couldn’t you see the truth
    that no matter who you were
    I would always love you.
    Why couldn’t you stop hiding?
    I was right here…

    © written by: kristin nicole – February 19, 2010 – Friday

    ~ This was written about someone that used to be in my life. They passed away without ever being able to talk things out. Life is too short, when you feel something let the person you love know because you never know when they’ll be gone. If I haven’t said it enough, I love you!~

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • Are you stupid, blind or just naive?

    Are you stupid, blind or just naive,
    Can’t you see what you are doing
    is going to change everything?

    This isn’t a game,
    There’s people involved
    You can’t pretend it didn’t happen
    You can’t turn back…

    In the midst of light
    I see you
    when I look at you
    I thought I knew you
    Now I look at you
    and I see a stranger
    A person who lies
    A person who schemes
    A person in which today I see
    but tomorrow I flee

    When the world seemed to crumble down
    you shut us out
    When you shed tears of sadness
    You cried alone
    When your heart falls apart
    no one will be around
    because in every moment of sadness you
    pushed the people you loved away.

    Today I open my eyes
    and I SEE that nothing is ever really meant to be

    But with every hope inside
    I come to realize
    that illusions of the heart
    make you blind

    It is not that you are stupid
    blind or naive,
    its that you are a child who just can’t see…

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    © ~Written By: kristin nicole – April 6, 2011 (Wednesday)~

  • Inspiration

    This week…

    So this week I didn’t have many Advice columns, I was inspired to write from the heart, write about life and questions that we sometimes have. I have come across a few people in my life, friends that have come and gone, boyfriends, and family and I know so many people who have the same questions. Sometimes we think we are alone in what we feel, we feel like no one can ever understand us. In some cases no one will know 100% of what you feel because everyone goes through life differently and everyone reacts differently to situations, but just because you go through it differently doesn’t mean another person can’t understand what you are going through.

    Life is a road we all must take, and although we don’t know where it is going, we drive on it anyway, hoping it leads us to that happy ending in the sky….

    Inspiration:

    In life I have met people who have inspired me to become a better person, inspired me to fight for what I want and inspired me that no matter what you may think about yourself or what others may think of you, in the end you will find your way….
    Life has brought a lot of negative things but it’s also brought a lot of positive, loving things. If we dwell on the negative that has happened to us then we will never be able to truly move forward, we will never be able to truly feel the happiness that is out there waiting for us. I can’t say I haven’t held grudges or that I’m perfect, and I am not saying it’s easy to forgive someone that has hurt you, but if we can’t change the past, we can’t change what happened to us then we need to learn how to move on from it. We need to learn that the past stays in the past and our future has so many more possibilities filled with love and happiness. I have to believe that there is more out there for me, just like I know there is more out there for you (the person reading this). Each day I get closer to my dreams coming true.

    Today I am inspired to become a better person
    Today I am inspired to make my dreams come true
    Today I am inspired to believe in the unbelievable
    Today I am inspired to Love
    Today I am inspired to take in the cool air and imagine the possibilities
    Today I am just inspired…..

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    © kristin nicole

  • Tomorrow’s not Promised

    There comes a time in life when you have to realize this is it… when everything around you changes and you feel like you have changed as well. This is called “growing up”.

    In a life full of questions, in a life full of fun, there isn’t a moment that passes that I wonder is this the one?

    Is this the one time that I’ll make this mistake
    Is this the one time I’ll cry
    Is this the one time I’ll laugh
    Or is this all a lesson of which I’ve passed?

    Time is an essence
    a tick of the clock
    when you look around you
    nothing has stopped.

    Every     day passes
    another day gone
    another day older
    another day closer.

    Live your life to the fullest
    and have no regrets
    because tomorrow’s not promised
    but today…
    today I live
    today I grow
    today i tell you i love you
    Tomorrow, I just don’t know…

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    © written by: kristin nicole 2009

  • Sometimes we need to Struggle to get to where we are…

    Sometimes in life we have to go through the struggles in order to get to where we want to be.

    Do you believe in signs? I do, I believe that signs are the Universe or God showing us or trying to tell us when something just isn’t right, and I think that sometimes we just try to deny the things we don’t want our hearts to feel, but in the end we have to open our eyes and accept what the truth really is.

    I get questions from people almost every day and I wonder sometimes how people can do the things they do, to those they say they love. In life we hope for love and happiness, we hope that one day we will find that one person to love and love us back in return. We hope that when we say it will be forever, that forever won’t be an illusion of what we wanted our life to be but forever until we pass. Today we see couples who are famous get married and last less then a month, and we see couples in the famous world who have been married for years suddenly end things. Is marriage so easy to just get out of, to ignore our vows and leave what we know to find something new and better?

    I once believed that forever, meant forever, and then I opened my eyes and realized that forever didn’t exist, but that forever was an illusion of what I thought my life could be, and I closed my eyes in my pretty world and I tried to make something that was never mine work, and when I opened my eyes one day and saw that my world had fallen, I realized that I was still me, and I was bigger and better and I knew that someone and something out there would come and open a new door, find my way into a world that I was supposed to be in, and leave the world I once knew behind. As I struggled and found my way I have learned that life is never easy. Life has obstacles and lessons that we sometimes never understand and we keep moving forward and we keep faith that one day it will be our turn to shine.

    Sometimes I am still finding my way, and sometimes I look at everything that has happened to me and the people that I help and I know where life is supposed to lead me. I just haven’t gotten there yet.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    ~Random Thoughts~

  • In the end we all question life…

    Random Thoughts:

    In the end we all question life…

    We question what we could have done differently, we question life and the meaning, we question if we are truly happy with the choices we made in life. In the end we have to live with the choices we made in life whether or not we like them, because life is a journey none of us expect, a journey that takes you through the high mountains, the beaches, the sunsets, the storms and the unknowns.

    Life in general is scary, we are born into a world we do not know of, a world we can not control, and when you look back at the decisions we have made we sit and wonder if they were the right ones or the wrong ones.

    We learn that we cannot turn back time and no matter how much we hope to change the past or the future all we can do is walk straight into it and hope that what we are walking into, what will make us happy will be what we have worked so hard to get and we hope that all the tears and all the pains in life weren’t for nothing, and we hope that the scars caused by them will diminish and the walls built will crumble down and in a split second of wondering ‘how did I get here’ you stop and think about all the things in life that got you here, the people who tried so hard to steer you in the right direction, the hard choices you had to make in leaving or staying, and the wonder if life were different “where would I be”?

    I look back at my life and I wish I had made some different choices, but I do not regret life, I do not regret the road I chose because we cannot turn back time, we cannot regret the things we chose and the things we will choose, but we can guide ourselves and open our minds to the unknown, open our minds to things we did not think possible. We can open our hearts and minds to the wisdom the people around us convey, and we can listen and truly think about the decisions we will make. Decisions that can change your entire life in a single moment, decisions that can change your whole way of living and thinking and feeling. Open your eyes to the unknown, don’t be naive or blind or childish about the decisions you need to make in life. Life is short, and life is confusing and when the world seems to leave us alone in a single room with no room to turn to, you have to know that at the end of that room, there is always a door. A door filled with possibilities, a door filled with love and encouragement, a door filled with people that care for you, but if you choose to stay in that room, if you choose to close yourself off and believe that the world you are living in right now is real, this fairytale of illusions you have built for yourself, if you choose to believe only this, then you will choose a path that you will have to own up to for the rest of your life.

    In the end we all question life… but it’s up to you to be happy with the outcome and answers you make in life.

    xo,
    kristin nicole