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  • Advice Column: Son-In-Law pleasing…

    The Question: Son-In-Law pleasing…

    I saw my son in law pleasing himself, he didn’t see me but I did stare and wonder how can my daughter be unhappy with this guy when it is so big. I looked at him for a while because he was so large. My daughter should be grateful she has a big man. Why isn’t she happy?

    My Response:

    Let me start off with EWE! You actually stared for a while, while he was pleasing himself? That is just wrong on all levels considering this is your daughters husband. Lets start off with that is wrong, and you should maybe knock before entering somewhere, or simply tell your son in law that he needs to be careful when and where he does his deeds. As for you daughter, being grateful that her man is so big and why isn’t she happy??? REALLY??? Perhaps it has nothing to do with the size of his package and more to do with how he treats your daughter. Maybe you should be more concerned about why she isn’t happy than assuming it’s because her husband has a nice package. The package only makes a women happy in one department, after that it takes more than just the package to keep you happy (as a woman I would think that you would understand this). It also just isn’t about the size of the package, the package could be large but if the man doesn’t know how to use it right, then what’s the use?!?

    I am not sure if you live with your daughter but maybe her husband and her need some privacy. Try being there for your daughter instead of wondering why she isn’t happy just because her man is well endowed.

    Good luck

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Answers.Yahoo.com (2010)

  • Advice Column: I’m cheating on my fiancé

    Advice Column: Cheating on my fiancé. Image found on flickr.com
    Advice Column: Cheating on my fiance. Image found on flickr.com

    Advice Column: I’m cheating on my fiancé

    I’m getting married in a weeks time, but I’m sleeping with someone else. I love my fiancé, he is the love of my life but I can’t let the other guy go and I don’t know what to do. Help.

    (Edited)

    My Response: 

    Dear Cheater;

    If you were truly in love and ready to get married you wouldn’t be cheating on your fiancé. You say he is the “love of your life”, but if this was true, then why are you sleeping with another man? You want your cake and you want to eat it too. Unfortunately that’s not how life works. How would you feel if your fiancé was sleeping with another woman? You have two choices to make, either leave this guy you are sleeping with or let your fiancé know the truth, let him move on, and stay with your lover.

    You can’t have the best of both worlds, eventually the truth will come out and it will all blow up in your face. Good luck.

    xo,

    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Yahoo.com

  • Advice Column: I’m not ready

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    Advice Column: I’m not ready

    I’m 14 and my boyfriend is 18, and he really wants to have sex with me but I want to wait until I’m older before I lose my virginity. The other day he said he will break up with me if I don’t let him have sex with me and I really love him and don’t want to break up. What should I do?

    My Response:

    Dear 14 year old;

    First and foremost you are really young to be thinking about having sex. Sex isn’t something that you just give away to anyone. If he really loves you, he would wait. You have a big age difference and sometimes that can be a challenge, but if you aren’t ready to lose your virginity do not allow him or anyone else give you an ultimatum. Go with your gut instinct and wait. If he breaks up with you because you won’t have sex with him then he doesn’t really love you. Like I said before, if he loves you he will wait, and if he doesn’t then you deserve someone better. It may hurt to lose him but it’s better to move on from someone who won’t respect your wishes than to give in and regret it later.

    xo

    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Yahoo.com

  • Advice Column: Abusive Military Husband

    The Question: Abusive Military Husband 

    I am currently living with my husband overseas in Bumholder, Germany. I have been thinking about it for a while now and decided I need a divorce. My husband is emotionally abusive, he’s thrown used protection [sic]. (not sure if I can say the other word) at my face before, when he left for his last training he only gave me 40 dollars to last a month and a half and I have a child as well and no transportation. He tells me he hates me every day yet he refuses to let me move back home. I feel the only option I have left is to divorce him. I am also worried about him finding out.

    I don’t feel safe living with him and I’ll feel even less safe being here while we are going through a divorce; he has a tendency to sharpen his knifes after we have fought and threaten me, and that scares me to death. I need all the possible information on how to go about getting a divorce. Who should I try to contact. My husband leaves again for training next week and will be gone another month and a half. At this time I’ll most likely have no money again and it’s a short time frame to get this all done. I was just trying to deal with it and hope that something would change but it hasn’t. I don’t even like him being around our daughter who is 7 months old. The only time she’s around him is when I shower, and it makes me so nervous because he is always screaming at her because she won’t stop crying. But it’s just because he has nothing to do with her and she isn’t really familiar with him. I have no idea who I’m supposed to go to or call. Also, if I tell the Military that I feel unsafe living with him while going through a divorce can they help and place me somewhere else until it is finished? I just need all the help I can get, please!

    (Edited)

    My Response:

    Dear Abused wife;

    If you are from the United States go to the embassy, I am sure that there is something you can do about getting back to your family while you get a divorce. You can also go to his platoon, being abusive is against any military law. He can get arrested and discharged from the military. I am not sure how far you want to go, this may anger him more, but you need to stand up and fight for yourself and for your daughter it is not safe nor is it healthy to stay in this relationship any longer. What he’s doing is wrong, and you staying with him is not going to help your daughter have a normal and good life. Giving you $40 to last a month is ridiculous. Have you thought about getting a job, the military helps with day care and things like that if you need to get a job to save money. The best bet is to go to his commanding officer (boss) and tell him what is going on, explain that you want to go back to the United States but that he refuses to let you go. If you have family, call them, have them send you money and get your passports and get out of there. Figure out the divorce later, but you need to find yourself a lawyer as soon as possible so that you can file for divorce. No one should have to take abuse (emotional or physical) find a way out and do it as soon as you can. If you have any friends you can trust, maybe you can stay with them for a while, until you can figure out how to get back to the United States. (Again I am assuming you are from the U.S). If you are not from the U.S; then get back to where ever you are from, call a friend or family. If you don’t have friends or family then you will have no other choice but to go to his boss and tell him what is going on. Good luck.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Answers.Yahoo.com (2010)

  • Advice Column: Lost sex drive

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    The Question: Lost Sex Drive

    We have been dating for a little over 6 months, he’s 19, I’m 17. We both have pretty low-stress life styles, at the moment he is doing a simple course with little study or work content, so I figure it isn’t stress. [sic]. The thing is, we still do sexual things, almost every night, but never actual sex, which bothers me because by “we do sexual things” I mean, I give him a bl0w job, and we go to sleep. The funniest part is that when we first started dating he told me he didn’t like blow jobs and had never ‘blown his load’ during. [sic]. My guess is my ‘skills’ are a drastic improvement upon his other girlfriends, because after a little bit of convincing, he let me give it a go and now it’s all he wants! Don’t get me wrong, I’m glad he enjoys it and I have no problem doing it, but a girls gotta [sic] get some every now and again. (at least, I do…) Not to mention it’s making me feel very unattractive, despite all his reassurances. Any similar experiences or advice?

    (Edited)

    My Response:

    Dear not getting any;

    He’s young, he shouldn’t have little sex drive at all, he should be wanting to have sex with you 247. If he’s only wanting you to go down south then you need to stop, and tell him that you want him to go down south on you for a change; or simply state what you want and tell him you want him. If this doesn’t work then I would start wondering if there is something else behind the whole (him not wanting sex and only bl**jobs) He’s also just 19 and we think about things way more then men do, so maybe he just thinks you enjoy going down on him and you aren’t looking for any other type of satisfaction. COMMUNICATION is key in any relationship especially when it comes to sex. Speak up, tell him what you want and that you don’t go down on him for his pleasure only, you need some attention too. Good luck….

    xo
    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Answers.Yahoo.com 2010

  • Advice Column: Sleeping with a married man

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    The Question: 

    I was sleeping with a married man.  I told his wife, and at first she was super nice with me. Then a few weeks later she turned on me. I forwarded her all the emails, text messages and she was so thankful. Then out of the blue started snapping at me. She now blocked me from everything. Her and her husband deserve each other. I should have never gotten involved in this craziness.

    My Response:

    Dear Other Woman;

    Do not let this bother you so much. You did what you think was right, and you thought she would be grateful that you told her the truth about her husband. You have to understand that maybe she’s grateful in a way for you telling her that her husband was cheating, but at the end of the day when she started reading all the texts, and emails and realizing that her husband betrayed her with another women, and that YOU ARE THE OTHER WOMAN. No matter what, at the end of the day you are that one person that made her world fall apart. I am not sure why you decided to tell his wife about your affair, did you know he was married when you started having a relationship with this man? If you knew he was married, then it was wrong on your part on all levels, (and telling his wife about the two of you was more likely a way to get back at him for him not leaving his wife); if you did not know he was married and it was just as much as a shock to you as it was to his wife that he was cheating, then you did what you thought was right and now you just have to move on. Don’t let her being upset at you get you upset, it’s natural for her to be angry at you, even if you told her the truth about her lying, cheating husband. Move on, and find yourself a real man, one that isn’t married.

    xo
    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Yahoo.com 2010

  • Advice Column: He’s been spying on me


    The Question: He’s been spying on me, checking computer, e-mails, what do I do?

    My e-mail began acting up recently. After about a week, I decided to change my password and create a new account all together. When I changed my password, I found that mail forwarding had been activated. An easy file transfer was set up (so that all of my files/e-mails were sent to a different computer) as well as e-mail to iPhone. I live with my boyfriend. He’s a computer guy and has an iPhone. It had to be him.

    I’m not mad at all, I have NOTHING to hide. But I’m confused. We’re very close, affectionate, spend the majority of our time together. I feel we’re very open with one another and there’s no reason to be suspicious. Plus, he’s the least jealous guy I know. I have no idea why he’d be snooping around. The other night, we got in an argument. Afterward, I came downstairs, was typing on Yahoo Answers for advice. Perhaps maybe he thought I was e-mailing someone, I don’t know.

    I’ve change the password on the account and I am now using a new e-mail. As I said before, I don’t care if he looked because I have no secrets. I’m just concerned he did this behind my back and I am curious as to what he was looking for. I’ve let it go for a few days now. Should I bring it up? If so, how do I confront him?

    My response:

    Dear boyfriend intrusion;

    You definitely need to confront your boyfriend. Trust is one of the biggest issues people have in their relationship and without it, there is nothing to go by. Be honest with your boyfriend about what you found in your email. Remember that even though all fingers are pointing towards your boyfriend he may deny that he had anything to do with that, and you have to make a decision whether to trust him or not and move on from it. If he does admit it was him, explain to him that you have nothing to hide as he can see, but that it hurt that he had to go behind your back to do something like this, when he should have trusted you from the beginning. If he does admit this, you are going to have to trust he won’t do it again and move on from this. This is definitely a violation of trust and of your personal stuff. No person should have to go through the other persons stuff, it’s a violation of privacy. If the other person is curious about something then they should just ask. Good luck and keep me updated.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Yahoo.com (2010)

  • Advice Column: My girlfriend has been abused

    The Question: My girlfriend has been abused, and has fidelity issues how do I help her with them?

    My girlfriend and I have been involved since the beginning of February, so around, 6 weeks now. I realized very early on that there was a potential love and we have now come to acknowledge it (she first) [sic]. She is very bright, beautiful, an excellent lover, and open to new ideas and adventures. Unfortunately, she just got out of an abusive relationship in November where she was violently abused on half a dozen occasions and was cheated on four times. She sought revenge on him and cheated on him three times. After their breakup she whored around with 8 more guys in 2.5 months and used alcohol as an escape. She kept much of the nitty-gritty from me until she knew I wasn’t going to bail the moment she told me. She has agreed to start counseling at the end of the month.What should I do?

    (Edited)

    My response:

    Dear Boyfriend in a rut;

    You are definitely dating someone with a lot of baggage. Although it was good that she was honest with you, you are going to have to be patient and understanding and you are going to have to trust that she won’t go cheating on you due to her insecurities. There really isn’t much you can do but be there for her. Show her that you aren’t one of her ex’s that is going to go cheat on her and you aren’t going to be abusive to her either. You are already helping her by showing her you aren’t that kind of person and by supporting her in her decision to go to counseling. This will be very good for her. Your girlfriend going to counseling is already the first step into her getting better, her realizing that what she was doing to get over her hurt wasn’t the right route to go. You are already helping her by just being there for her and supporting her. Keep it up, it seems to me she has found a good boyfriend. Good luck, keep me updated.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    Please feel free to leave any comments.

    You can find this on Yahoo.com (2010)

  • Advice Column: Confiding in husbands friend

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    The Question: Confiding in husbands friend, is it okay to confide in him?

    I feel like I can talk to him better than my husband. When I try to talk to my hubby [sic] he just doesn’t listen. His friend listens to me and tells me his opinion on things, and no he is not trying to get me in his bed. This guy is not like that. What is your opinions on this subject?

    My Response:

    Dear confidant;

    It’s a tough call, the guy is your husbands friend so it may be a little awkward for your husband if he knows that you are going to his friend for advice. You really should be able to talk to your husband, he should be your confidant (your best friend, go to guy) and if he can’t sit down and talk to you, then you need to make sure to get his attention and tell him how you feel. Explain to him that you want to talk to him and you feel like he doesn’t listen. If he still doesn’t listen then it’s his own fault for pushing you towards his friend, I just hope what you are saying is true and that this friend isn’t “that type of guy”, unfortunately as a women we believe that, and we truly think these guys are only our friends, but unfortunately guys think way differently than we do and sometimes emotions may change, so be careful. I also hope that you truly just see it as a friendship and nothing more. Remember you are married, if you really love your husband talk to him, and try to make him understand what you are feeling. Good Luck.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Yahoo.com (2010)

  • Advice Column: My girlfriend is married

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    The Question:

    I am a 24 year old guy and I have girlfriend who is 31 years old, she is married, but we love each other and we are in a relationship. We have been in a relationship for the past 3 years, we share everything (sex) but I’m afraid of what will happen if she leaves far away (to a different state). She is calling me to have sex all the time, should I go or not? When I think about my love for her, I feel that I have to and want to go but when I think about her family I feel that I should stop. What do I do?

    (Edited)

    My Response:

    Dear Used;

    First of all, when you started a relationship with this women you knew she was married, so not only is she a cheater but you aren’t any better than she is knowing she is married and has a family. 3 YEARS!?! Wow, I can’t believe a relationship like this would go on for so long, do you realize she is only using you for the sex? This isn’t a relationship at all, you are only a booty call. She calls, you go, you sleep together, you leave and she stays the rest of her day with her family. She isn’t going to leave her husband, and even if she did, what makes you think the two of you would work out and she wouldn’t cheat on you later down the road. Is this the type of relationship you want? You are 24 years old, you are still young, and you have your whole life ahead of you, don’t throw it away on someone you think you love. Have respect for yourself and for her family who she is hurting and move on. Change your number and tell her that you don’t want anything to do with her anymore. Find a real women, a women that wouldn’t cheat on her family with another man, a women who would respect and love you and be with only you. Move on buddy….she’s just not that into you!

    xo,
    kristin nicole

    I found this question on Yahoo.com (2010)