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  • My husbands is upset over another woman

    The Question:

    My husband liked a girl before our wedding. She also liked him back but they could not pursue a relationship. He didn’t tell her that he was engaged at that time and now that he is married.

    She recently told him she is getting engaged and he was upset afterwards and started to ignore her when she tried to talk to him afterwards purposely. He then had tears in his eyes why? He stares at her sometimes when she is around, what does this mean?

    My Response:

    Dear Wife;

    You need to sit down with your husband and talk to him. If he married you, I hope it was because you loved each other. As for this other woman I am assuming he had some sort of feelings for her. Maybe they had a relationship before that you don’t know about, because I do not see why he would get teary eyed for a woman that he never dated. If they never dated and never were together then why is he so upset? I would definitely sit down and communicate with your husband to see what is going on. Communication is key to any relationship and you aren’t going to get answers just sitting back and assuming what is actually bothering him.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • Believe, Hope, Faith…

    Random Thoughts:

    Isn’t it strange that sometimes life seems like it is finally coming together, but then out of no where small things start popping up. Is this the Universes way of telling you to stay on track, to stay on your toes because nothing is perfect? Is this the Universes way of telling you things won’t always go your way?

    Just once I wish life would be easy, just once I wish life would go my way. How many of you feel that way? I know that others are struggling way more than I am, hurting more, fighting more for what they want, and as I sit here writing this I know that my life is pretty good right now, so what’s a few bumps in the road to get to where you want to be? Right???

    Sometimes I wish I could close my eyes for just a few minutes and drift away to where nothing hurts, nothing is stressful or saddened by thoughts but everything is rainbows and unicorns… okay maybe not unicorns but you get my idea…. In life we can’t just close our eyes and hope for things to get better, we can’t just then open them and everything will be alright. I learned that lesson a long time ago, when my world was crashing down and I didn’t understand why some people had to leave our lives and why others had to stay. I learned that lesson when I had no choice but to open my eyes and see that sometimes what you think you want isn’t what you really wanted after all. Sometimes we close our eyes so tight we forget to open them and realize the good we have, we forget to realize that although we struggle we have to hold on to the hope. Hope is what keeps us going, hope and faith that one day we will get to where we want to go….

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • Do I leave my current Boyfriend for my Ex?

    Dear Kristin Nicole;

    I got to know about you from your blog. I also saw how you have been helping everyone with all the questions. I am going through a huge confusion in my life. I come from an indian family where girls and guys get married by 23-24. I am 23. I have been dating this guy for 7 months now and I do really like him. the problem is his parents don’t even know that he has a friend let alone a girlfriend. I knew him for 4 years before we started dating, until now we used to live very close. ( same floor ) but now he has gone back to his parents ( 5 hours flight ) since we both finished at the University. He doesn’t even talk to me when his parents are around. He hardly texts 1-2 times a day and only if I message him first. From what I have known, his dad is really strict, he can never go against his dad, and he claims that he loves me but I am not at the age ( according to my culture ) where I can just fool around and not be serious. My family already knows about him, and I can even talk to him for hours.

    Now I just got in touch with my ex. he is a family friend and just through family functions I see him now and then. The reason we broke up was something very silly, he just told me he still loves me and cares about me which I know is true because he has shown all that ever since we broke up ( 2 years ago ). He has tried really hard to get me back. I love his parents ( I know them for a really long time ) his sister is amazing and even he is a really decent guy. My parents love him too.

    Lately I have been feeling a bit tilted towards my ex. I am NOT cheating on my bf. I just dont understand why my bf can’t tell his parents about me. If he doesn’t want to introduce me as a gf , why cant he introduce me as a friend either? Am I overreacting? I have been feeling that my bf takes me for granted, he uses me to cook food for him, to be there for his work ( we were in the same program, I helped him with a lot of things ), to ‘agree’ in everything he has to say ( he is very stubborn), he would never listen to what I have to say and will always end up making everyone agree with him even though he knows he is wrong. One more thing I have noticed about my bf is he always TELLS me things but never DOES anything.

    Should I just patch things up with my ex just because I feel safer with him and insecure with my bf ?

    Please help me…

    My Response:

    Dear Insecure;

    You first should handle your relationship with your boyfriend, you need to figure out if this is the type of relationship you want to be in. I understand that in your families their are rules on relationships, however the fact that you were able to be honest with your family and he cannot be honest with his is something you need to look at. I am sure it was just as hard for you to come clean to your parents about your relationship as it would for him. If he truly loved you and wanted to be with you he would MAN up and talk to his family about you. If his family still disapproved at least you can then decide what to do from there. If he has tried to make you look wrong in front of others is that something that you want to deal with all the time?

    Do you want to be in a relationship where he is hiding you from his family? Where you can’t even talk or text because he is scared what his parents will say? If you are in a relationship then it should be open to the family no matter what the circumstances should be. Love should never be hidden from the truth.

    As for your ex-boyfriend, I do not think you should get back with him just because he comforts you and is there for you. If you feel that you may still be in love with your ex-boyfriend then it is something you should take into consideration, but if you feel you are just being comforted and safe with him, this is not a reason to be with someone. Those are good reasons, however it shouldn’t be the only reason. You first should figure out what you want to do with your current boyfriend and if you feel it is time to let go and move on from him then you can figure out the next step and see if what you really want is to be with your ex. You do not need to choose only between the two either, their are many men out there that I am sure would love to date you. I know in your culture you usually get married by 24 but you are still very young, and I am sure your family will support whatever decision you decide.

    Remember to always follow your heart, and do what makes you happy, not what others say you should do. Respect yourself and know that your current boyfriend right now is not respecting you and treating you the way you should be treated. Talk to him and tell him how you feel and then decide where to go from there.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    Thank you for visiting my website and I hope that I could help. Good luck and I look forward to your comments in the future.

  • I had sex with my wife’s father…

    The Question:

    I had sex with my wife’s father. What should I do?

    Okay so my wife and I were visiting her parents for Easter. We all had a lot to drink and by about 2 AM my wife and her mother had passed out on the couch. I talked to my father-in-law for another half an hour before suddenly he reached over and kissed me on the cheek. I returned it except this time I kissed him on the lips, and before I knew it we were downstairs in the guest bedroom having sex.

    It was one of the strangest and yet most amazing experiences of my life. It was without question the best sex I ever had, but obviously it could prove to be problematic. My wife knew I was bisexual before we got married, but I think to her this would be crossing the line. I haven’t heard from her father since and my wife clearly knows absolutely nothing (we’ve since had sex twice).

    I feel somewhat guilty, but I know if the opportunity presented itself again I would do it again. What the hell should I do? Should I tell my wife and ask her if I can carry on with her father in a purely sexual way—-not in a relationship? I love my wife and don’t want to lose her. I’m so confused. Please help. By the way we’ve been married 4 years and have no children.

    My Response:

    Dear Bisexual;

    First – OMG – Is this for real?
    Second – Of course your wife would be upset, not only are you betraying her trust by cheating on her, but with her father no less. This is not only wrong on all levels on your part but on her fathers part as well. If you decide to come clean do not expect her to be okay with you having a sexual relationship with her father and don’t expect her to want to stay with you at the same time. What person in their right minds would think this is okay? I think a person who is bisexual is still trying to find what they really want in the world, and I think that you are still confused. You need to decide what you want to do but under no circumstances should you do this again, not only are you hurting your wife but your mother in law who probably is in denial that her husband is gay. Own up to what you have done, do not let your wife live a lie with you and end up having children only to hurt them in the end. You have only been married for 4 years and although this will be hard on your wife it is a good thing that you do not have children yet, it will be a lot easier to get out of the marriage. If you truly loved your wife you wouldn’t have cheated on her, especially with her own father. Talk to your wife about how you have been feeling and if you decide to tell her the truth, good luck, because this is one case where you are going to need it.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Answers.Yahoo.com

  • Am I overreacting?

    The Question:

    What do you think? Or am I overreacting?
    So there is guy in my girlfriends class that obviously has a thing for her cause he always stare or like glances at her. One day i pick her up from class and he didn’t know who i was and was walking toward her and when he saw me he immediately walked the opposite direction ( on to the issue ). So this guy got partnered up with my girlfriend, and we both have a feeling he has a thing for her and me and her have discussed and agreed on it. So they obviously have to meet and do they’re project, and tells be that shes going to invite him into her dorm to do homework, when there’s a study area right below her and next to her dorms. So i get angry about it cause she for one knows he likes her and all, and wonder why of all the places invite him to your DORM!. But yeah i get annoyed cause sometimes shes makes a big deal about him looking and even looked up his myspace to “see if hes a douche or that type of person who would try and hit on someones girlfriend “. I thought this was odd, and the fact that she thought to invite him to her dorm to study irked me a lot. Wouldn’t you feel the same way?

    My Response:

    Dear Overreacting;

    You need to talk to your girlfriend and tell her how you feel, if she respects how you feel there is no reason why she can’t meet up with this guy at the study center. I agree with you here, there is no reason to meet up to study in her dorm room when there is a study center in the same building. I think your girlfriend is playing with fire, and although she may act like she doesn’t like the fact that this guy likes her, then why even bother looking up his myspace, facebook or any account for that matter. On that note; you have to trust your girlfriend and even though this guy might have the hots for your girlfriend you have to trust that nothing will happen. I don’t like putting temptation in places they don’t need to be, so ask your girlfriend to meet him in the study center and not in her dorm room if this will make you feel better. Communication is key, and if she is mature she will understand and have no problem with meeting him in the study center instead.
    Good Luck

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    I found this question on April 28, 2011

  • Should I cheat on my wife if she cheated?

    The Question:

    Should I cheat on my wife if she cheated?

    My Response:

    Dear Two Wrongs;

    Two wrongs don’t make a Right. If your wife cheated on you then there are other options you need weigh in. First have you talked about it? Communication is key to any relationship, and this is not something that should be ignored. Two if you have talked about it and you have decided to forgive her then cheating on her is not a way of forgiving, nor will it make things any better. If you feel you can’t forgive her or trust her again then the only option I can think of is Divorce. Find yourself a divorce attorney and get out of a marriage you aren’t happy in. You deserve a wife that won’t cheat on you, and you need to either fix the marriage or get out.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • KARMIN – Latest Stars to hit the web

    I don’t normally write about music or up and coming STARS, but I was watching the Ellen Show the other day (YES I heart Ellen), and she showed a preview of this girl called Amy and her boyfriend Nick. Her song caught Ellen DeGeneres attention, and what do you know… it also caught millions of viewers attention. Okay I can’t for a fact say millions of viewers but I know it caught my attention.

    Here is the clip from Amy and Nick:

    A little bit about Amy & Nick:

    Karmin which is what they call themselves is has follows: KAR-MIN (car-men) – noun, in Latin meaning ‘song’, with altered spelling to hint ‘karma’ – I would love to know how they came up with this name or where they found it (sounds very interesting).

    Nick and Amy met at Berklee College of Music in Boston (makes sense has to why they would go there), they wrote songs together for school projects and later took the name “Karmin” to put an identity to their distinct writing style. Nick and Amy aren’t just co-worker, collaborators, music geniuses, they are also dating and set to get married. (At least that was the buzz around the Ellen Show). If you want to learn more about Amy and Nick… or should I say KARMIN – You can read their Bio and you can also check out the clip from the Ellen Show.

    What do you think about this? Do you think Amy will get picked up on a record deal with Nick or by herself? Although I find Nick talented, lets be real here, Amy has most of the talent (sorry Nick – I loved you in the video’s and like I said you are very talented, but Amy is phenomenal). Love your work Amy and I hope to see more of it soon.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    If you have Twitter you can follow them @karminmusic

    April 21, 2011

  • Everything Happens for a Reason.

    Everything happens for a Reason….

    Sometimes we don’t understand that the things that are happening to us in the moment are reasons we will one day hope to understand. Sometimes we fight for something that just isn’t meant to be. I used to believe in fairy-tales and happily ever afters but after a while you stop believing. You start to wonder if any of it is even true, and if it’s even possible.

    I pictured my life a certain way and when god had other plans I realized that I can’t control fate or life, I can only try to control how I feel about it and I can only control what I will do next to make it better.

    In life I have come to learn a lot at my age. I have gone through more than most and yet so little compared to others. You can never compare what you have gone through in life to what someone else has gone through, because although you may think that what you have gone through wasn’t easy, and I’m sure it wasn’t, what the other person may have gone through could have been worse or just simply another situation that was just as hard. I couldn’t imagine going through the things that I know some have gone through, and I don’t judge but I look at them with honor, and grace in knowing how strong some people can be, how strong some can overcome the odds and become good people.

    There are still things that happen that I have no explanation for, and sometimes I just want to help those who won’t let me in. I feel bad and I feel like I’m pushed against a wall with no where to turn. If that person knew how much I loved them and cared for them they would know that at any time they could come to me, and at any time I would always be there for them. Although I was just like this person I knew when it was time to need someone. I always had my mom that I could count on. Sometimes we need to put our pride away and open up to the people around us that love us and care for us, because in the end they are the ones that will always be there for us.

    Everything happens for a reason, and although I don’t have the answers, one day you we’ll see and understand why it happened. I used to believe in fairy-tales and happily ever afters and although I gave up on that, I still have hope inside that one day I will have my fairy-tale, and one day I will have my happily ever after, because everything happens for a reason.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • My husband cheated several times and I keep taking him back!!?

    The Question:

    I found out he said he wanted to leave me for her and did, he said it was because I was neglecting him. I travel around a lot for work plus my family never really approved of him so it put a strain on our marriage. After a month he came crawling back,begged for my forgiveness, I took him back. Then I went away for 2 weeks to visit my mother and when I returned I found out that he again cheated ion me with the same girl. Said it was an accident and that it was for sure over this time. I forgave him because of my previous guilt of how I use to leave him for my work all the time
    ( I support the both of us and give him everything he wants) Then months later I read some of his old emails and find out he cheated with several different women. But this time there’s no excuse cause it was just a year into our marriage when he did it and at the time I wasn’t traveling. Is his love BS? Am I being stupid? I no longer work at the same place and my husband now currently supports us, great change after 5 years. Is he really trying to change?

    My Response:

    Dear Waiting for Change;

    I am not saying that someone can never change, but the past has proven otherwise. He has cheated on you more then once, he left you for the ‘other women’ and the first mistake you did was taking him back. You used the excuse of your traveling for work has an okay for him to do what he did to you. Truth is, it wasn’t okay, it doesn’t matter that you traveled, a marriage is through better and worse and if he did not like that you were traveling he should have been honest about it, that is definitely not an excuse to cheat. Now you find out he actually cheated on you before you started traveling for work and with several women, so now do you have an excuse has to why or why it’s okay? Open your eyes, and stop being pushed around, you deserve a man who is honest with you, who will love you and be faithful. No person deserves to be cheated on, if he wants to sleep around then he should have stayed single. Don’t settle for comfort or the fact that now he is supporting you, if you want a real marriage and real relationship without lies I think it’s time you move on. You deserve better, and you need to stand up for yourself and respect yourself to know that what he has done IS NOT RIGHT! Stop waiting for him to change and change your own life.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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  • Sometimes we have hard choices to make…

    Random Thoughts:

    Sometimes we have to make hard choices in life and look for a sign from God, or from the Universe to tell us that what we are doing is okay, that what we are about to do is right, sometimes deep inside we have to trust our feelings and we need to realize that maybe if we need to see a sign, maybe if we need to think about it so much, that maybe that just means it isn’t the right thing to do.

    As we grow older we start to realize the mistakes we have made growing up, the stupid things we used to do when we thought “it won’t happen to me”, and the life lessons that brought us to where we are today. At my age, I can’t say that I have been through it all, because I haven’t and I know that there is so much worse in the world, but at my age I also know that I have been through much more than most. I can’t sit here and cry over the things that have happened and I can’t pretend that they never did (even though some things I wish I could turn back time on), it is what it is, and it has truly made me into the person I am today.

    When you think your world is crumbling down, think about the people out there that have it worse then you, and remember that behind every shut door there is another one waiting to be open.

    xo,
    kristin nicole