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  • Advice Column: How do I piss my wife off?

    Advice Column: How do I piss my wife off? Image found on flickr.com
    Advice Column: How do I piss my wife off? Image found on flickr.com

    The Question: How do I piss my wife off?

    I get so sick of her smiling and being happy all of the time. I want her to feel angry like I do all of the time. I want her to carry a harsh burden like I always do. Please leave suggestions?

    My Response:

    Dear Unhappy Husband;

    You definitely have a serious inner issue that needs to be resolved. People who are miserable always want others to feel the way they do. This is not the answer, nor is it going to make you feel any better about yourself. If you aren’t happy, then get out of the relationship. Don’t bring her down with you. I’m not sure how old you are, but this is a very childish way of thinking. If you cared or loved your wife, you would want her to be happy, you wouldn’t want her to feel whatever sadness you are carrying around. If you are feeling burdened and unhappy, you should talk to a professional psychologist. You need help and you need to find the reasons behind your thoughts.

    xo

    kristin nicole

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  • Advice Column: I feel alone

     

    Advice Column: Feeling alone. Image found on Flickr.com
    Advice Column: I feel alone. Image found on Flickr.com

    The Question:

    Should I see a counselor, I feel alone.

    I’m a 21 year old full time student and worker. I have a respectable job and I am planning to go to law school next year when I finish my undergraduate degree. I haven’t lived at home since I was 9, but instead have lived with a number of random people. I was pretty much in foster care, although I wasn’t officially in the system. When I was younger I dealt with not having parents or family a lot better. I think it was because I felt like I would some day, that someone would love me like their daughter or something. Now that I’m 21, it seems harder for me to deal with my feelings. Most people think I’m really happy, because I can be really energetic at times. I laugh and smile a lot, and honestly I do feel happy sometimes, but overall I’m sad. Every time I go to bed I am sad. I cry a lot by myself because I’ve always wanted a mom or dad to really love me. I’ve made connections with adults and have had mentors, but it seems I never can really be loved like most people love their kids. Nobody comes to my award stuff at school, who knows if I’ll have anyone at my graduation, and I probably wont have anyone to walk me down the isle at my wedding one day. I try so hard, I really do. I try to love people and get involved with other people’s life, but I always feel like an intruder/outsider. I get jealous of my friends who have awesome moms and dads. Not because they have them, but because I wish I did too. I even thought about moving out of state to get away. Advice?

    (Edited)

    My Response:

    Dear feeling sad;

    It’s normal to feel the way you do. You come from a situation that not many can crawl out of. You have to count your blessings in other ways. I can’t imagine how hard it is to not have a mother and father in your life, but you have to think of the positive that may have come from it. There are some people who have their parents, but they are abusive mentally and physically. Your situation could have been a lot worse. I know it’s not easy no matter which way you look at it, but something that always keeps me going is to remember ‘it can always be worse.’ Seems to me like you have most of your life put together, you are going into law school, you and you work, keep up the positivity in your life. I definitely don’t see anything wrong with talking to a counselor, sometimes talking to someone helps. Moving out of state is not going to make the sadness in you go away, you have to learn to accept your situation and make the best of it. Have you ever thought about finding family from your biological parents? This is something to think about, maybe they have been looking for you or they don’t know you exist. I don’t know your situation completely so it’s hard for me to give more of my advice. But always remember that you are stronger than what you think, and that it’s okay to feel a little jealous of your friends and their families sometimes. But remember where and what you have become and be  proud of that.

    xo,

    kristin nicole

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  • Life doesn’t have a Guide Book…

    Random Thoughts:

    Pain is something we all feel at one point in our lives. When you hurt inside it’s a pain that is unexplainable, a pain that blinds us from what is really in front of us. Sometimes when we hurt we eventually move forward, we eventually see that the pain was for a reason, other times the pain turns into anger. Life is a journey that we are all on together, a journey we have to figure out on our own. We cross paths with people in our lives that change who we are, we either grow from them or we stay stuck in the paths we are crossing. I believe that we meet people in our lives for a reason, we might not see it in the moment, but they are there for one reason or another.

    Sometimes we feel lost, and confused and we aren’t quiet sure where to go from there. I knew someone who was lost, this person forgot who they were, they weren’t happy with themselves or their life and they pushed everyone they knew away. Closing one door leading them into a depression I couldn’t get them out of. When someone tells you that they don’t love you anymore, you try to come up with reasons why they loved you to begin with, when a person stops loving themselves the only thing you can do is let them find their own way back. How do you help someone who doesn’t want to be helped? There is no guide book in life to tell us how to act, what to do, where to go, there is no help guide to tell us how to love or what to do when we feel sad or upset. We live this life for a reason and we try to figure it out along the way.

    At times I still don’t know what I want to be when I grow up. I have a vision of what I want to do, but fear holds me back at times, wondering if what I really want will ever truly happen, if I’m good enough for what seems to be the impossible. I try to think positive and I love to feel like anything is possible, but there is always that little negative voice inside who stops us from making our dreams come true. Why do people always second guess themselves, why do we feel like there are some things in life that just can’t happen?

    My friend gave me this quote from Steve Jobs which I find to be refreshing, I have it up on my board at work so that I can see it and remind myself of the possibilities life has to bring.

    “You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of our life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking until you find it. Don’t settle. ~Steve Jobs (2005 Stanford Commencement Speech).

    xo,
    kristin nicole

  • My husbands is upset over another woman

    The Question:

    My husband liked a girl before our wedding. She also liked him back but they could not pursue a relationship. He didn’t tell her that he was engaged at that time and now that he is married.

    She recently told him she is getting engaged and he was upset afterwards and started to ignore her when she tried to talk to him afterwards purposely. He then had tears in his eyes why? He stares at her sometimes when she is around, what does this mean?

    My Response:

    Dear Wife;

    You need to sit down with your husband and talk to him. If he married you, I hope it was because you loved each other. As for this other woman I am assuming he had some sort of feelings for her. Maybe they had a relationship before that you don’t know about, because I do not see why he would get teary eyed for a woman that he never dated. If they never dated and never were together then why is he so upset? I would definitely sit down and communicate with your husband to see what is going on. Communication is key to any relationship and you aren’t going to get answers just sitting back and assuming what is actually bothering him.

    xo,
    kristin nicole

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