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  • Advice Column: My friend is Bisexual, what should I say to her?

    Advice Column: My friend is bisexual. Image found on flickr.com
    Advice Column: My friend is bisexual. Image found on flickr.com

    The Question:

    My friend is Bisexual, what should I say to her?

    My friend told me and a load of other friends that she was bisexual over bbm (Basically a bc) [sic]. I’m going to see her at school tomorrow and she’s probably going to want to talk about it, but I have no idea how to respond. 

    I’ve only ever been in 2 relationships and I get pretty awkward when people talk about stuff like that, what could I say to her when she mentions it?

    My Response:

    Dear Friend;

    If she’s a good friend of yours, don’t worry about it too much. She probably just wanted to be honest with her friends and a little support is probably all she’s looking for. It can’t be easy to come out to your friends, so just try to be there for her. To be honest with you, there really isn’t much to say, if you accept her the way she is, just let her know that you respect and support her no matter who she likes. She may be confused and just wants support from her friends, the best thing you can do is be there for her. Support her and listen to her, don’t stress about what to say or do. Just be there for her.

    xo,

    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Yahoo.com

  • Are you stupid, blind or just naive?

    Are you stupid, blind or just naive,
    Can’t you see what you are doing
    is going to change everything?

    This isn’t a game,
    There’s people involved
    You can’t pretend it didn’t happen
    You can’t turn back…

    In the midst of light
    I see you
    when I look at you
    I thought I knew you
    Now I look at you
    and I see a stranger
    A person who lies
    A person who schemes
    A person in which today I see
    but tomorrow I flee

    When the world seemed to crumble down
    you shut us out
    When you shed tears of sadness
    You cried alone
    When your heart falls apart
    no one will be around
    because in every moment of sadness you
    pushed the people you loved away.

    Today I open my eyes
    and I SEE that nothing is ever really meant to be

    But with every hope inside
    I come to realize
    that illusions of the heart
    make you blind

    It is not that you are stupid
    blind or naive,
    its that you are a child who just can’t see…

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    © ~Written By: kristin nicole – April 6, 2011 (Wednesday)~

  • Is my mother a lesbian?

    The Question:

    Well the other night, I came home from school and I saw my mom with a girl. She was pretty, and then they were on a bed together. My mom was shocked and told me to get out of the room, then the next morning, the girl that was with my mom left, and i saw my mom kiss her. Ii don’t know what to do. Please help…

    My response:

    Dear confused;

    I can’t say for sure if your mother is a lesbian, but this is something very personal and something you need to sit down with your mom and talk about. How old are you? Perhaps she feels you can’t take the news, but if she doesn’t want to talk about it with you, she shouldn’t have other women sleeping over and kissing her where you can obviously catch her doing so. It is more then likely that perhaps your mom is going through a change, I’m not sure the situation, like if she just recently divorced your dad, if your dad has been in the picture at all? Questions that could determine what she may be going through. Either way, I say talk to her, confront your mom and see what she says. Good luck!

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Answers.Yahoo.com

  • Sometimes we have hard choices to make…

    Random Thoughts:

    Sometimes we have to make hard choices in life and look for a sign from God, or from the Universe to tell us that what we are doing is okay, that what we are about to do is right, sometimes deep inside we have to trust our feelings and we need to realize that maybe if we need to see a sign, maybe if we need to think about it so much, that maybe that just means it isn’t the right thing to do.

    As we grow older we start to realize the mistakes we have made growing up, the stupid things we used to do when we thought “it won’t happen to me”, and the life lessons that brought us to where we are today. At my age, I can’t say that I have been through it all, because I haven’t and I know that there is so much worse in the world, but at my age I also know that I have been through much more than most. I can’t sit here and cry over the things that have happened and I can’t pretend that they never did (even though some things I wish I could turn back time on), it is what it is, and it has truly made me into the person I am today.

    When you think your world is crumbling down, think about the people out there that have it worse then you, and remember that behind every shut door there is another one waiting to be open.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • Pregnant at 16 how do I tell my parents?

    The Question:

    I found out a day ago that I’m preggers. I’m almost 17 and I’m scared. I have no idea how to tell my parents or what to do. HELP!?

    My Response:

    Dear Pregnant Teen;

    Be honest with your parents, lying only makes things worse, and the sooner you figure this out the sooner your relationship with your parents will grow. This is not going to be easy and your parents are going to be upset, and they have every right to be upset, you are 16 and pregnant and this is not going to be easy. You truly have to think about what you are going to do and if you believe or will consider abortion. I do not believe in abortion 100% but under certain circumstances it is necessary. You are only a child and you are going to be raising a child. A child not only involves your attention, it takes a lot of money, formula, diapers, doctor visits, insurance for your child and before that even happens you have to think about your doctor visits and how much that is going to cost. Is the father around, and is he even going to stick around? You may have to do this on your own without his help. If he is around it is not guaranteed that he will stick around after the baby is here. Waking up at all hours of the night and taking care of a child is not a game. Really think about what you want to do and go from there. Be honest with your parents, I am sure that they will help you with whatever you decide, but don’t think for one second they are going to be happy about this. You are their baby and now you are having a baby, and you have to not only think about this child’s health and well being but yours as well as your education and what you are going to be able to do to support this baby. It is a lot to take in and it isn’t easy, but these are the things you should have thought about before getting pregnant. Be honest with your parents is all the advice I can give on how to tell them, there really is no easy way…

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Answers.Yahoo.com