I have been with my boyfriend for five years, and recently cheated on him with my best friend. If you are wondering, my best friend is a girl. I have always loved the way women looked, but never tried being with a woman, and my best friend has always told me how beautiful I am and has always been there for me. I feel guilty sleeping with her, but at the same time I don’t know if to leave my boyfriend or tell my best friend that we can’t hook up anymore. Please help.
~Confused
My Response:
Dear Confused,
If you are feeling confused maybe it’s best to stop hooking up with your boyfriend and best friend and try to evaluate what it is you are feeling. On top of cheating with your boyfriend, you cheated with a woman. Have you always had feelings for women? If you have then maybe you have been trying to lie to yourself about the way you truly feel. First find out what it is you are truly searching for and go from there. It isn’t good to lie to your boyfriend but figure things out before you hurt more people. Good luck
I love my Brother – Picture found on Instagram – edited by: kristin nicole
So recently I have been thinking that I really want to save a dance for my brother at the wedding. My brother has always been there for me, at some points even though I was so mad at him, he really thought he was my father, so it only feels right to dance with him on my special day. My brother is my best friend and I couldn’t imagine my life without him. So I have two songs that I really like and I wanted to see what you all think. Let’s have a vote on which song you like best.
I hope the days come easy and the moments pass slow
And each road leads you where you want to go
And if you’re faced with the choice and you have to choose I hope you choose the one that means the most to you
And if one door opens to another door closed I hope you keep on walkin’ ‘til you find the window If it’s cold outside, show the world the warmth of your smile
But more than anything, more than anything
My wish for you Is that this life becomes all that you want it to
Your dreams stay big, your worries stay small
You never need to carry more than you can hold
And while you’re out there gettin’ where you’re gettin’ to
I hope you know somebody loves you
And wants the same things too Yeah, this is my wish
I hope you never look back but you never forget
All the ones who love you and the place you left
I hope you always forgive and you never regret
And you help somebody every chance you get
Oh, you’d find God’s grace in every mistake
And always give more than you take
But more than anything, yeah more than anything
My wish for you Is that this life becomes all that you want it to
Your dreams stay big, your worries stay small
You never need to carry more than you can hold
And while you’re out there gettin’ where you’re gettin’ to I hope you know somebody loves you And wants the same things too Yeah, this is my wish, yeah yeah
My wish for you Is that this life becomes all that you want it to
Your dreams stay big, your worries stay small
You never need to carry more than you can hold
And while you’re out there gettin’ where you’re gettin’ to I hope you know somebody loves you And wants the same things too Yeah, this is my wish (My wish for you)
This is my wish (My wish for you)
I hope you know somebody loves you (My wish for you)
May all your dreams stay big (My wish for you)
The second song is called Brothers by Greg Bates
Lyrics
They knew all about you from the day that you were born
Your highchair, weight in ounces, the face that we adored
But when it came to naming you Mom and Dad weren’t sure
But that’s what brothers are for
I can still remember your first day of school
And I know I didn’t say it then, but I was worried too
And I know that Momma woulda walked you through that door
But that’s what brothers are for
Yeah I know we’ve had our share of fights
And I’ve come close to killin’ you a few times
But I woulda gone down in flames just to see you soar
Cuz that’s what brothers are for
I thank God that you could be here today
Cuz standin’ next to you means so much to me
As she walks down the aisle, I know I’m not alone
Cuz right beside me is the best man I’ve ever known
And I know we’ve had our share of fights
And I’ve come close to killing you a few times
But I woulda gone down in flames just to see you soar
Yeah, I wanna see you soar
Cuz that’s what brothers are for
Lately I’ve been feeling like I’m alone. My family does try to reach out but I just shut down. I have all these mixed feelings about where my life is going. I don’t have a job and I just feel as if my world is closing in. I don’t have motivation to do anything, even though I want to grow out of this rut. How can I do this? Help!
~Alone
My Response:
Dear Alone;
You aren’t alone, you have to first realize that your family is there. You already know because you said it, but you need to accept it and let them in. Family is there through hard times, and if they are trying to be there for you then appreciate that and let them help you. There are some people who don’t have families, and there are some people whose families don’t offer help. Be grateful for your family and let them guide you to where you want to go. If you are feeling depressed maybe talking to a professional will help you get out of that rut, and get motivated into getting your life back on track. Make a list of the goals you want to take. The new year is approaching, make these goals a New Years resolution. Get out there and search for a job, go back to school if you aren’t in school and get back on track. You are the only person who can get you motivated. Start looking at what makes you happy and go for it.
I have heard this song so many times, yet never really truly listened to the lyrics, which for me is rare since I love lyrics and writing. After listening and reading the lyrics I now love this song even more. Any Fefe Dobson fans out there may think I’m nuts, I know this is an old song, but I still love it. 😉
LYRICS:
Ayo ladadayo
Ayo ladadayo ladeeda
Sometimes I give in to sadness
Sometimes I don’t
Doo doo doo doo
At times I’m part of the madness
Sometimes I won’t
Give in to you
You see in a way
I have been drifting down a river
To nowhere
And you’ve given me nothing
But if you’re ready to be my everything
If you’re ready to see it through this time
And if you’re ready for love then
This I will bring
But I’m not gonna wait for you forever this time
Ladeeda ayo
ladadayo ladeeda
At times I feel myself smiling
At times I’m not
Doo doo doo doo
Yeah yay
What’s with the guilt that you styling baby
Talk don’t look good on you
You see in a way
I have been looking for a reason to go there
And you’re leading me nowhere
And if you’re ready to be my everything
If you’re ready to see it through this time
And if you’re ready for love then
This I will bring
But I’m not gonna wait for you forever this time
Ladeeda ayo
ladadayo ladeeda
Are you waiting for a special occasion
To give me your heart
Cause I need a little confirmation
To make a real start
Don’t wait till it’s too late
Are you ready to show me?
Are you ready to love me?
You see in a way
I have been drifting down a river
To nowhere
And you’re giving me nothing
And if you’re ready to be my everything
If you’re ready to see it through this time
And if you’re ready for love then
This I will bring
But I’m not gonna wait for you forever this time
And if you’re ready to be
Ready to be my everything
And if you’re ready to see it through this time
If you’re ready for love then baby
This I will bring
But I’m not gonna wait forever this time
ladayo ladadayo ladeeda
Happy Cinco de Mayo 2012 – Photo by: Google.com/images
Cinco de Mayo is coming up, it’s a traditional holiday celebrated by Mexico. This holiday is primarily celebrated in Puebla, where this holiday is called ‘El Dia de la Batalla de Puebla’ Translation: The Day of the Battle of Puebla. It celebrates there freedom from the first years of the American Civil War and the victory over French Forces at the Battle of Puebla on May 5, 1862.
This year I decided to share 3 Drink recipes I found that are my favorites:
1. Margarita – 7 parts tequila, 4 parts triple sec and 3 parts lime juice, served on the rocks; a salted rim is optional. No strawberries, no mangoes, no blenders, and most importantly, no Cuervo Gold. Use a real tequila, one that’s marked 100% de agave, but don’t splurge; you don’t need $50-a-fifth sipping tequila for this drink. You can find the recipe Here
2. Paloma – A shot of tequila and three shots of Squirt, Jarritos Toronja or another grapefruit soda, served on the rocks. Try a good tequila here too, I promise you won’t regret it.
3. El Diablo – 1 1/2 ounce(s) Tequila (Again try a good tequila)
1 ounce of cranberry juice, Fresh squeezed lime juice, 1/2 ounce of simple syrup and a splash of ginger ale. Add a wedged lime if you like.
Hope you have a great Cinco de Mayo!
Enjoy and be responsible. 😉
Cinco de Mayo Margarita on the Rocks – Photo by: Google.com/images
My boyfriend cheated on me and I don’t know if to stay with him or leave him. He say’s he is sorry and it will never happen again, but I don’t know if to trust him anymore.
My Response:
Dear cheated on;
You shouldn’t stay in a relationship where the man does not respect you. A person who cheats on another person does not respect them or care enough to stop what they are doing before doing it. At the end of the day you have to ask yourself, if he is worth sticking around with, or if there is someone else out there who won’t hurt you the way he just did? Be strong, and remember that there is always better, and no person should have to be in a relationship where there is no trust. Trust is key to any relationship.
Broken in Two – Photo by: google.com/images
I had someone write to me once about their relationship, how it ended and how it began, and she wanted me to write a poem that described her relationship. SO…. Here it is, let me know what you think….
Broken in Two
I loved you with words unsaid
I loved you until you cheated in my bed
I loved you for all the wrong reasons
I loved you for all the right feelings
I loved you for what you didn’t say
for all the lies you made
You looked at me with truth
I didn’t see the real you
You were a liar and a fake
you cheated on me and that was your biggest mistake
I tried to forgive you
I tried to ignore the truth
I was blinded by an image that wasn’t me and you
you took my heart
you played it like a string on a guitar
you said you loved me
but the truth was you only loved yourself
you lied to yourself
made everything bigger than it was
pretended to be happy
lost without a doubt
one day the light turned on
and you knew you couldn’t pretend anymore
you fought it but you had to say it out loud
our relationship was a blur
as if it was never true
i wish it weren’t because it would have been easier to forget you.
When i moved on
you wanted me back
it was too late
you have to face the facts,
you fucked up
and there’s no turning back.
now i see you and you pretend to be happy
but i know you
you never changed
you can put on an act
pretend to be happy
pretend nothing in the world will break you
but we both know the truth
you’re broken in two
the person i once knew
and the new you
you can put on a smile
you can move forward in life
but deep down inside you’ll never be you
you will always be the broken man i once knew.
You thought you stopped loving me?
You thought you didn’t care?
How could you be so selfish to just sit back and stare?
I looked into your eyes as my eyes filled up with tears,
You stood there standing watching me drown out my fears.
You pretended to be happy.
You put on an act,
You thought I couldn’t see the truth,
You had to face the facts.
You put up a wall; you pushed me to the floor
I did all I could do
I even gave you my door.
Then one day I woke up and realized this is it.
I didn’t want to be with you, my fate was sealed with out your kiss.
CHORUS:
Now you’re the one crying inside
You’re the one that can’t let go
You’re the one wishing for me to come back
Wishing once again I’d be at your door.
You pushed me way to far.
I walked right out the door.
I told you I loved you but I couldn’t take the pain no more.
I asked you if you loved me.
I gave you one last chance.
All you did was look at me, you failed my last request.
With silence in your eyes, you stood in disbelief.
You didn’t say a single word, you didn’t share a peep.
If you would have listened closely,
You can hear my every word,
You can hear the tears fall down
And my heart break in a million burns.
You didn’t think I’d leave you,
You thought I’d always be around
You thought you had me.
You stood your ground.
Well you thought wrong…
You let me walk away
You lost me that day.
Now you’re left with nothing to say.
I recently launched my new site; AGirlsKitchen.com – I love everything about food and I have always loved to cook. I am not a ‘Real’ Chef, but I’m the Chef in my house. If you love food as much as I do, you are constantly looking at pictures and recipes to do. Of course, it’s actually rare if I have the time or energy to make most of these recipes, and sometimes it’s hard to find ingredients that go with these dishes, but I look for them anyway and when I have time I make that recipe.
I haven’t been able to post as much as I would like but I am in the progress of trying to come up with a plan to at least post one recipe a week. If you have recipes you would like to share, I can post them as a guest recipe. So don’t be shy and email me or comment and I will get in contact with you.
Recently I have been searching different diets like the low carb diet, which I have been on and off on for over a year, you just cut out all white carbs during the week, bread, rice, pasta, potatoes, and you implement good carbs (vegetables), legumes and meat, chicken or fish. I thought it would be harder to do but I actually enjoy eating healthier and I can feel my body having more energy than usual. Our Saturday’s are our cheat days, so we indulge and I cook all the good stuff that I am usually looking at during the week. Recently we have been looking into the Paleo life style, although it does interest me, I do not think on a personal level that I would like to implement this 100% into my diet. I love food too much, and I know not everything is healthy for you, but you only live once, and as long as you moderate what you eat and you don’t go junk food crazy, then it doesn’t hurt to indulge a little in life. When I see food I love, my mouth waters, my taste buds start jumping and I can’t help but feel like a kid in a candy store. If I go to a restaurant and love their dish, I try to think of ways to recreate it at home, and I don’t mean that I get a little excited, I mean it’s Christmas all over again. Sure I’m not a Chef, but I do think I can cook pretty damn good, and if I can make a dish where my mouth says YUM and my heart skips a beat, then I’m going all in….
I have a few websites I would like to share with you and you should definitely check them out:
So lately I’ve been slacking on Soapnights, there really is no excuse but I just have been feeling very overwhelmed with work, school and my new house.
Renovating a new house with my boyfriend has taken much more of our time then ever expected. Although we are absolutely loving it and it’s coming out beautiful, it’s a lot of work, time and money.
Happy New Years By the way…..
This year we took a trip for new years to a small town called Blairsville, Georgia. It’s a beautiful little town, and getting away from life for a while helped me relax a bit before starting the new year.
In life we sometimes get so busy we forget to stop and smell the roses ‘so to speak’. I’ve been so busy lately that with a blink of an eye it’s already 2012! When did life start passing me by? I have so much left to do before I turn 30 and this year is going to be my year.
Let’s start off with what I will accomplish before the end of the year:
Bachelors Degree in Psychology by June
Starting Masters in Journalism
Finish Remodeling my house ~ At least in the inside…
And…. A few things I won’t say because I don’t want to jinx them 😉
That’s not such a long list, now is it?
Ever wonder what you will accomplish before your 30? 40? 50? I really don’t, I live in the moment and I try to focus on what is right in front of me at the moment, but getting older I do start to wonder and think about all the things I should have done by now that I’m still working on. So although this year is going to be busy I am going to make it an effort to write more on my site and if you have any questions or concerns you need advice on, I’m only an email away.
As for today. Happy Friday the 13th!!! Let’s start this weekend out with a SMILE~
