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  • My hubby has self-esteem issues…

    The Question:

    My hubby has self-esteem issues………what can I do!??!?
    Me & my hubby have been married since 07/2005……he has gained some weight recently & I have noticed that he wears his shirt 2 bed…….wont go shirtless & won’t take the shirt off during sex. He is constantly telling me he is “fat” & if he grosses me out!! Uuhh of course not!! In the contrary I still get turned on!! I’m constantly telling him how hot he is & hot much he turns me on but it doesn’t seem 2 work……..(sigh) what else can I do?? Eeeekkk I don’t want him 2 B feeling this way…

    My Response:

    Dear Wifey;

    I tell couples all the time, communicate, communicate and Communicate. Sit down with your husband and tell him that you have noticed that he has been feeling a bit cautious about the way he looks. Tell him again how much you still find him attractive and if he’s feeling insecure with his weight then try working out with him and try cooking healthier, try making him feel better about himself and just support him. Tell him what you said in your post…. Tell him how attractive he is to you and how you do not want him feeling this way, tell him how much you love him. A little encouragement goes a long way.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • Wife has gained weight, how do I tell her?

    The Question:

    How do you let your wife know that she gained a few pounds, without her getting upset? I bought a box of Special K cereal and low fat milk.
    I even bought a new digital bathroom scale, I haven’t shown that to her yet…. What would be the best way to tell her that she is getting chubby?

    My Response:

    Dear Special K;

    I think going around it and just starting to eat healthy with her is a good way to do it. Telling her she got a “little chubby” will probably hurt her feelings and start an argument. Why don’t you tell her that you feel that the two of you should start eating healthier and working out together, perhaps if you motivate her and get on a diet with her then she will start loosing a few pounds. Make it sound like you are the one who wants to loose the weight but you want her to participate with you. Never and I say NEVER, tell a women she’s “getting chubby”. Unless the women admits you should still just encourage her and remind her that she is still beautiful and that you love her the way she is. Unfortunately women are very sensitive on the subject, so just go about it the way you have been doing, and start eating healthy together and working out together, this way you too get in shape with your wife.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • My wife laughs at me because I am fat…

    The Question:

    I get very emotional, I am 5’6 285lbs and when we are around friends my wife makes jokes. I do eat a lot but her making fun of me does not help. She actually made me cry and I don’t cry…What should I do?

    My Response:

    Dear Emotional;

    Sit down and talk to your wife, communication is key. If you don’t tell her how you feel, she may never realize that when making jokes about your weight in front of other people really bothers you. If you are unhappy about your weight then join a gym membership or jog around your neighborhood for some cardio exercise. Don’t ever let another person put you down about your weight, not even your wife, if you don’t like it, stick up for yourself and do something about Realizing that you are eating a lot is a good start, start eating healthier snacks and make a change.

    xo
    kristin nicole

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  • Is my husband ashamed of me?

    The Question:

    Is my husband ashamed of me? I love my husband very much and we have been together 3 years now. I have put on 10 lbs since we have been together I feel so fat. I used to weigh 110 lbs now I weigh 120 at 5’9 I feel like a cow and he never takes me out anymore. He also doesn’t answer my phone calls or texts anymore when he’s away. I want to lose the weight so badly to make him happy, I would do anything even starve myself. What can I do to make him love me again?

    My Response:

    Dear 10 pounds;

    If your husband is not giving you the attention you need I don’t think it is just because you gained 10 pounds, and if he is ignoring you and not taking you out because of it, then that is not true love. You need to be happy with yourself, don’t ever starve yourself or “do anything” just because the person you love is not there for you. Loose the weight if you want, but do it for you (to make yourself feel better). I can’t imagine that you are “fat” if you are 5’9 at 120lbs. I think the problem here goes deeper than just a few pounds gained, sit down and talk to your husband and get down to the core of what is really going on with him. If he’s that superficial and it really is that you gained 10 pounds then you need to work on that with each other. Start eating better and go to the gym, but this shouldn’t be a reason for the way he is acting with you. Again COMMUNICATION is KEY! Talk to your husband and tell him how you have been feeling, if he wants to work on your marriage he will, and if he doesn’t, then there might be some hard decisions you may have to make. LOVE YOURSELF first, and no matter what any man says or does, remember you are perfect the way you are, don’t ever put yourself down just because a man is acting like a dumb a@# and don’t ever starve yourself to loose the weight, just eat right and exercise, it’s only 10 pounds.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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